why do I hate people that are visually challenging?
So I'm in sixth form and I have a really hard time not expressing my true feelings for individuals. For example, this girl (lets call her Louise) is about 5"1 and sees herself to be "petite" but I see otherwise.
Petite is when you are small and cute, but this Louise girl is built like a box. If I had to put a scale on it, she's about 85kg which I see as absolutely vile. It's nothing ladylike, even my mom agrees with me.
(If you must know I'm 6ft and 59kg, so you can see where I'm coming from)
Getting back to the point, I have lost the will to care for her feelings (as a friend) and will blurt out anything that comes into mind and to anyone. Before you get at me, this THING is constantly eating but wishes to loose weight by going to the gym for an hour every week. There was also an incident where she was eating a whole chocolate cake and then right after pulled out a boiled egg from her pocket and started eating it in front of me.
When I asked her, did you not eat enough?
She coughed out the whole egg onto my face and hair as she burst out laughing (I was not joking).
How can I not feel disgust for these type of people?
There are more encounters, but I can talk about it all day. So I will save you the time of not reading any more. Thanks.
Petite is when you are small and cute, but this Louise girl is built like a box. If I had to put a scale on it, she's about 85kg which I see as absolutely vile. It's nothing ladylike, even my mom agrees with me.
(If you must know I'm 6ft and 59kg, so you can see where I'm coming from)
Getting back to the point, I have lost the will to care for her feelings (as a friend) and will blurt out anything that comes into mind and to anyone. Before you get at me, this THING is constantly eating but wishes to loose weight by going to the gym for an hour every week. There was also an incident where she was eating a whole chocolate cake and then right after pulled out a boiled egg from her pocket and started eating it in front of me.
When I asked her, did you not eat enough?
She coughed out the whole egg onto my face and hair as she burst out laughing (I was not joking).
How can I not feel disgust for these type of people?
There are more encounters, but I can talk about it all day. So I will save you the time of not reading any more. Thanks.
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Reply 1
Two weeks ago you were espousing that “Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.”. So that’s quite a turnaround.
May we live in hope that you have more to offer the world than your opinions of others.
That said I think it's necessary to point out how manipulative a neologism like "visually challenging" is, framing your bullying of someone else's appearance as you somehow being victimised by their appearance, rather than what it really is: you calling them ugly and complaining that you have to look at them.
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So it’s fine to find whatever you find attractive, attractive or not. And to try to attract the people you want. Beyond this it’s generally best not to be judgmental and express negative opinions of others for no useful reason. This tends to reflect badly
Reply 5
You should continue to express your true feelings. That way perspective friends or girlfriends can make an honest assessment of your personality before they make mistake.
Reply 6
Don’t be a complete —. Quite apart from anything else, you call this girl your friend and mock her on the Internet. Take a hard look at yourself.
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by artful_loungerThat said I think it's necessary to point out how manipulative a neologism like "visually challenging" is, framing your bullying of someone else's appearance as you somehow being victimised by their appearance, rather than what it really is: you calling them ugly and complaining that you have to look at them.
How is it bullying when its true? I'm just trying to letting them know how I truly view them. What's wrong with that? Would you not want to know how a person truly sees you with no filters?
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by ZarekSo it’s fine to find whatever you find attractive, attractive or not. And to try to attract the people you want. Beyond this it’s generally best not to be judgmental and express negative opinions of others for no useful reason. This tends to reflect badly
What I say is USEFUL for them. It promotes self improvement.
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by LophocoleaDon’t be a complete —. Quite apart from anything else, you call this girl your friend and mock her on the Internet. Take a hard look at yourself.
I'm not mocking her, I say how I really view her. But, if that's how you see, I say all this stuff to her in real life, not just the internet.
Reply 10
I always welcome people to called me "absolutely vile" IRL. It promotes self improvement.
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by Admit-OneI always welcome people to called me "absolutely vile" IRL. It promotes self improvement.
You don't understand, some people are just so disgusting. I don't understand how they are happy at times when they look so grotesque. Not to sound rude but they always need a reality check from me to let them know that they have nothing to be happy about. Don't get me wrong, I don't call everyone vile. It's just the people I cant stand to look at. Everything I say to them is a sign for them that's it's time for a change and self improve.
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by rhetorical-infamSo I'm in sixth form and I have a really hard time not expressing my true feelings for individuals. For example, this girl (lets call her Louise) is about 5"1 and sees herself to be "petite" but I see otherwise.
Petite is when you are small and cute, but this Louise girl is built like a box. If I had to put a scale on it, she's about 85kg which I see as absolutely vile. It's nothing ladylike, even my mom agrees with me.
(If you must know I'm 6ft and 59kg, so you can see where I'm coming from)
Getting back to the point, I have lost the will to care for her feelings (as a friend) and will blurt out anything that comes into mind and to anyone. Before you get at me, this THING is constantly eating but wishes to loose weight by going to the gym for an hour every week. There was also an incident where she was eating a whole chocolate cake and then right after pulled out a boiled egg from her pocket and started eating it in front of me.
When I asked her, did you not eat enough?
She coughed out the whole egg onto my face and hair as she burst out laughing (I was not joking).
How can I not feel disgust for these type of people?
There are more encounters, but I can talk about it all day. So I will save you the time of not reading any more. Thanks.
Petite is when you are small and cute, but this Louise girl is built like a box. If I had to put a scale on it, she's about 85kg which I see as absolutely vile. It's nothing ladylike, even my mom agrees with me.
(If you must know I'm 6ft and 59kg, so you can see where I'm coming from)
Getting back to the point, I have lost the will to care for her feelings (as a friend) and will blurt out anything that comes into mind and to anyone. Before you get at me, this THING is constantly eating but wishes to loose weight by going to the gym for an hour every week. There was also an incident where she was eating a whole chocolate cake and then right after pulled out a boiled egg from her pocket and started eating it in front of me.
When I asked her, did you not eat enough?
She coughed out the whole egg onto my face and hair as she burst out laughing (I was not joking).
How can I not feel disgust for these type of people?
There are more encounters, but I can talk about it all day. So I will save you the time of not reading any more. Thanks.
you should let louise know how disgusting you think she is so she can give you a heartfelt apology 😀
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by Anonymousyou should let louise know how disgusting you think she is so she can give you a heartfelt apology 😀
I've already told her many times, almost everyday.
Reply 14
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by rhetorical-infamYou don't understand, some people are just so disgusting. I don't understand how they are happy at times when they look so grotesque. Not to sound rude but they always need a reality check from me to let them know that they have nothing to be happy about. Don't get me wrong, I don't call everyone vile. It's just the people I cant stand to look at. Everything I say to them is a sign for them that's it's time for a change and self improve.
No, no. I completely agree with you. If these vile grotesqueries can't accept a little daily constructive feedback, what hope is there for them?
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by Admit-OneNo, no. I completely agree with you. If these vile grotesqueries can't accept a little daily constructive feedback, what hope is there for them?
Every little helps
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by rhetorical-infamEvery little helps
If anything, you aren't doing enough if they refuse to change.
Reply 17
What exactly did you eat and drink yesterday? Or in the last 24 hours?
I bet there's scope for you eat and drink considerably better from a health point of view.
There's the saying "Take the plank out of your own eye before taking the splinter out of your neighbour's eye."
That doesn't apply here. It's more a case of taking the one eighth of a plank out of your own eye before taking the plank out of your neighbour's eye.
You will find that there's an awful lot of self destructiveness and self sabotage that people do in this world.
It makes sense to minimise or mitigate the self sabotage that you do. When it comes to helping others reduce their self destructiveness, you are likely to find that it's like pushing water up hill. And that you're most effective in helping others when they want to change. When their motivation to change exceeds their inertia in continuing bad habits.
I agree with you that Louise is wrecking her body and significantly reducing the quality of her life. And that she's not a role model when it comes to lifestyle.
I can fully understand your negative emotions towards her habits.
There's a whole host of things you could do to have a more positive outlook on her and people like her. With this mainly involving tweaks to your inner world. Things like you having the discipline to focus on positives over negatives. Taking the bad things in life less seriously. Being more focused on the thoughts, feelings, desires, emotions of others over your own. You eating and drinking the sorts of foods and drinks that promote good moods.
I bet there's scope for you eat and drink considerably better from a health point of view.
There's the saying "Take the plank out of your own eye before taking the splinter out of your neighbour's eye."
That doesn't apply here. It's more a case of taking the one eighth of a plank out of your own eye before taking the plank out of your neighbour's eye.
You will find that there's an awful lot of self destructiveness and self sabotage that people do in this world.
It makes sense to minimise or mitigate the self sabotage that you do. When it comes to helping others reduce their self destructiveness, you are likely to find that it's like pushing water up hill. And that you're most effective in helping others when they want to change. When their motivation to change exceeds their inertia in continuing bad habits.
I agree with you that Louise is wrecking her body and significantly reducing the quality of her life. And that she's not a role model when it comes to lifestyle.
I can fully understand your negative emotions towards her habits.
There's a whole host of things you could do to have a more positive outlook on her and people like her. With this mainly involving tweaks to your inner world. Things like you having the discipline to focus on positives over negatives. Taking the bad things in life less seriously. Being more focused on the thoughts, feelings, desires, emotions of others over your own. You eating and drinking the sorts of foods and drinks that promote good moods.
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by rhetorical-infamSo I'm in sixth form and I have a really hard time not expressing my true feelings for individuals. For example, this girl (lets call her Louise) is about 5"1 and sees herself to be "petite" but I see otherwise.
Petite is when you are small and cute, but this Louise girl is built like a box. If I had to put a scale on it, she's about 85kg which I see as absolutely vile. It's nothing ladylike, even my mom agrees with me.
(If you must know I'm 6ft and 59kg, so you can see where I'm coming from)
Getting back to the point, I have lost the will to care for her feelings (as a friend) and will blurt out anything that comes into mind and to anyone. Before you get at me, this THING is constantly eating but wishes to loose weight by going to the gym for an hour every week. There was also an incident where she was eating a whole chocolate cake and then right after pulled out a boiled egg from her pocket and started eating it in front of me.
When I asked her, did you not eat enough?
She coughed out the whole egg onto my face and hair as she burst out laughing (I was not joking).
How can I not feel disgust for these type of people?
There are more encounters, but I can talk about it all day. So I will save you the time of not reading any more. Thanks.
Petite is when you are small and cute, but this Louise girl is built like a box. If I had to put a scale on it, she's about 85kg which I see as absolutely vile. It's nothing ladylike, even my mom agrees with me.
(If you must know I'm 6ft and 59kg, so you can see where I'm coming from)
Getting back to the point, I have lost the will to care for her feelings (as a friend) and will blurt out anything that comes into mind and to anyone. Before you get at me, this THING is constantly eating but wishes to loose weight by going to the gym for an hour every week. There was also an incident where she was eating a whole chocolate cake and then right after pulled out a boiled egg from her pocket and started eating it in front of me.
When I asked her, did you not eat enough?
She coughed out the whole egg onto my face and hair as she burst out laughing (I was not joking).
How can I not feel disgust for these type of people?
There are more encounters, but I can talk about it all day. So I will save you the time of not reading any more. Thanks.
I'm intrigued by your username, particularly the second part. Does it mean that you're the product of an incestuous relationship?
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by ageshallnotI'm intrigued by your username, particularly the second part. Does it mean that you're the product of an incestuous relationship?
The name is randomised
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