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So.. please could I get advice about what to do with someone I like. So it all started when I was asking someone else out and she told me "Sorry but I don't really want to talk to you in that way but I think Evie might want to talk to you if you would want to", she then responded with "oh sorry she has a bf" (they were really close friends at the time so I would imagine that she would have know Evie had a bf. I got reactions from Evies friends after that (this was about last Novemeber), they were like ohh Evie wants to smell your aftershave. So I took my chances and asked Evie out to which she at first said "I don't know" but an hour later I messaged her friend to try and get an answer to which her friend responded with "oh I think shes ok". That same friend later told me that Evie rejected me because she recently broke up with her ex; this was confirmed by another friend at a late point. About a month later, I sent her a Christmas card giving her my number and saying its 100% her choice but if she wants to she can text me, another one of her friend told me that she used to like me before the card. Then we broke up for chrismtas break and through a friend she sent a video saying hey .... making a kiss sound". I left her alone for Jan and then in Feb I was talking to a mate about VDay, he asked me if I had a date, I said no and then I overheard her saying "Really?". Throughout all of this we sometimes found each other holding eye contact. Then in Feb, I overheard her saying to a friend talking about a person (did not hear a name) that she wants to date but she always "blushes", her friend said she should take that person out for coffee, This friend also said that she did not like that person; I know this friend did not like me so I kind of made a connection. Then her friends really started to look at me more and more and more, to which one friend was poking her head around a corner to watch me. Also I overheard one of her friends telling her to tell someone something to which Evie responded with no don't. The eye contact between me and Evie kept increasing to which we were looking at each other for about 3 or 4 seconds. So last Monday, I decided to go up to her friend (the one that was looking around the corner) and asked if I should ask Evie out, she said I should talk to Evie. I did last Monday, and she had no eye contact for the whole time and rushed her friends out with herself and they waited in the corridor right outside the room. I was in shock, then I overheard her saying to this other friend that I asked her out, the friend looked excited, she then mentioned the word "scared" but I didn't really hear to which her friends facial reaction completely changed. I think I overheard Evie asking some other person what they think of me to which the friend responded with "oh he's really weird". If I'm being hoenst, I'm not popular, she is, I hardly have any friends and I mostly hang out by myself even though plenty times I've been told that I'm attractive in the physical sense with a few people telling me I'm an 8/10 in terms of physical appearance. Two days later (last Wednesday), I asked the friend that at the start said she liked me (not the one that Evie had the discussions with or who looked at me around the corner) if I should speak to Evie about what happened to which she responded "Yh, I think you should just forget about it and leave her alone to be honest, No awkwardness, I just don't think she wants anything". Honestly, I don't want to do anything to make her uncomfortable, I'm just confused. Considering I only asked Evie like 5 days ago. What should I do? I really really like her and stuff. What do you think are the chances of anything happening if I leave it and should I talk to her and if so what should I say? Thanks

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

this wall of text was really hard to read
but sounds like ur overthinking. just ask her out, sounds just like petty drama that you should deal with in of your own thoughts, no random strangers online can help

Reply 2

black tea

I think you should leave her alone. She has your number, she will get in touch if she wants to.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

do you think i should smile at her if we make eye contact?

Reply 4

black tea

Original post by Anonymous

do you think i should smile at her if we make eye contact?

if you want to

Reply 5

Zarek

If it’s angsty before anything has begun it’s generally not going to work out. Focus instead on finding someone who is available and enthusiastic

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Original post by Zarek

If it’s angsty before anything has begun it’s generally not going to work out. Focus instead on finding someone who is available and enthusiastic

yeah, maybe. the thing is that when we do have moments of connection (like locking eyes), I really feel something that I did not even feel with my ex of a yr. I think because I'm not popular, a popular person (even if she likes me which I think she does) will hesitate to go out with a unpopular person as they worry they might get teased even though again people tell me that I'm attractive but my personality is really weird or something like that