How do I tell if this quiet/reserved guy is attracted to me?
So I met this guy that writes for my uni’s newspaper when I had to go speak to one of the writers there. I’m part of the student council in my uni and we ask them to cover certain events we have. After I spoke to her, I spoke to him, asking him how he got involved. He said he’s the news editor, telling me in detail how he got involved. I made a joke about how he rose up the ranks exponentially, and he laughed, then going back to his phone. I told him I liked some of his articles, to which he said he likes writing about politics. I noticed he looked me up and down quickly, smiled and bit the middle of his lower lip, with his eyebrows rose up and down. I didn’t mind that he looked me up and down since I found him attractive, and was hoping he did that cause he thought the same.
He then went to fix some wires by his desk. I asked what he studied and what he wanted to do, and he would then to face me and answer, eagerly with a smile. He mentioned philosophy and that he wants to go to law school. However, he didn’t ask me in return. I recognized his surname being from a similar background as mine and asked him, and I waited to see if he would ask me something, and he then asked if I shared his background. I said yes and we connected a bit. I thought he wasn’t interested so we exchanged goodbyes and left. However, I left my umbrella and had to quickly go back for it. When I entered the room, his back straightened without looking up from his phone, and when I walked past his desk, he looked up from his phone
and kept watching me. I tested to see how long he would look and he stared the entire time until I turned around and he looked away quickly.
I came back two weeks later for the same reason, and saw him as well. I was staring when he was on his phone it then I quickly looked away, then he looked up to stare in my direction with a blank face. He kept looking at me like that for a while as I spoke to my guy friend and engaged with him, making him laugh etc. when I made eye contact he didn’t look away for a bit so I thought he zoned out. The last time I looked up was when he looked away casually, going back to his laptop.
He spoke to some guy he worked with and asked about his job outside of school he mentioned. Somehow the convo switched to their secondary schools, and when I heard him mention the one I went to, I said I went there to. He said “oh nice” with a smile. Since it was a specialist school, I asked what he was involved in. He said he went for art, and I told him I went for music. He said “that’s really cool.” I then asked what year he graduated, and he told me in “2020” and I told him I finished in “2019.” He smiled to himself and said, “that means you were here for a while.” It was comforting to hear there was someone that needed some extra time finish.
I laughed and told him not to remind me.
*I made new friends in the paper that kept inviting me back. I always hoped I’d get to talk to the guy but I didn’t see him again. Two months passed, around the week of exams. I was walking on campus and saw him heading the opposite way. I thought he didn’t recognise me, but as I walked by I saw his head turn to look at me. That was the last time I saw him. A couple months past and I'm asking a friend that I made in the office to connect me with him to tell him abt a resource on that aligns with his interest in philosophy.
*Overall,she said he is a quiet guy that doesn't say much but engages when spoken to. I know he's reserved and quiet but idk if he was attracted to me as well and I liked meeting him.
How could I tell if he was attracted to me? He mostly keeps to himself, and my friend was surprised he gave me a look up and down and bit his lip like that, but that was the only obvious sign he gave aside from quickly looking away when I grabbed my umbrella. I couldn’t tell if the lip bite was him flirting or just overall nervousness. But I really want to get to know him more when we are reconnected. He was just so hard to read cause of how reserved he is.
He then went to fix some wires by his desk. I asked what he studied and what he wanted to do, and he would then to face me and answer, eagerly with a smile. He mentioned philosophy and that he wants to go to law school. However, he didn’t ask me in return. I recognized his surname being from a similar background as mine and asked him, and I waited to see if he would ask me something, and he then asked if I shared his background. I said yes and we connected a bit. I thought he wasn’t interested so we exchanged goodbyes and left. However, I left my umbrella and had to quickly go back for it. When I entered the room, his back straightened without looking up from his phone, and when I walked past his desk, he looked up from his phone
and kept watching me. I tested to see how long he would look and he stared the entire time until I turned around and he looked away quickly.
I came back two weeks later for the same reason, and saw him as well. I was staring when he was on his phone it then I quickly looked away, then he looked up to stare in my direction with a blank face. He kept looking at me like that for a while as I spoke to my guy friend and engaged with him, making him laugh etc. when I made eye contact he didn’t look away for a bit so I thought he zoned out. The last time I looked up was when he looked away casually, going back to his laptop.
He spoke to some guy he worked with and asked about his job outside of school he mentioned. Somehow the convo switched to their secondary schools, and when I heard him mention the one I went to, I said I went there to. He said “oh nice” with a smile. Since it was a specialist school, I asked what he was involved in. He said he went for art, and I told him I went for music. He said “that’s really cool.” I then asked what year he graduated, and he told me in “2020” and I told him I finished in “2019.” He smiled to himself and said, “that means you were here for a while.” It was comforting to hear there was someone that needed some extra time finish.
I laughed and told him not to remind me.
*I made new friends in the paper that kept inviting me back. I always hoped I’d get to talk to the guy but I didn’t see him again. Two months passed, around the week of exams. I was walking on campus and saw him heading the opposite way. I thought he didn’t recognise me, but as I walked by I saw his head turn to look at me. That was the last time I saw him. A couple months past and I'm asking a friend that I made in the office to connect me with him to tell him abt a resource on that aligns with his interest in philosophy.
*Overall,she said he is a quiet guy that doesn't say much but engages when spoken to. I know he's reserved and quiet but idk if he was attracted to me as well and I liked meeting him.
How could I tell if he was attracted to me? He mostly keeps to himself, and my friend was surprised he gave me a look up and down and bit his lip like that, but that was the only obvious sign he gave aside from quickly looking away when I grabbed my umbrella. I couldn’t tell if the lip bite was him flirting or just overall nervousness. But I really want to get to know him more when we are reconnected. He was just so hard to read cause of how reserved he is.
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It’s difficult to know from this. Just invite him for a coffee to chat about finer aspects of journalism and see how it goes
Reply 2
maybeee...i see potential so get in touch and and ask if he wants to go out. if that's 2 direct for you, maybe get his socials first and then take it from there? gl and give me an update!!
Reply 3
He literally looked you up and down then bit his lip and waggled his eyebrows?? Yes he is attracted to you!
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by Anonymousmaybeee...i see potential so get in touch and and ask if he wants to go out. if that's 2 direct for you, maybe get his socials first and then take it from there? gl and give me an update!!
May I ask what makes you think there’s potential?
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by anosmianAcrimonyHe literally looked you up and down then bit his lip and waggled his eyebrows?? Yes he is attracted to you!
Didn’t waggle his eyebrows but more like they rose and fell
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by LuminousMind21Didn’t waggle his eyebrows but more like they rose and fell
What exactly do you think a waggle is
IMO this guy is clearly attracted to you and it seems like you like him too. The question is, what are you gonna do about it? I recommend NOT making some big dramatic confession of your interest. But you could just keep spending more time with him and see how you get on. You could also invite him to do something together, just the two of you - the classic go-to would be a nice chat in a cafe or getting a meal together but you might be able to think of something more interesting based on your interests and his.
Good luck and have fun!
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by anosmianAcrimonyWhat exactly do you think a waggle is
IMO this guy is clearly attracted to you and it seems like you like him too. The question is, what are you gonna do about it? I recommend NOT making some big dramatic confession of your interest. But you could just keep spending more time with him and see how you get on. You could also invite him to do something together, just the two of you - the classic go-to would be a nice chat in a cafe or getting a meal together but you might be able to think of something more interesting based on your interests and his.
Good luck and have fun!
IMO this guy is clearly attracted to you and it seems like you like him too. The question is, what are you gonna do about it? I recommend NOT making some big dramatic confession of your interest. But you could just keep spending more time with him and see how you get on. You could also invite him to do something together, just the two of you - the classic go-to would be a nice chat in a cafe or getting a meal together but you might be able to think of something more interesting based on your interests and his.
Good luck and have fun!
To be honest, I felt like he was but his behavior afterwards was confusing. Like sure he looked at me like that but I felt like he didn’t show any other signs of interest. Unless this is how quiet guys act when they are interested.
(edited 12 months ago)
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by LuminousMind21May I ask what makes you think there’s potential?
i feel thats norm how a quiet person would react 2 someone they like. just make a move!! and updates when u have them
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