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Never had a serious relationship?

I'm a queer girl, but I've never rlly had a serious relationship or slept with anyone. I've had a few "talking" stages and stuff but nothing has ever gone anywhere, and the place I'm from isn't overly diverse, and it's hard to meet people when you're U18.
I'm probably going to be going to Nottingham in September, and am really worried, especially due to the reputation of Notts (but I don't know if this has much truth to it).

I was wondering whether there is much of a queer scene, in order for me to meet people, but also whether people would find it weird that I haven't really been with anyone. I'm also autistic so sometimes it is hard to make good connections with people. I'm really anxious about this. Some of my friends have told me that it's fine, and not to worry, but these friends either aren't at Nottingham and go to unis with less of a party rep, or have been in serious relationships (or both lol).

I mainly wanted advice on whether to try and find more people before uni, or if it would be fine. Also on where to meet other girls at uni, esp. Notts.
Ty!

Reply 1

Original post by Mohammed_2000
Best advice focus on your education. Your under 18 you have your whole career to plan ahead of you important and essential exams will be key components part of your life that you need to prioritise and give time towards which only then will unlock your qualifications to what you can become, being in a relationship won’t do that or allow that “When the time is right” the right guy will come across in the meantime focus on your education.

"the right guy" bro did you not read her post, she doesnt want a guy! lol

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
I'm a queer girl, but I've never rlly had a serious relationship or slept with anyone. I've had a few "talking" stages and stuff but nothing has ever gone anywhere, and the place I'm from isn't overly diverse, and it's hard to meet people when you're U18.
I'm probably going to be going to Nottingham in September, and am really worried, especially due to the reputation of Notts (but I don't know if this has much truth to it).
I was wondering whether there is much of a queer scene, in order for me to meet people, but also whether people would find it weird that I haven't really been with anyone. I'm also autistic so sometimes it is hard to make good connections with people. I'm really anxious about this. Some of my friends have told me that it's fine, and not to worry, but these friends either aren't at Nottingham and go to unis with less of a party rep, or have been in serious relationships (or both lol).
I mainly wanted advice on whether to try and find more people before uni, or if it would be fine. Also on where to meet other girls at uni, esp. Notts.
Ty!


My friend is I’m notts and her whole friend group is gay if that’s anything 🙂*↕️🙂*↕️ Nottingham has some pretty specific societies so you’ll find your blend of people as long as you make the effort to go out and find them :3

Reply 3

Original post by Anonymous
I'm a queer girl, but I've never rlly had a serious relationship or slept with anyone. I've had a few "talking" stages and stuff but nothing has ever gone anywhere, and the place I'm from isn't overly diverse, and it's hard to meet people when you're U18.
I'm probably going to be going to Nottingham in September, and am really worried, especially due to the reputation of Notts (but I don't know if this has much truth to it).
I was wondering whether there is much of a queer scene, in order for me to meet people, but also whether people would find it weird that I haven't really been with anyone. I'm also autistic so sometimes it is hard to make good connections with people. I'm really anxious about this. Some of my friends have told me that it's fine, and not to worry, but these friends either aren't at Nottingham and go to unis with less of a party rep, or have been in serious relationships (or both lol).
I mainly wanted advice on whether to try and find more people before uni, or if it would be fine. Also on where to meet other girls at uni, esp. Notts.
Ty!


I'm autistic as well and I found it very stressful and challenging at Nottingham to meet meet people there and I left as a result this and a few other issues and am heading to Sheffield as it's better

Reply 4

Original post by BenR94
I'm autistic as well and I found it very stressful and challenging at Nottingham to meet meet people there and I left as a result this and a few other issues and am heading to Sheffield as it's better

May I ask, do you mean you studied there? If so, may I ask whether it was easy (and also whether it was expensive) to switch universities?

Reply 5

Original post by Anonymous
May I ask, do you mean you studied there? If so, may I ask whether it was easy (and also whether it was expensive) to switch universities?


Yes, I studied at Nottingham for a year and 1 semester. It wasn't expensive to switch, but it took quite a bit of effort to get into Sheffield since I did so badly with my grades at Nottingham.

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