ADHD Diagnosis as an adult

So, finally, in my late 20s, I plucked up the courage to see my GP regarding issues I have experienced all my life. Including a constant loop of burnout, then feeling hyper, and why I couldn't do school exams and always felt like an outsider, working really hard (more than others) but always ending up with failure or average results and a never-ending list of other symptoms.
I didn't go as I thought it would just be labelled some depression and anxiety. While I have symptoms of those at times, it always felt like there was another cause. After reeling off about 20% of my list, the GP asked me some further questions. The GP seemed to agree with ADHD totally and stated the symptoms were intrusive and even was bringing up maybe needing medication on a first appointment. Considering this particular GP is quite strict with diagnosing things typically, I thought it was pretty strong for him to state this. I'm currently going through right to choose provider, which the GP referred me through. Just on their waiting list.
I was quite a sensitive kid, but getting through adulthood has made me highly resilient (to get through this far) for the most part. It's a bit fake, though, as I go deeper down, I'm not a happy bunny about how my 20s have gone.
I have a few questions for maybe someone who has gone through an adult diagnosis:
- I'm pretty stubborn, and I get days where I am starting to accept it could be ADHD, and sometimes I continue to think I'm lazy and haven't tried hard enough, and this thing can't be real and just using it as an excuse. I have also recently had a complete crash out recently, brining up the past (which I never normally do). Is it quite normal to feel this way?
- Being in my late 20s can I still turn things around? I haven't done the whole Uni thing, had relationships, etc.. I'm pretty hard on myself and want to achieve my goals. Being realistic, should I turn my goals down a bit?
- I'm coming to the end of my tether with the never-ending cycle of burnout. If medication is offered, I'm 100% certain I will take it. Hopefully, it will work. Have you found it beneficial? I'm just worried if it doesn't work as carrying on like this seems very hard.

So, finally, in my late 20s, I plucked up the courage to see my GP regarding issues I have experienced all my life. Including a constant loop of burnout, then feeling hyper, and why I couldn't do school exams and always felt like an outsider, working really hard (more than others) but always ending up with failure or average results and a never-ending list of other symptoms.
I didn't go as I thought it would just be labelled some depression and anxiety. While I have symptoms of those at times, it always felt like there was another cause. After reeling off about 20% of my list, the GP asked me some further questions. The GP seemed to agree with ADHD totally and stated the symptoms were intrusive and even was bringing up maybe needing medication on a first appointment. Considering this particular GP is quite strict with diagnosing things typically, I thought it was pretty strong for him to state this. I'm currently going through right to choose provider, which the GP referred me through. Just on their waiting list.
I was quite a sensitive kid, but getting through adulthood has made me highly resilient (to get through this far) for the most part. It's a bit fake, though, as I go deeper down, I'm not a happy bunny about how my 20s have gone.
I have a few questions for maybe someone who has gone through an adult diagnosis:
- I'm pretty stubborn, and I get days where I am starting to accept it could be ADHD, and sometimes I continue to think I'm lazy and haven't tried hard enough, and this thing can't be real and just using it as an excuse. I have also recently had a complete crash out recently, brining up the past (which I never normally do). Is it quite normal to feel this way?
- Being in my late 20s can I still turn things around? I haven't done the whole Uni thing, had relationships, etc.. I'm pretty hard on myself and want to achieve my goals. Being realistic, should I turn my goals down a bit?
- I'm coming to the end of my tether with the never-ending cycle of burnout. If medication is offered, I'm 100% certain I will take it. Hopefully, it will work. Have you found it beneficial? I'm just worried if it doesn't work as carrying on like this seems very hard.

Hello,
As someone who was diagnosed as an adult I feel I may be able to answer your questions
It is 100% normal to feel the pull between accepting you may have ADHD and just thinking that you are 'lazy'. It's how we have been conditioned all our lives. If you are told you are lazy enough then you will begin to believe that.
Definitely do not tune down your goals! Just being you have/may have ADHD, it doesn't mean that you cannot do things. Our brains are wired differently and getting a diagnosis is one of the first steps in helping to you to accept that you are this way for a reason. It allows you to look back on things with perspective and realise why things did or didn't work for you. It also gives you the chance to learn about how various things can help you.
I am currently on my stable dose of medication and honestly it's ridiculous how much it helps. I will say that it isn't a quick fix and finding the medication and dose for you is a process in itself but once you get there you will see the benefits.
I hope that I have answered your questions and if you need anymore information, or just to chat to someone who has gone through the same as you then I am always here to help. I wasn't diagnosed until just before by 27th birthday and I have not long since turned 28. I can list so many things/experiences where I can look back and compare the difference before meds and diagnosis and after.