Guys do you ask girls to hang out platonically often?
My friend randomly asked me to get coffee with him last month. I did and had a great time, he kindly even paid for my drink! Now he's asking if I want to get ice cream and go on a walk. He's still being friendly right? We've hung out before this too, but it was with my other friends. I personally don't like one on one hang outs, as they make me anxious. I made an exception for this guy. Most of my friends are men but they mostly ask me to go to the pub with them or hike or climb or something. And it's usually with the rest of the group.
Reply 1
he seems to be friendly and maybe just likes your company. if one on one hangouts make you anxious then I wouldn't go on any if it were me as it can reflect in your decision making. probably better to not make exceptions to your rule if things make you uncomfortable. Generally when one on one 'hangouts' are being requested then that person is generally interested in getting to know you more possibly for a relationship etc.
Reply 2
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Sounds like an ambiguous date strategy
Reply 3
If she’s ugly, yes
Reply 4
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by san_ciscoMy friend randomly asked me to get coffee with him last month. I did and had a great time, he kindly even paid for my drink! Now he's asking if I want to get ice cream and go on a walk. He's still being friendly right? We've hung out before this too, but it was with my other friends. I personally don't like one on one hang outs, as they make me anxious. I made an exception for this guy. Most of my friends are men but they mostly ask me to go to the pub with them or hike or climb or something. And it's usually with the rest of the group.
Personally, I would say that pretty much any one-on-one "hangout" between a (straight) guy and a (straight) girl is pretty much a date; ditto for any LGBTQ+ type friendships / relationships. IMHO, it's not such a bad thing as it can take the pressure off both parties. However, there are a few exceptions:-
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1) If one person explicitly states that it's just as friends
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2) The existing relationship between the two of you makes it obvious there's no romantic undertone (e.g. he's a relative, your best friends guy, etc.).
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3) There's a specific task for you meeting up (e.g. meeting up to discuss a project (OSLT))
If you like him, then play it by ear, and see where it takes you. However, if you're adamant that nothing's going to become of it, then you need to tell him that you are only going out as friends. Afterall, if he's as good as a friend as he sounds, I'm sure he'd understand... and you wouldn't want to lose a good friend because he felt like you were leading him on.
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by Little peckerIf she’s ugly, yes
Damn, what a charmer
Reply 6
I do sometimes but I think it's fairly rare for a guy to ask a girl out in the way you've described and have absolutely no thought that it might go in a romantic direction.
Reply 7
May I ask do you like him in that way or see a potential relationship with him in your future?
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by anosmianAcrimonyDamn, what a charmer
Someone has to be
Reply 9
He probably just wants sexual **** from you, presume that guys arent interested I you platonically, save yourself
Reply 10
I have to say, as a guy, it is really hard to be involved with a girl only platonically. After, we talk to a girl for a while and get to know them, we generally gain affectionate feelings for them, not just friendly ones.
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by Username123abHe probably just wants sexual **** from you, presume that guys arent interested I you platonically, save yourself
Jeepers... cynical or what?!?
MAYBE, he actually likes her and values her as a person, and is trying to show what a great boyfriend he would make. On the other hand, MAYBE the OP has needs of her own, and is just trying to suss him out as a potential partner. She hasn't clarified her feelings on the matter.
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by AnonymousI have to say, as a guy, it is really hard to be involved with a girl only platonically. After, we talk to a girl for a while and get to know them, we generally gain affectionate feelings for them, not just friendly ones.
Although this may be true for some people, I don't think it's necessarily the case for everyone. I think the environment the people are acclimatised to and the context they're used to interacting with the opposite sex plays a big part on whether or not a guy and girl can be "just friends"; as well as the specific personality / character types of the respective individuals.
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by Old Skool FreakJeepers... cynical or what?!?
MAYBE, he actually likes her and values her as a person, and is trying to show what a great boyfriend he would make. On the other hand, MAYBE the OP has needs of her own, and is just trying to suss him out as a potential partner. She hasn't clarified her feelings on the matter.
Although this may be true for some people, I don't think it's necessarily the case for everyone. I think the environment the people are acclimatised to and the context they're used to interacting with the opposite sex plays a big part on whether or not a guy and girl can be "just friends"; as well as the specific personality / character types of the respective individuals.
MAYBE, he actually likes her and values her as a person, and is trying to show what a great boyfriend he would make. On the other hand, MAYBE the OP has needs of her own, and is just trying to suss him out as a potential partner. She hasn't clarified her feelings on the matter.
Although this may be true for some people, I don't think it's necessarily the case for everyone. I think the environment the people are acclimatised to and the context they're used to interacting with the opposite sex plays a big part on whether or not a guy and girl can be "just friends"; as well as the specific personality / character types of the respective individuals.
oh yeah lol I was drunk and mad that a guy I'm talking to asked for nudes then just went to bed instead of keeping talking to me after I said no
Reply 13
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How can ice cream and a walk not be 'friendly', unless you think he's going to attack you?
Or do you mean that if he's romantically interested in you, that automatically doesn't make him 'friendly'?
Is this the 19th century, by the way?
Or do you mean that if he's romantically interested in you, that automatically doesn't make him 'friendly'?
Is this the 19th century, by the way?
Reply 14
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by Old Skool FreakJeepers... cynical or what?!?
MAYBE, he actually likes her and values her as a person, and is trying to show what a great boyfriend he would make. On the other hand, MAYBE the OP has needs of her own, and is just trying to suss him out as a potential partner. She hasn't clarified her feelings on the matter.
Although this may be true for some people, I don't think it's necessarily the case for everyone. I think the environment the people are acclimatised to and the context they're used to interacting with the opposite sex plays a big part on whether or not a guy and girl can be "just friends"; as well as the specific personality / character types of the respective individuals.
MAYBE, he actually likes her and values her as a person, and is trying to show what a great boyfriend he would make. On the other hand, MAYBE the OP has needs of her own, and is just trying to suss him out as a potential partner. She hasn't clarified her feelings on the matter.
Although this may be true for some people, I don't think it's necessarily the case for everyone. I think the environment the people are acclimatised to and the context they're used to interacting with the opposite sex plays a big part on whether or not a guy and girl can be "just friends"; as well as the specific personality / character types of the respective individuals.
Yes I certainly agree with that! My environment is very different (i.e. all boys school, don’t really talk to girls much except by text), and plus I am more of a romantic 🙃
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by PicniclHow can ice cream and a walk not be 'friendly', unless you think he's going to attack you?
Or do you mean that if he's romantically interested in you, that automatically doesn't make him 'friendly'?
Is this the 19th century, by the way?
Or do you mean that if he's romantically interested in you, that automatically doesn't make him 'friendly'?
Is this the 19th century, by the way?
Yes exactly! Romance exists on the spectrum of friendship
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