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erm im in grade 8 and i like a guy in grade 10.....

keep in mind we are in a private school. very limited interactions between boys and girls that are not in the same class...

ok so. we met bcuz he was voted for student council president and i was vice. at the beginning of the year i lowk did not like him, i thought he was lazy and didnt contribute as a president. now listen his brother is in my class. we are friends, and up to a couple of weeks ago i liked him (the guys brother) but then the topic of liking sm came up and he said he didnt like anyone. indirect rejection. ok. i stopped liking him. but like im lowk obssesed w this guy help! i have pictures of him from an assembly that we both presented at, random one my friend sent me, gacha recreation, drawing, yadda yadda yadda. we barely even see eachother... his class is like down the hall from mine. i dont think we ever had like a full conversation. but when we get called for student council stuff, i feel like the tension/awkwardness is crazy between us. like even b4 i liked him. we just like stand 2-3 meters away from eachother and just awkwardly keep moving around, occasionally making eye-contact and briefly making small talk. keep in mind this happened like twice. idk. i also once waved to him and he was super enthusiastic smiling and waving back... i want to keep saying hi and stuff like that.. but hes always around these other guys in gr 10 and they lowk scare me. also last thing. out my friend group (including his brother) i've only told one person. i do want to tell the others but im lowk scared they r gonna acc make it much worse 4 me. i feel bad ranting to my one friend who knows.

what do i do chat

oh yeah hes also leaving the country at the end of the year so i have like 4 months of my free demo before it expires.

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by romagranate

keep in mind we are in a private school. very limited interactions between boys and girls that are not in the same class...
ok so. we met bcuz he was voted for student council president and i was vice. at the beginning of the year i lowk did not like him, i thought he was lazy and didnt contribute as a president. now listen his brother is in my class. we are friends, and up to a couple of weeks ago i liked him (the guys brother) but then the topic of liking sm came up and he said he didnt like anyone. indirect rejection. ok. i stopped liking him. but like im lowk obssesed w this guy help! i have pictures of him from an assembly that we both presented at, random one my friend sent me, gacha recreation, drawing, yadda yadda yadda. we barely even see eachother... his class is like down the hall from mine. i dont think we ever had like a full conversation. but when we get called for student council stuff, i feel like the tension/awkwardness is crazy between us. like even b4 i liked him. we just like stand 2-3 meters away from eachother and just awkwardly keep moving around, occasionally making eye-contact and briefly making small talk. keep in mind this happened like twice. idk. i also once waved to him and he was super enthusiastic smiling and waving back... i want to keep saying hi and stuff like that.. but hes always around these other guys in gr 10 and they lowk scare me. also last thing. out my friend group (including his brother) i've only told one person. i do want to tell the others but im lowk scared they r gonna acc make it much worse 4 me. i feel bad ranting to my one friend who knows.
what do i do chat
oh yeah hes also leaving the country at the end of the year so i have like 4 months of my free demo before it expires.

I get why you’d feel a little overwhelmed, especially when things feel complicated and you’re not sure how to approach them. First of all, it’s totally normal to get feelings for someone, even if you don’t interact with them a lot. You’re still in a pretty unique and confined environment with your school setup, which can definitely make things feel extra intense when it comes to relationships and social dynamics.
Here’s how I’d break it down:
1. Get clarity on your feelings: It's okay to feel like you're “obsessed,” but it’s important to step back and make sure you understand why you're feeling that way. You liked his brother before, which could make your emotions feel even more complicated since the two are related, and now you’re dealing with a bit of rejection from the brother. It sounds like this new guy might be an emotional response to that, so take some time to reflect on what you like about him. Is it the idea of him? Or do you actually have genuine feelings for him?
2. The awkward tension: When you’re around him and the awkwardness is high, it can make it hard to break the ice. It sounds like there might be a bit of unspoken tension between you two, and the fact that you're barely talking doesn’t help. If you want to build any kind of connection, try to be yourself and take it slowly. If he’s in a group of people that intimidates you, it’s okay to step back and not feel pressured to approach him in front of others. Maybe try to find moments when he’s alone or in smaller groups, so you can say hi or have a small conversation without the pressure of a big crowd.
3. Talking to your friends: I totally get why you might feel hesitant about telling your friends. High school can be a bit intense, and rumors or gossip can spread fast. But if you feel like the one friend you've told is trustworthy, it might help to talk to them more about your feelings and ask for advice. If you're not ready to tell the whole group, that’s completely fine. You can always share more when you're comfortable, but remember it’s okay to keep some things private until you're sure about them.
4. He’s leaving soon: This part can feel a little discouraging because you know there’s a time limit. But try not to put too much pressure on yourself or the situation. You still have four months, and maybe that’s enough time to feel more confident in your interactions. If he is leaving, maybe it will be a little easier to just enjoy those moments without worrying about making something happen. Sometimes, you can have a connection with someone without needing to act on it right away.
Lastly, remember it’s completely fine to have feelings for someone, and it doesn’t always have to go anywhere. You’re still young, and a lot of your feelings will shift over time. If this doesn’t work out, that’s okay. And if it does, that’s awesome! Just be true to yourself, and don’t put too much pressure on the situation.
If you want to talk more about any of this or need advice along the way, I’m here!