How To Stop Dreaming About Your Ex?

Same here with me but except we never dated ah.. i guess u need to just heal and wait until someone finds YOU instead .and also u keep calling she/he them?? Is that their pronouns or are they a girl or a boy

I hope everything goes okay with your person! Are you two still in contact?
My ex is biologically a girl, but when we were together they did express some interest in using all pronouns and changing their name to a unisex name (which they did later on). I don’t know what their pronouns are right now, so out of respect (and a little ambiguity) I use “them”!

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There no easy way to control dreams other than perhaps trying to get the things you dream about out of your mind during the day. And even then they tend to pop up when you least expect it. Focus on moving on, new distractions and new love. It’s difficult to get over significant relationships, you just have to take a view that there’s no future in the past and find something else. Otherwise it’s too much futile angst. A counsellor that on your wavelength might be able to help

I understand your pain, I think it might be good to tell them how you feel in a controlled way and see if she wants to get back together, but if she says no then that’s it I think, and you should just let go. You will find someone else.

Truthfully, I would love to tell her how I’m feeling or what I’m feeling, or to just hear about what she’s feeling. That’s what I write to her about in the book. I have so many conflicted thoughts and feelings and that book is solid proof of how I’ve gone through a numerous amount of feelings I’ve held for her. The only issue is that when we last spoke, she was very upset with me, or so it seemed because it was over text. She blocked me on a few social media accounts’ and rightfully so, it made me aware that she didn’t want to be contacted by me. I have to stand by that. I realised after a couple of months that she wants nothing to do with me and that I do have to move on.
I’ve tried to move on, and I’ve just been unsuccessful. It sometimes feels like I’ll be stuck on her forever. I don’t want to waste anyone’s time or hurt anyone else because I’m still having dreams about my ex!

Thanks! I agree, there are days where I don’t think about them at all and then all of a sudden, they pop into my dreams and it’s so bizarre? I’m looking into finding another counsellor/therapist for the meanwhile. I’ll definitely continue trying to move on and see where that takes me though!

I understand, do what you feel is best, and what your heart wants. You seem like a lovely, sensitive person, so I am sure you will find someone else in the future if that is what you want.

Good work. With time it does get easier and new and better love arrives