am i too in love with him?

hi!
me (22) and my boyfriend (25) have been dating 3 months. for the past month and a half, he has cancelled on plans and hasnt arranged any plans for us, while I am always the one suggesting date ideas and planning things to do. He claims he has family drama going on and he does work more than me, but we always have at least one or two free days off together weekly, and i just dont feel like im a priority to him? I was super excited for valentines day and we made plans but he just cancelled the day before.

It really sucks too because i love him so much, I want to do so much with him, i am really in love. and this is mine (and apparenlty his) first serious "adult" relationship (we both had school relationships and he had one night stands during uni which i dont care about). Im a virgin and he was my first kiss.

He made all the first moves too and it was obvious he was in love/crushing on me before we started dating, I dont know why he's gone so laid back now.

I know i should be understanding of his family drama, I want to support him, but he doesnt want to talk about whats actually happening, it just eats into every bit of time we could ever have together. I feel so upset about this.

Reply 1

Dunnig Kruger

Sounds like he's two-timing.

There's more red flags than St Andrew's Old Course.

You don't need to be understanding of his family drama at all. He hasn't told you what it is yet! It could all be a mountain out of a molehill. Or a complete work of fiction.

Don't fall into his frame. Maintain your frame that you are a very worthy person and your time is valuable.
If he cancels on you, you should still go out with your friends. And if you meet some guy that you get on well with, that's his look-out. He shouldn't have cancelled on you.