Anxiety
I get anxious most of the time at work. My team is very small, and I feel like I'm being constantly watched in everything I do. I'm giving it my all and have sacrificed a lot in terms of my work output.
I also have to deal with my teammates constantly talking about their weekend or holiday plans. It’s always something like, “I’m going to a friend’s birthday party,” “I went to a restaurant,” “I’m going to Canada,” or “I went for a walk.” I understand the importance of making conversation, but because my team is small, it often gets out of hand and becomes excessive—just too much all the time.
I feel like I have to go out and do things just to prove to my team that we have things in common when, in reality, I just want to relax. I’m constantly exhausted and don’t want to be around people. I like people
This is taking a toll on my mental health. I don’t want to leave the company, but I just don’t know what to do.
I also have to deal with my teammates constantly talking about their weekend or holiday plans. It’s always something like, “I’m going to a friend’s birthday party,” “I went to a restaurant,” “I’m going to Canada,” or “I went for a walk.” I understand the importance of making conversation, but because my team is small, it often gets out of hand and becomes excessive—just too much all the time.
I feel like I have to go out and do things just to prove to my team that we have things in common when, in reality, I just want to relax. I’m constantly exhausted and don’t want to be around people. I like people
This is taking a toll on my mental health. I don’t want to leave the company, but I just don’t know what to do.
Reply 1
hey sorry to hear you that experienced this. people will talk about their weekend/holiday plans because it's a soft topic to talk about, and nothing uneasy about it. You don't have to join in excessively but it does help - that's office life for you. If you don't want to go out and do things, don't. Say you don't feel well or you have x obligations. If the working environment doesn't suit you, like the culture, I'd leave. You need to be happy in life.
Reply 2
If you feel anxious, maybe take a break or leave your job if that's how you feel
There is a lot of support out there such as:
-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day
-Mind, 0300 123 3393
-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm
-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm
-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service
-Crises, 741741, text service
-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress
-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927
-No Panic, 0800 138 8889
-Relate, they have a chat advisor
-NHS mental health 111
-Kooth, www.kooth.com, a chat, message website
-7cups, www.7cups.com, 24/7 online chat
-Support line, 01708 765200, email: [email protected]
-Anxiety UK, 03444 775 774, 9:30am to 17:30pm Mon to Friday, a text service 07537 416905
-Young minds, www.youngminds.org.uk
-Calm, calm.com
-Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516
-Nightline, usually run by your university
-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area.
There is a lot of support out there such as:
-The Samaritans, you can call 116 123, which is available 24 hours a day
-Mind, 0300 123 3393
-Saneline, 0300 304 7000, from 4.30pm-10.30pm
-The mix, 0800 808 4994, 11am-11pm
-SHOUT, text 852258, 24 hour text service
-Crises, 741741, text service
-Papyrus, 0800 068 4141, if you have thoughts of suicide or in emotional distress
-Rethink mental health, 0300 5000 927
-No Panic, 0800 138 8889
-Relate, they have a chat advisor
-NHS mental health 111
-Kooth, www.kooth.com, a chat, message website
-7cups, www.7cups.com, 24/7 online chat
-Support line, 01708 765200, email: [email protected]
-Anxiety UK, 03444 775 774, 9:30am to 17:30pm Mon to Friday, a text service 07537 416905
-Young minds, www.youngminds.org.uk
-Calm, calm.com
-Mental Health 24/7: 0800 008 6516
-Nightline, usually run by your university
-hubofhope website, useful contact information for your local area.
Reply 4
Original post
by AnonymousI get anxious most of the time at work. My team is very small, and I feel like I'm being constantly watched in everything I do. I'm giving it my all and have sacrificed a lot in terms of my work output.
I also have to deal with my teammates constantly talking about their weekend or holiday plans. It’s always something like, “I’m going to a friend’s birthday party,” “I went to a restaurant,” “I’m going to Canada,” or “I went for a walk.” I understand the importance of making conversation, but because my team is small, it often gets out of hand and becomes excessive—just too much all the time.
I feel like I have to go out and do things just to prove to my team that we have things in common when, in reality, I just want to relax. I’m constantly exhausted and don’t want to be around people. I like people
This is taking a toll on my mental health. I don’t want to leave the company, but I just don’t know what to do.
I also have to deal with my teammates constantly talking about their weekend or holiday plans. It’s always something like, “I’m going to a friend’s birthday party,” “I went to a restaurant,” “I’m going to Canada,” or “I went for a walk.” I understand the importance of making conversation, but because my team is small, it often gets out of hand and becomes excessive—just too much all the time.
I feel like I have to go out and do things just to prove to my team that we have things in common when, in reality, I just want to relax. I’m constantly exhausted and don’t want to be around people. I like people
This is taking a toll on my mental health. I don’t want to leave the company, but I just don’t know what to do.
It can be hard to keep up with other peoples lives, and it sounds like you are feeling guilty about not being as social as your colleagues. What's right for them is ok - FOR THEM. Your peace comes from relaxing and that feels absolutely ok. Maybe saying something like 'Oh I love to hear about your plans and your adventures, but for me relaxing after a full working day is where I find my peace' We wonder if they might be envious of your ability to relax.
Reply 5
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You don't have to prove yourself to your colleagues. You need to be you.
Your happiness is what matters.
Your happiness is what matters.
Reply 6
Yeah I totally get that, it’s like you’re stuck in this weird loop of trying to seem social just so things don’t feel awkward, when all you want is to breathe and be left alone. I’ve been there, especially in small teams where everything feels magnified.What helped me chill out a bit was getting into weed again after work.
Just something mellow to take the edge off without needing to go out or fake small talk. If anyone’s curious, this is where I buy weed that makes my experiences more manageable
Just something mellow to take the edge off without needing to go out or fake small talk. If anyone’s curious, this is where I buy weed that makes my experiences more manageable
(edited 11 months ago)
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