How to deal with this type of behavior from her?!
How do I deal with my mom falsely accusing me of doing things I haven’t done and then when I tell her I didn’t do it she gets mad at me and accuses me of lying and accuses me of being in denial and causing a fight by not admitting it, and why she doing this?!
Reply 1
Some people are bad parents.
Some bad parents are bad. Some are utterly despicably evil in how they parent.
It sounds like your mum is more towards the plain bad end of the bad parenting scale. If that's as far as she takes it. If she hits you or gives you really over the top punishments then that would put her towards the evil end of the scale.
There's multiple possible reasons as to why she's like this.
It could be the best way to deal with this is to:
Some bad parents are bad. Some are utterly despicably evil in how they parent.
It sounds like your mum is more towards the plain bad end of the bad parenting scale. If that's as far as she takes it. If she hits you or gives you really over the top punishments then that would put her towards the evil end of the scale.
There's multiple possible reasons as to why she's like this.
It could be the best way to deal with this is to:
1.
change her mood not her mind. Don't argue against her. Don't justify nor qualify yourself. Give her a hug. Or tell her that you love her.
2.
Use pattern interrupts. Say something completely unexpected that interrupts her train of thought and her mood. EG "I love you best when you give me hugs."
3.
Pragmatically tolerate it.
4.
Try to keep calm yourself and maintain a positive emotional state.
5.
Do what you can practically to help her. Could you do more cooking, food shopping, washing up, cleaning, get a part time job to earn some dosh?
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