I think I’m being emotionally abused by my flatmates

I have really been struggling to type this. I’ll leave necessary context and the end just so I can get the core of it out.

Two nights ago I heard a massive explosion outside, concerned, I messaged my flat group chat saying “sounds like a bomb just went off outside, did anyone hear that?” we live in London.

Within two messages 3 girls in my flat are calling me racist, I never mentioned a race, I was not insinuating anything. One of them telling me that there are people getting bombed all over the world and that I’m too privileged to be scared (I work 6 days a week whilst she sits in her room leaching from her parents). They then go on to mention loads of stuff I have apparently said (that I haven’t) I once made a joke in poor taste regarding Covid, you can probably guess it…but I apologised for that genuinely, she still reported it to reception back then…and I once said to another flat mate that when loads of ambulances and fire engines go past my work I think there’s been an “attack”. Not insinuating any race or religion at all. They are the only things I have ever mentioned previously.

Regardless, they are constantly twisting it to paint me as someone I am absolutely not and when I try and explain they just bring up loads of stuff from really random contexts to support the arguments. A lot of it borderline completely false.

When I defend myself they call me manipulative and that I’m gaslighting them? I actively try and avoid them at all costs generally, I am 21 and they are all 19. I have one flatmate that is on my side, ironically Muslim.

I am genuinely genuinely terrified to go into my own kitchen, they asked me the other night to come in for “a chat” which undoubtedly would have been another ambush so I did not go into the kitchen.

I am spending a lot of money eating out.

These same flatmates also bang doors like **** and then deny that there is any noise

Necessary context:
- Only one of the three girls is Muslim, the other one just virtue signals to the point it ****es off my other Muslim flatmate.
- The person that started this is someone we used to always have to report for smoking in her room and falling out with people extremely loudly over the phone

Really ******* scared because there is no good way to explain this situation unless you saw that chats

Reply 1

StriderHort

I know it's easier said than done, but moving is by far the best choice rather than sharing space with people like this.

Something I find myself telling younger students a lot if that when a group of flatmates gets to the point of reporting each other for stuff and trying to get them kicked out, it's over and there is basically no chance of things ever going back to being genuinely civil.