Questioning lesbianism

I currently identify as bisexual but I feel like I might actually be lesbian. I've recently had a "crush" on a boy, but it didn't feel like a crush since I never really see him and he's 1 year older than me. I, however, get a crush on almost every girl ik, and I only really wanted the boy to like me. I haven't come out to my parents either

Reply 1

Nitrotoluene

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by ReyRey13

It sounds to me like you are carefully considering your feelings and your gender identity, which is a healthy and important thing to do. Based on what you wrote, here are some things to consider in my humble opinion:
Might it help to ask yourself questions such as, but not limited to, the following?
-Am I imagining life with a man in some idealised future or is that vision unpleasant or imposed?
-When I imagine intimacy with a man or with a woman, which seems more pleasurable or natural?
-Do I actually like men or do I just like the thought of them finding me attractive?
Remember that your feelings are valid and that there is no "wrong" way to identify. Trust yourself!💯
My 2cents!
Bye,
Sandro (he, him)

(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 2

anosmianAcrimony

These are completely normal things to be thinking about. Try not to rush into labelling yourself as anything. It's totally fine, and can even be freeing, to be not quite sure. You're a valid and legitimate person, whatever the outcome.