I feel guilty
I was on the tube during rush hour. I was already standing when a few seated people got off the train. A fellow commuter and I were neck and neck in trying to get a seat. We were both so close, but I ended up taking it. I had been standing for most of the journey, while the commuter had just boarded and was about to sit down.
I felt guilty because I thought they were a bit closer to the seat than I was - we were at a similar distance.
At the same time, I felt I made the right choice—I had made sure to step aside to allow seated passengers to get off, rather than pushing past them to grab the seat.
When I sat down, I felt a cold air around me. It seemed like people were giving me bad looks.
I still feel guilty
Any advice ._.
I felt guilty because I thought they were a bit closer to the seat than I was - we were at a similar distance.
At the same time, I felt I made the right choice—I had made sure to step aside to allow seated passengers to get off, rather than pushing past them to grab the seat.
When I sat down, I felt a cold air around me. It seemed like people were giving me bad looks.
I still feel guilty
Any advice ._.
Reply 1
my advice: go on youtube and look up videos of funny pandas until you feel better. you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty for, you were the one who got the seat first
Reply 2
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by Anonymousmy advice: go on youtube and look up videos of funny pandas until you feel better. you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty for, you were the one who got the seat first
Thanks so much!
Reply 3
No one will really care. Generally on public transport if someone really want a seat ahead of me they can have it. Sometimes you just feel more selfish than others (I don't even say that in a bad way)
Reply 4
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by AnonymousI was on the tube during rush hour. I was already standing when a few seated people got off the train. A fellow commuter and I were neck and neck in trying to get a seat. We were both so close, but I ended up taking it. I had been standing for most of the journey, while the commuter had just boarded and was about to sit down.
I felt guilty because I thought they were a bit closer to the seat than I was - we were at a similar distance.
At the same time, I felt I made the right choice—I had made sure to step aside to allow seated passengers to get off, rather than pushing past them to grab the seat.
When I sat down, I felt a cold air around me. It seemed like people were giving me bad looks.
I still feel guilty
Any advice ._.
I felt guilty because I thought they were a bit closer to the seat than I was - we were at a similar distance.
At the same time, I felt I made the right choice—I had made sure to step aside to allow seated passengers to get off, rather than pushing past them to grab the seat.
When I sat down, I felt a cold air around me. It seemed like people were giving me bad looks.
I still feel guilty
Any advice ._.
If they wanted the seat so badly then they would've asked. Also you'll prob never see them again so no point thinking about it.
Reply 5
These things happen. You deserve to sit down as much as anybody, assuming they weren't elderly, disabled, or pregnant or something.
He had no more right to it than you. Should neither of you have taken it? It's not a big deal.
Reply 7
You have nothing to feel guilty about. Life is short, and it’s meant to be lived—not just survived. I was stuck in a cycle of stress, deadlines, and late nights until I decided to get some help from academized academized.com/ It made all the difference. Now I can breathe deeper, sleep better, and finally enjoy moments that used to slip right by me.
(edited 9 months ago)
Reply 8
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by AnonymousI was on the tube during rush hour. I was already standing when a few seated people got off the train. A fellow commuter and I were neck and neck in trying to get a seat. We were both so close, but I ended up taking it. I had been standing for most of the journey, while the commuter had just boarded and was about to sit down.
I felt guilty because I thought they were a bit closer to the seat than I was - we were at a similar distance.
At the same time, I felt I made the right choice—I had made sure to step aside to allow seated passengers to get off, rather than pushing past them to grab the seat.
When I sat down, I felt a cold air around me. It seemed like people were giving me bad looks.
I still feel guilty
Any advice ._.
I felt guilty because I thought they were a bit closer to the seat than I was - we were at a similar distance.
At the same time, I felt I made the right choice—I had made sure to step aside to allow seated passengers to get off, rather than pushing past them to grab the seat.
When I sat down, I felt a cold air around me. It seemed like people were giving me bad looks.
I still feel guilty
Any advice ._.
There's nothing to feel guilty about unless they were someone with actual priority over the seats. Everyone else has the same rights to them so they are fair game. Even then I always feel guilty taking a seat on a packed train, and I always feel judged when there's someone for example who's a little bit older than me because they will give me looks (someone who's able bodied and not elderly I mean like someone in their 40s). I'm someone who gets really bad motion sickness and I'm anemic so I don't do too well standing up on trains for too long and I often need a seat for my safety but I still feel guilty 😭
Reply 9
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by AnonymousThere's nothing to feel guilty about unless they were someone with actual priority over the seats. Everyone else has the same rights to them so they are fair game. Even then I always feel guilty taking a seat on a packed train, and I always feel judged when there's someone for example who's a little bit older than me because they will give me looks (someone who's able bodied and not elderly I mean like someone in their 40s). I'm someone who gets really bad motion sickness and I'm anemic so I don't do too well standing up on trains for too long and I often need a seat for my safety but I still feel guilty 😭
Have you tried getting a 'Please offer me a seat badge'? For me, I got it from TfL (Transport for London), it does help. It makes it easier for me to ask and some people will see the badges and give me a seat without asking. Especially as an 18 year old who most of the time doesn't look outwardly in pain.
I personally haven't had any bad experiences, though the times I need a seat when I immediately get on the tube are also typically when I have a crutch.
You should be able to get one from a local train company or just order it from TfL, even if you are in Scotland for example.
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