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Cousin dating and marriage/convince it's okay and to give it a shot

What's the British view from outside on cousin marriage do you find it disgusting do you not really care is there a way to convince someone it's not that bad and it isn't wrong

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Reply 1

I’ll just leave this here…

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Reply 2

Idk about disgusting but it's inadvisable for genetic reasons.

Reply 3

Original post by anosmianAcrimony
Idk about disgusting but it's inadvisable for genetic reasons.

That's just it as it stands we only share about 6.25% dna since most cousins share 12.5% and our parents share 1 parent so genetically it's not bad hence why it's still legal

Reply 4

Original post by Anonymous
What's the British view from outside on cousin marriage do you find it disgusting do you not really care is there a way to convince someone it's not that bad and it isn't wrong

It's morally disgusting and in the modern day represents foreign perversion.

I'd ban it as another small step towards monoculturalism.
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Reply 5

Original post by Rakas21
It's morally disgusting and in the modern day represents foreign perversion.
I'd ban it as another small step towards monoculturalism.

What makes it disgusting though is it because it's family or because of how much dna you share or risks involved with children

That's what I'm wondering if the only risk is the idea that children may have birth defects it's been stated scientifically that it would take atleast 4 generations of inbreeding for anything like that to happen and that's was based on close siblings ie parents sisters brothers grandparents it states nothing on cousins and what of half cousins who share only 1 grandparent
I do find it gross regardless.

Reply 7

Original post by QUOTE=Anonymous
What makes it disgusting though is it because it's family or because of how much dna you share or risks involved with children

That's what I'm wondering if the only risk is the idea that children may have birth defects it's been stated scientifically that it would take atleast 4 generations of inbreeding for anything like that to happen and that's was based on close siblings ie parents sisters brothers grandparents it states nothing on cousins and what of half cousins who share only 1 grandparent


Irrespective, Charles Darwin married his first cousin, which would share 12.5% of their DNA. Second cousins which indicates based on your message would share half that (which you do) would also cause problems…

Look into the conditions caused by this and determine if you are happy with the risks or not. If you ask me, to put it bluntly, if any children and conceived and cause similar issues, would this be something you are happy to go through?

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Or more precisely allow any children to go through.
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Reply 8

Original post by Anonymous
What makes it disgusting though is it because it's family or because of how much dna you share or risks involved with children
That's what I'm wondering if the only risk is the idea that children may have birth defects it's been stated scientifically that it would take atleast 4 generations of inbreeding for anything like that to happen and that's was based on close siblings ie parents sisters brothers grandparents it states nothing on cousins and what of half cousins who share only 1 grandparent

The higher risk of defects is alarming in itself but not immoral per se unless you subscribe to the harm principal.

In my case, the moral disgust stems from knowingly copulating with your cousin. It's something that was done among nobles to preserve wealth and power but for the modern person today, it's not tolerable in society and only practised by foreigners.
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Reply 9

Original post by Admit-One
I do find it gross regardless.

And you're entitled to that opinion the mental block on dating family members is created unconsciously when you grow up around them and have regular contact. I fir one did not I didn't meet her till I was 8 I was there for 5 years then again I moved and hadn't seen or spoke to her for another 6 years I feel strange but also content I love this woman no matter what she chooses to do it's fine by me if she's happy I don't care for her looks or her body and other perverse stuff. I fell for her attitude to life her habits her humor I love her and I think it's pure.
In certain cultures it's practiced widely. In others it isn't.
Those in the former category generally find it normal.
Those in the latter category generally find it a somewhat unsettling prospect at best, and downright unethical and disgusting at worst.

Either way it's legal, but don't expect many Europeans to give you a thumbs up and a pat on the back about it.
Original post by Anonymous
And you're entitled to that opinion the mental block on dating family members is created unconsciously when you grow up around them and have regular contact. I fir one did not I didn't meet her till I was 8 I was there for 5 years then again I moved and hadn't seen or spoke to her for another 6 years I feel strange but also content I love this woman no matter what she chooses to do it's fine by me if she's happy I don't care for her looks or her body and other perverse stuff. I fell for her attitude to life her habits her humor I love her and I think it's pure.


I only have two cousins and have little contact either of them. Please don’t dismiss my opinion as. “mental block”. I wouldn’t for example dismiss your attraction as a “weird fetish”.

Presumably this is one of those threads where you weren’t really interested in what anyone had to say and just wanted to shout them down so you could have a relationship with your blood relative. Cool.

Reply 12

Definitely not something I would do personally, I find the thought of sleeping with a relative highly off-putting. But who you **** is none of my business so you do you. The only time I would judge is if you chose to have children together because that's selfish.

Reply 13

Original post by Scienceisgood
Irrespective, Charles Darwin married his first cousin, which would share 12.5% of their DNA. Second cousins which indicates based on your message would share half that (which you do) would also cause problems…
Look into the conditions caused by this and determine if you are happy with the risks or not. If you ask me, to put it bluntly, if any children and conceived and cause similar issues, would this be something you are happy to go through?
EDIT:
Or more precisely allow any children to go through.

I myself have asd and adhd so whilst I'm positive any children i choose to have would have this it also is highly unlikely they would have any birth defects until the 3 or 4th generation of inbreeding those chances are again however lower simply because she's my second cousin. But I do understand what you mean i have looked into this topic alot thank you for your input 😊

Reply 14

Original post by Admit-One
I only have two cousins and have little contact either of them. Please don’t dismiss my opinion as. “mental block”. I wouldn’t for example dismiss your attraction as a “weird fetish”.
Presumably this is one of those threads where you weren’t really interested in what anyone had to say and just wanted to shout them down so you could have a relationship with your blood relative. Cool.

That's completely fair I'm not dismissing your opinion based on simple mental block you dislike the idea because they are your cousin not because you don't like there personality's I don't know the age gap for you guys but that also likely plays a factor think of this as an experiment would it be awful or disgusting to date or marry your cousin simply because they are your cousin is love a factor is it okay If they love eachother beyond looks?
Original post by Anonymous
That's completely fair I'm not dismissing your opinion based on simple mental block you dislike the idea because they are your cousin not because you don't like there personality's I don't know the age gap for you guys but that also likely plays a factor think of this as an experiment would it be awful or disgusting to date or marry your cousin simply because they are your cousin is love a factor is it okay If they love eachother beyond looks?

No. That would be irrelevant to me. The type of connection isn’t the issue. It’s the familial link.
Original post by Anonymous
That's completely fair I'm not dismissing your opinion based on simple mental block you dislike the idea because they are your cousin not because you don't like there personality's I don't know the age gap for you guys but that also likely plays a factor think of this as an experiment would it be awful or disgusting to date or marry your cousin simply because they are your cousin is love a factor is it okay If they love eachother beyond looks?

Look I have an attractive cousin who is only 8 months older than me.
We didn't grow up together - when we first met I was 18 and he was 19.
We get along really well and yes I love him, but (and here's the crucial part) as a family member, not as a potential romantic interest.
If I were single, would I consider dating my cousin? No. Why? Because he's my cousin. I know he's my cousin and therefore that's just an automatic no.

Reply 17

watch the Netflix documentary "When Cousins Marry"...

Reply 18

Original post by black tea
Definitely not something I would do personally, I find the thought of sleeping with a relative highly off-putting. But who you **** is none of my business so you do you. The only time I would judge is if you chose to have children together because that's selfish.

‘None of my business’

This is the type of liberal mumbo jumbo that degrades society.

Reply 19

it’s lowkey weird and selfish ppl who do that have basically ruined their children’s lives for no reason there’s plenty of other ppl who aren’t related to u that u can date

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