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Advice about my mother

I'm a 26 year old female and love my mum but she does get on my nerves sometimes. A few days ago she video called me and as soon as I answered, she said, "why did you top up your eyeliner? ". I explained to her that I did go over it again with my eye pencil because it was a little smudged when I came back home

yesterday, she video called again, she asked me why is your eyeliner smudged? I don't know what to do with her? whatever I do, she wants to ask questions.

I explained to her that I think it's better if she lets us say "hi" to each other and ask how our day has been before asking other questions, it would be better. This happens every time she calls and keeps asking me so many questions. Every time I ask her not to, she says " you complain too much and will never be able to find a man".
I don't know what to do

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post

by Anonymous

I'm a 26 year old female and love my mum but she does get on my nerves sometimes. A few days ago she video called me and as soon as I answered, she said, "why did you top up your eyeliner? ". I explained to her that I did go over it again with my eye pencil because it was a little smudged when I came back home
yesterday, she video called again, she asked me why is your eyeliner smudged? I don't know what to do with her? whatever I do, she wants to ask questions.
I explained to her that I think it's better if she lets us say "hi" to each other and ask how our day has been before asking other questions, it would be better. This happens every time she calls and keeps asking me so many questions. Every time I ask her not to, she says " you complain too much and will never be able to find a man".
I don't know what to do

Let her know you have boundaries and if she can’t respect your simple request does she really care?

Reply 2

black tea

Just listen to her, don't take it personally and change the topic as soon as you can. She is not going to change her ways at her age so you are only setting yourself up to be disappointed when you ask her to behave differently because she won't/can't. Learn to set boundaries and to not allow her comments to affect ho you feel about yourself. This is a her problem and not a you problem.