Does this sound petty?
My mom and grandmother always tell me I never try hard enough but I have been trying my best I’m 14 in 9th grade. My grandma has been calling me useless lately cussing me out over small things and it started to affect me mentally so much I started to SH. My friends know and one of them suggested hanging every single good grade on my wall so if my grandma or mom says I don’t try I have proof I do. I’m really thinking about doing this does it sound petty?
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by AnonymousMy mom and grandmother always tell me I never try hard enough but I have been trying my best I’m 14 in 9th grade. My grandma has been calling me useless lately cussing me out over small things and it started to affect me mentally so much I started to SH. My friends know and one of them suggested hanging every single good grade on my wall so if my grandma or mom says I don’t try I have proof I do. I’m really thinking about doing this does it sound petty?
It sounds like a good suggestion to me. Hopefully you won't need to actively prove your good grades, as they'll be right in front of her.
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by AnonymousMy mom and grandmother always tell me I never try hard enough but I have been trying my best I’m 14 in 9th grade. My grandma has been calling me useless lately cussing me out over small things and it started to affect me mentally so much I started to SH. My friends know and one of them suggested hanging every single good grade on my wall so if my grandma or mom says I don’t try I have proof I do. I’m really thinking about doing this does it sound petty?
some family members are just toxic tbh. you need to learn to tune them out, dissociate when they start harassing you and think about something else. self harm leaves permanent scars. just not worth it. everyone regrets doing it eventually.
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by DataVeniaIt sounds like a good suggestion to me. Hopefully you won't need to actively prove your good grades, as they'll be right in front of her.
Yea but I would I have to do a bit of printing because some of my tests are online like many other assignments and my other friend said I was dumb for even thinking of that .
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by DataVeniaIt sounds like a good suggestion to me. Hopefully you won't need to actively prove your good grades, as they'll be right in front of her.
what happened to my post? it's gone but there's no notification
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by Ciel.what happened to my post? it's gone but there's no notification
I don’t know it says you did but I went to check it wasn’t there
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by AnonymousI don’t know it says you did but I went to check it wasn’t there
ugh, this keeps happening
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Try changing their mood, not their minds. By you maintaining a bright and breezy and jokey demeanour. And not arguing in any way against what they said (whilst also inwardly not agreeing with it at all). Be a ray of sunshine. Don't let them drag you into their dark swamp of negativity.
Making some tomato soup in your own variation of the Gordon Ramsay recipe, in a soup maker (low effort cooking) would be a better move than hanging stuff on your wall. A bowl of this is the joint best mood improver in the universe!
Making some tomato soup in your own variation of the Gordon Ramsay recipe, in a soup maker (low effort cooking) would be a better move than hanging stuff on your wall. A bowl of this is the joint best mood improver in the universe!
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by Ciel.what happened to my post? it's gone but there's no notification
I've no idea I'm afraid.
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by Dunnig KrugerTry changing their mood, not their minds. By you maintaining a bright and breezy and jokey demeanour. And not arguing in any way against what they said (whilst also inwardly not agreeing with it at all). Be a ray of sunshine. Don't let them drag you into their dark swamp of negativity.
Making some tomato soup in your own variation of the Gordon Ramsay recipe, in a soup maker (low effort cooking) would be a better move than hanging stuff on your wall. A bowl of this is the joint best mood improver in the universe!
Making some tomato soup in your own variation of the Gordon Ramsay recipe, in a soup maker (low effort cooking) would be a better move than hanging stuff on your wall. A bowl of this is the joint best mood improver in the universe!
I cook for them evreyday they eat it and watch tv they don’t say thank you the only one that likes when I cook is my sister she helps and she’s only 9 and she has better manners than a 32 year old and a 56 year old.
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They are talking gibberish. Any 14 year old that cooks every day is trying harder, as in working harder than 99.9% of 14 year olds in the UK.
Treat their words the same as if someone said that you have 4 heads. You don't have 4 heads so that if anyone said you did, you'd just laugh at or totally ignore what they said. You wouldn't take it seriously and you wouldn't let it affect you in a negative way.
What are you cooking for supper tonight? There are certain foods that are mood enhancing and certain that are mood reducing. It'd be interesting to see if their mood changed at all if you really piled on the mood enhancing foods... From what you've told us, they might just say "What's this weird stuff you've given us to eat? Where's our chicken nuggets?" Making them the horses that were taken to water but didn't drink...
Treat their words the same as if someone said that you have 4 heads. You don't have 4 heads so that if anyone said you did, you'd just laugh at or totally ignore what they said. You wouldn't take it seriously and you wouldn't let it affect you in a negative way.
What are you cooking for supper tonight? There are certain foods that are mood enhancing and certain that are mood reducing. It'd be interesting to see if their mood changed at all if you really piled on the mood enhancing foods... From what you've told us, they might just say "What's this weird stuff you've given us to eat? Where's our chicken nuggets?" Making them the horses that were taken to water but didn't drink...
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by Dunnig KrugerThey are talking gibberish. Any 14 year old that cooks every day is trying harder, as in working harder than 99.9% of 14 year olds in the UK.
Treat their words the same as if someone said that you have 4 heads. You don't have 4 heads so that if anyone said you did, you'd just laugh at or totally ignore what they said. You wouldn't take it seriously and you wouldn't let it affect you in a negative way.
What are you cooking for supper tonight? There are certain foods that are mood enhancing and certain that are mood reducing. It'd be interesting to see if their mood changed at all if you really piled on the mood enhancing foods... From what you've told us, they might just say "What's this weird stuff you've given us to eat? Where's our chicken nuggets?" Making them the horses that were taken to water but didn't drink...
Treat their words the same as if someone said that you have 4 heads. You don't have 4 heads so that if anyone said you did, you'd just laugh at or totally ignore what they said. You wouldn't take it seriously and you wouldn't let it affect you in a negative way.
What are you cooking for supper tonight? There are certain foods that are mood enhancing and certain that are mood reducing. It'd be interesting to see if their mood changed at all if you really piled on the mood enhancing foods... From what you've told us, they might just say "What's this weird stuff you've given us to eat? Where's our chicken nuggets?" Making them the horses that were taken to water but didn't drink...
I made them hamburgers fries and broccoli as a vegetable they ate it as usual and didn’t even thank me they said there’s nothing to thank me about and how im expected to do it.
Reply 12
The hamburger and fries are junk food and are the sort of foods that promote grouchy moods. The broccoli is fantastic from a health point of view. Not so good from a taste and texture point of view when served on its' own with burger and fries.
Overall this is a great bit of cooking for a 14 year old.
It seems that your mum and grandma may have shirked their responsibilities when it comes to helping you with nutrition, food shopping and cooking.
I bet they've never given you a few days off from your chores so you could read a book on nutrition. Such as How Not To Die, or the sequel How Not To Diet.
I bet they haven't shown you how to cook delicious nutritious meals from first principles. Nor allowed you the time to watch a selection of how-to cooking videos.
I bet they haven't shown you good vegetable slicing technique.
I bet they haven't even provided you with a decent sharp 8" kitchen knife and a sharp pairing knife.
So that when they make no comments or negative comments on your cooking, the fault is entirely with them. But they won't see it that way, because they're terrible managers / supervisors / leaders.
I bet that's a pattern for other stuff they pick on you about?
Try cooking this:
I use fresh red seedless grapes (sliced in half) instead of raisins. Frozen prawns or other boneless white fish is OK instead of fresh jumbo prawns. A tiny bit of soy sauce instead of stockpots. Lemon wedges are fine instead of the lime.
Marco White says it's quick to cook. The preparation time takes me longer than the cooking time. I can't slice cherry tomatoes, peppers, basil as fast as he can. Cous cous expands a lot in hot water - it may take a couple of attempts to get the amount right. I heat the cous cous briefly on the hob towards the end (just before adding the veggies fruit and herb) in order for it to be served as a hot dish.
You can make a large batch so that the following day you have the cous cous, tomato, basil, peppers as a salad.
It is moreish to eat and the price is OK compared to burgers and chips.
If as a 14 year old, you can get competent at making your own version of Marco White's cous cous, you're well on the way to a lifetime of great home cooking for yourself.
Overall this is a great bit of cooking for a 14 year old.
It seems that your mum and grandma may have shirked their responsibilities when it comes to helping you with nutrition, food shopping and cooking.
I bet they've never given you a few days off from your chores so you could read a book on nutrition. Such as How Not To Die, or the sequel How Not To Diet.
I bet they haven't shown you how to cook delicious nutritious meals from first principles. Nor allowed you the time to watch a selection of how-to cooking videos.
I bet they haven't shown you good vegetable slicing technique.
I bet they haven't even provided you with a decent sharp 8" kitchen knife and a sharp pairing knife.
So that when they make no comments or negative comments on your cooking, the fault is entirely with them. But they won't see it that way, because they're terrible managers / supervisors / leaders.
I bet that's a pattern for other stuff they pick on you about?
Try cooking this:
I use fresh red seedless grapes (sliced in half) instead of raisins. Frozen prawns or other boneless white fish is OK instead of fresh jumbo prawns. A tiny bit of soy sauce instead of stockpots. Lemon wedges are fine instead of the lime.
Marco White says it's quick to cook. The preparation time takes me longer than the cooking time. I can't slice cherry tomatoes, peppers, basil as fast as he can. Cous cous expands a lot in hot water - it may take a couple of attempts to get the amount right. I heat the cous cous briefly on the hob towards the end (just before adding the veggies fruit and herb) in order for it to be served as a hot dish.
You can make a large batch so that the following day you have the cous cous, tomato, basil, peppers as a salad.
It is moreish to eat and the price is OK compared to burgers and chips.
If as a 14 year old, you can get competent at making your own version of Marco White's cous cous, you're well on the way to a lifetime of great home cooking for yourself.
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