Should I break up with my boyfriend

When me and my boyfriend met it was a bit awkward because he’s my ex boyfriend’s brother. At first I was like no way I am not gonna catch feelings for my exes brother but my friends reasoned with me saying it didn’t matter because my ex was dating my ex best friend anyways. My friends had a crazy idea to loyalty test my boyfriend because he’s been leaving me on opened lately for 9 hours at a time. He responded to her by saying I don’t like blonds and blocking her but he never told me. My friends said she was only blocked for being blond considering he didn’t bring me up at all. I also told him I was crying and he left me on opened for 3 hours and when he replied he said “I’m bored” I told my friends and they said he was a massive red flag and we should break up. I really don’t know what to do any advice? He was super loving at first responding almost immediately and even staying up till 5am just to say good morning to me. Now he shows little to no effort.I started to SH due to family issues only 3 of my friends know and I don’t wanna tell my boyfriend because what if he breaks up with me . My other friend who dosent know about my SH said no one likes a girl with ugly scars so now I really don’t know I love him still.

When me and my boyfriend met it was a bit awkward because he’s my ex boyfriend’s brother. At first I was like no way I am not gonna catch feelings for my exes brother but my friends reasoned with me saying it didn’t matter because my ex was dating my ex best friend anyways. My friends had a crazy idea to loyalty test my boyfriend because he’s been leaving me on opened lately for 9 hours at a time. He responded to her by saying I don’t like blonds and blocking her but he never told me. My friends said she was only blocked for being blond considering he didn’t bring me up at all. I also told him I was crying and he left me on opened for 3 hours and when he replied he said “I’m bored” I told my friends and they said he was a massive red flag and we should break up. I really don’t know what to do any advice? He was super loving at first responding almost immediately and even staying up till 5am just to say good morning to me. Now he shows little to no effort.I started to SH due to family issues only 3 of my friends know and I don’t wanna tell my boyfriend because what if he breaks up with me . My other friend who dosent know about my SH said no one likes a girl with ugly scars so now I really don’t know I love him still.

Girl. Break up. Where is ur self respect? you deserve better, even though this may sound cliche but you seem like a very caring person and there is defo men out there that are better than whatever ur boyfriend is. Also I want to say that I used to talk to someone EXACTLY like that I mean exactly, he was the nicest at first and then kinda put in 0 effort. It is more to do about him than you. First of all, he should not be leaving you on open that long, like ever, just shows how little respect he has for you. Also the fact that you went to him and said you were crying and instead of saying anything comforting he replies that hes 'bored'??? he reminds me of my ex he is just a selfish loser. The effort he put at the beginning is not real it's an act they all do that, their real colours show a couple of months in. I know it might be hard pill to swallow but maybe ur attached to him rather than you "love" him.
Attachment can seem like love when someone hasn't experienced what love acc is. The fact that he switches up whenever he wants to and doesn't consider ur feelings at any given moment says a lot.
Please please break up, focus on urself and you will find soo much better. Do not settle!!!

When me and my boyfriend met it was a bit awkward because he’s my ex boyfriend’s brother. At first I was like no way I am not gonna catch feelings for my exes brother but my friends reasoned with me saying it didn’t matter because my ex was dating my ex best friend anyways. My friends had a crazy idea to loyalty test my boyfriend because he’s been leaving me on opened lately for 9 hours at a time. He responded to her by saying I don’t like blonds and blocking her but he never told me. My friends said she was only blocked for being blond considering he didn’t bring me up at all. I also told him I was crying and he left me on opened for 3 hours and when he replied he said “I’m bored” I told my friends and they said he was a massive red flag and we should break up. I really don’t know what to do any advice? He was super loving at first responding almost immediately and even staying up till 5am just to say good morning to me. Now he shows little to no effort.I started to SH due to family issues only 3 of my friends know and I don’t wanna tell my boyfriend because what if he breaks up with me . My other friend who dosent know about my SH said no one likes a girl with ugly scars so now I really don’t know I love him still.

There may be valid reasons to break up but you’ve not listed any.
Your taking advise from friends who advised you to try trap and gameplay rather than be direct. That’s daft. Your also unwilling to talk about important things with him.
Not responding for a few hours is not a valid reason to break up. He has a life outside your relationship.

It’s not just hours sometimes it’s days or weeks and I’m left on opened the second 8 send the text it’s like he reads them but dosent wanna reply.

Yes, that means little. I often read with opening via the notification and I often don’t respond both because I’m busy but also because I find texting/messaging to be extremely tedious.
If he’s going days then that does indicate a problem and long distance rarely works but I’d recommend calling rather than messaging.
The wider point though for women in general is that your boyfriend is not your entertainer and that whichever of your friends advised you to gameplay is going to end up single.
Call him and be direct.

he hates calling and dosent answer when I try

It’s not just hours sometimes it’s days or weeks and I’m left on opened the second 8 send the text it’s like he reads them but dosent wanna reply.

don't listen to the guy ur replying to he clearly does know what he's talking about. I have a lot of friends in a healthy relationship and this is not how they get treated. Everything you have said shows he's the type of guy to lose interest really quickly which has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and him being inconsiderate of your feelings, which he didn't even try to hide. You are going to wish you had broken up with him earlier. Theres plenty of fish in the sea once you get out of the relationship you'll realise how mediocre his is.

don't listen to the guy ur replying to he clearly does know what he's talking about. I have a lot of friends in a healthy relationship and this is not how they get treated. Everything you have said shows he's the type of guy to lose interest really quickly which has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him and him being inconsiderate of your feelings, which he didn't even try to hide. You are going to wish you had broken up with him earlier. Theres plenty of fish in the sea once you get out of the relationship you'll realise how mediocre his is.

Yea I broke up with him 10 minutes ago he has not even read it yet the last straw was me telling my friend group I am 3 days clean and he said in the chat “lol you should cut yourself again I think emos are hotter anyway”

When me and my boyfriend met it was a bit awkward because he’s my ex boyfriend’s brother. At first I was like no way I am not gonna catch feelings for my exes brother but my friends reasoned with me saying it didn’t matter because my ex was dating my ex best friend anyways. My friends had a crazy idea to loyalty test my boyfriend because he’s been leaving me on opened lately for 9 hours at a time. He responded to her by saying I don’t like blonds and blocking her but he never told me. My friends said she was only blocked for being blond considering he didn’t bring me up at all. I also told him I was crying and he left me on opened for 3 hours and when he replied he said “I’m bored” I told my friends and they said he was a massive red flag and we should break up. I really don’t know what to do any advice? He was super loving at first responding almost immediately and even staying up till 5am just to say good morning to me. Now he shows little to no effort.I started to SH due to family issues only 3 of my friends know and I don’t wanna tell my boyfriend because what if he breaks up with me . My other friend who dosent know about my SH said no one likes a girl with ugly scars so now I really don’t know I love him still.