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Reply 1
Have you googled it?
Use the Google Directory - its quite good for this sort of thing, find a decent advice page and have hours of informative reading :smile:

I, personally, flirt a bit in a jokey way with friends but I find it a lot more difficult with people that i don't know very well. Its a confidence thing really.

Give googling it a go and I'll think of some general pointers for you :smile:
Reply 2
cheerz!
never imagine that i can google this sort of thing though...
Reply 3
Brainstorm
cheerz!
never imagine that i can google this sort of thing though...

Yeah you can... just use the directory :smile:
Hmm... I've realised, I'm hardly a reliable font of all knowledge to do with flirting... sorry! I hope google brings you some useful stuff back
Reply 4
*laughs* Here's another question: how can you -not- flirt?

Flirting is fairly easy so long as you are confident about yourself.. I always try to keep it fun and yet be myself at the same time! Eye contact's a useful tool, though I guess it's possible to overdo it..

I don't know what right I have to give you advice really.. I can flirt absolutely no problem with heaps of friends and it works brilliantly.. but can I get a response from the one man I want? No! Damn him.. grr.
Reply 5
actually i just tried joke with this lad i fancy but he didn't think it was funny...such a awkward situation...
Reply 6
Brainstorm
all you kind TSR people, please tell me (im a girl) how to flirt, both verbally and physically (ie body language)? :confused:

I think the february issue of Cosmo girl has a little book of flirtology that you may find useful :smile:
Reply 7
spin
*laughs* Here's another question: how can you -not- flirt?

Flirting is fairly easy so long as you are confident about yourself.. I always try to keep it fun and yet be myself at the same time! Eye contact's a useful tool, though I guess it's possible to overdo it..

I don't know what right I have to give you advice really.. I can flirt absolutely no problem with heaps of friends and it works brilliantly.. but can I get a response from the one man I want? No! Damn him.. grr.


im totally crap at eye contact, i would lose my breathe if i tried to do it...
Reply 8
Brainstorm
actually i just tried joke with this lad i fancy but he didn't think it was funny...such a awkward situation...


Oops :smile: I've done that before now.. I find it gets easier the more you talk to someone.. after a while you can judge so much better the sort of things that will appeal to their humour.

It took me months to work out how to make the chap I was chasing laugh, but I can do it all the time now. He still doesn't fancy me though, lol.
Reply 9
*sigh*
just a quick question: why i always fancy someone who doesn't fancy me?
Reply 10
Brainstorm
*sigh*
just a quick question: why i always fancy someone who doesn't fancy me?

Thats called the law of sod. I've been sentenced to many months of heartache from that bit of emotional legislation.
Reply 11
punch them and then run away :smile:
Reply 12
katiesado
punch them and then run away :smile:


thats a really good suggestion but this lad is like 6 foot 4 so im afraid i wont get away with it easily...
Reply 13
katiesado
punch them and then run away :smile:

How is that flirting? :confused: I'd call that assault personally...
Reply 14
Brainstorm
*sigh*
just a quick question: why i always fancy someone who doesn't fancy me?


sometimes it's safer to like someone who doesn't like you because a lot of us just are scared of what would happen in a deep intimate relationship where we could get seriously damaged. we mostly accuse men of having a fear of intimacy but it's totally something all of us are afflicted with. (new age rant over). of course other times it's just the way it works and is sad :frown:
Reply 15
Mad Vlad
How is that flirting? :confused: I'd call that assault personally...


just joking :biggrin:

it's how we all flirted when we were 12 and just couldn't deal with all the sexual tension of our middle school lives.
Reply 16
Brainstorm
thats a really good suggestion but this lad is like 6 foot 4 so im afraid i wont get away with it easily...


that's when it gets fun... :wink:
Reply 17
katiesado
just joking :biggrin:

it's how we all flirted when we were 12 and just couldn't deal with all the sexual tension of our middle school lives.

I didnt do that when I was 12! :frown: *feels left out*
Then again... I wanted a career in computer programming and the thought of ever even brushing past a girl made me think "cooties" :rolleyes:
Reply 18
Mad Vlad
I didnt do that when I was 12! :frown: *feels left out*


it's not too late. i still flirt that way at my less sophisticated times :p: . the great thing about it is that it really actually works sometimes.
Reply 19
Being flirteous isn't a good thing you know?

Well if you really wanna know - it comes naturally. When you like a guy, it comes comes up, tiny, subtle things that sound mildly flirty - enough to send a message, not enough to make you sound like a tart. Doing it too deliberately can make you sound a bit... The ones that come natural are never strong enough to get your judged, but just enough to have a bit of fun and get the guy's attention :biggrin:

But don't quote me on this cus I don't flirt often - and times when I've noticed I was flirting it wasn't even deliberate... but made me realise I fancied the guy :biggrin: but not enough to make him think I fancied him :biggrin: