Am I screwed if I didn't date in Uni?

I'm a final year university student and have around 2 months left until uni finishes. I regret not my putting myself out there in uni. I did have a social life and went out, but at the same time I was a bit of recluse, focused on getting a first. As a result, I never had a serious relationship, and I'm worried about how dating will look after graduating. I feel like uni was a good opportunity as I had so many people of the same age and similar interests around me, and I regret not taking that opportunity.

Reply 1

anosmianAcrimony

20

University is a good opportunity to meet people but you're not "screwed" if you didn't date. Focusing on getting a first is a great goal and will set you up well.

I essentially didn't go on any dates in uni and I'm now happily with my boyfriend. Don't lose hope!

Reply 2

Zarek

21

I found starting work led to more opportunities. Uni was a claustrophobic and surprisingly unnatural dating environment. If you got the first it was well worth the prioritisation

Reply 3

Wired_1800

20

Original post by Anonymous

I'm a final year university student and have around 2 months left until uni finishes. I regret not my putting myself out there in uni. I did have a social life and went out, but at the same time I was a bit of recluse, focused on getting a first. As a result, I never had a serious relationship, and I'm worried about how dating will look after graduating. I feel like uni was a good opportunity as I had so many people of the same age and similar interests around me, and I regret not taking that opportunity.

There is no point in looking harshly at the past. You made the decisions, so best to move on.

Take your opportunities when they present them.

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Reply 4

Dunnig Kruger

18

I like the choice of words in the thread title. That's a good pun.

Try living in the present moment. Try living day by day. With each day being as amazing or productive as you can make it.
Learn from the lessons of the past, but don't dwell on them so much that they subtract from how wonderful each day is.

Embrace the uncertainty of the future. Accept that bad things and setbacks will happen.
Setting goals and working towards them makes a lot of sense. As long as you avoid an "I'll be happy when" mentality. One where you think "I'll be happy when I get a first". You get a first and then you think "I'll be happy when I get a girlfriend or boyfriend". And then you think I'll be happy when I get a job. I'll be happy when I get promoted. I'll be happy when I get a car / house / have children / bigger house / get married / start my own business / retire.

Your time is now. Your time to be happy is now.

Reply 5

Smack

20

Original post by Anonymous

I'm a final year university student and have around 2 months left until uni finishes. I regret not my putting myself out there in uni. I did have a social life and went out, but at the same time I was a bit of recluse, focused on getting a first. As a result, I never had a serious relationship, and I'm worried about how dating will look after graduating. I feel like uni was a good opportunity as I had so many people of the same age and similar interests around me, and I regret not taking that opportunity.

No it won't really affect you going forward. Whilst university can be a good environment for dating and relationships because it's usually quite a social place, not everyone participates in that side of things, and there can still be plenty of opportunities to do so after graduation.

Am I screwed if I didn't date in Uni?

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