No friend at uni almost near the end of first year
Reply 1
Hi there,
I am really sorry to hear about this - it sounds really frustrating and it can be hard at Uni when you are finding it more difficult to find your type of people so I completely understand how you feel. Here are some ways that I have made friends at Uni or people I know have made friends.
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Joining some groups on social media. This can be a good way of meeting some new people and making some new friends. There will often be groups on social media such as Facebook where you can meet people who are studying at your uni and it is a good way of meeting people you otherwise may not.
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I know you said societies aren't your type of friends, but it might be worth trying this again in the new year. There may be a different society you might enjoy more and there will be lots of options so it is worth a try. You might meet different people than before too!
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If you don't want to do this, have a look and see if there are any local clubs in your area that you can join. There will often be groups and sports teams in the local area so have a look as this will be completely different people to at Uni!
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See if your student union puts any events on. Quite often the SU will put events on throughout the year that you can attend and you will meet people by doing this. It's worth looking anyway!
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Try and talk to the people in your lectures and seminars after class! Even if you don't think they are your type of people, you might get to know them and realise that you get on with them really well!
I hope some of this helps,
Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
Reply 2
Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear this. Not making the right friends can definitely affect you however what I learnt is to have patience. Having someone to talk to during lessons and after is important. I understand how you must be feeling so here's some ways I made friends at university:
-I'm not sure if you commute or live in accommodation but I made some of my best friends from living with them during university. Some things that helped me to meet people and build connections were: having my door open sometimes, suggesting to do a food shop and make meals together and spending time in the communal areas.
-If you commute, then making the most of your time on campus is important. Going to any student support or student union events that are run. There will be more students in a similar boat than you think so you are mostly likely to meet someone at these events.
-Since you mentioned societies not being for you, it may be worth checking out any local clubs or events that are on. These would be great to meet likeminded people as an alternative to societies.
-Suggesting to go for lunch with your course mates or go to an event after class and just getting your self out there is a another way I made more friends. I felt like you to start with often and didn't think they were my people but giving it some time helped me realise that they are more than I thought.
-Meeting new people on social media is also a great tool. I did this as soon as I started university and met people from my course and accommodation. But there may also be group chats of people within the city of the university who aren't students but have similar interests.
-Working part time whilst studying is where I met the majority of my friends I have now. Not everyone works whilst studying but I also know a lot of students do, so that is another great way to meet new people.
Hopefully next year, you can attend the freshers fairs again and who knows you will meet someone there. We do have a handy page of tips and ways to make friends, which you can access here: How to make friends at uni
Best wishes, ^Zac
Reply 3
It sounds like a bit of a tough situation there! Firstly, it is important to remember that you are not alone; many university students feel this way, but not many students will vocalise it. University can be difficult, there are so many different people coming from different backgrounds and experiences. Sometimes, it can be difficult to find your 'type' of people!
It's important to be yourself and continue to focus on your studies, you will thank yourself later! However, it's also nice to meet people throughout your university degree. My tips for this would be:
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Join a society (or make one) - As daunting as it may sound, joining a society can give you plenty of opportunities to meet like-minded people, and get to know your acquaintances you mentioned.
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If you can't find a society in the university that you enjoy, try looking further afield, for example, at local clubs that your university town has to offer, this could be an athletics club, a crocheting or arts and crafts club.
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Thirdly, try contacting your university's wellbeing team, they sometimes offer events which allow people to come together, but they are normally in much smaller settings, which can feel less overwhelming. Similarly, you can try attending your university's Student Union events.
Good Luck!
Han - 2nd Year Mental Health Nursing Student
WrexhamUniReps
Reply 4
Hi there,
I'm sorry to hear this. Many students struggle with making friends, but not many are vocal about it, so remember you are not alone in feeling this way! It can be difficult to find the right type of friends too, which is why it is so important to branch out and pursue the things you are interested in. You'll be bound to find friends there!
I know just how difficult it can be, so I just wanted to share some ways I have met people at university:
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Join a club in your local area or volunteer - there are so many clubs and volunteer opportunities out there, it just takes a little searching. I've met some great people from my experiences, and it's also a great way to do something different and branch out in your community.
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Chat to others in your accommodation - if you live in university accommodation, it would be worth trying to get to know the people you are living with. This is how I met my friends! It's a great place to start, as you already have something in common.
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Make an effort with your acquaintances - as you've said, you have acquaintances, but are struggling to find good friends. Consider suggesting a study session, going out to get coffee, or planning an activity to do together with those you already know. You might find that you get on better than you thought, and just had to break that awkwardness of not knowing each other very well!
I hope this helps,
Isabella
Fourth-Year Geography (With a Year Abroad)
Reply 5
You seem quite focused on what you would get from a friendship without really thinking about what you would offer or give to a friend. That might be why you’re struggling to connect with people beyond the superficial level.
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