no motivation at university.

Basically I'm in my first year of university studying a subject I thought I enjoyed but I have no motivation to do anything. I always sleep in and I haven't been to a lecture in nearly 2 months. I just spend all my time in my room playing video games or just on my phone. I'm so far behind on all my classes and I have an incredibly bad procrastination problem, like I just can't do anything until it's the night before or the day something is due. Recently I've noticed that I don't really have much of an appetite anymore. I was the exact same in highschool, I would always start to revise a few days before the exam and I always got away with it. But now It's gotten way worse than ever before and I'm worried that this will finally be the time I get what's coming to me. I have just over a month until my exams start and I know literally nothing about my modules and I feel so disappointed in myself because I know that if I just tried from the start then I would do really well. I just feel like there is no point even starting now if I'm just going to do bad anyway. Also, I stay in a hall of residence and I have absolutely no friends, I never say a word to anyone. I only know a few friends from school but even then I only speak to them like once a week and I get the impression they don't even like me tbh. I'm just a spare friend to them as they all spend much more time together. so basically I'm alone all the time. I just feel like such a failure recently and idk what to do. I know that even if I somehow pass first year then I'll end up doing the exact same thing again next year and I will 100% fail if I do that. wtf is wrong with me ?? how do I fix myself.

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Anonymous #2

Hi there,

I’m no expert here, but hope this helps. :smile:

The first thing to do is to stop playing the self-blame-game. Yes, “things might have been better if I did this and this” that’s dwelling in the past, the what-ifs can be reflected (calmly, objectively and without badmouthing yourself) after your exams. Right now, focus on completing doable tasks.

Okay, what are doable tasks? Anything that’s realistic and achievable. It could be finishing the week 1 homework assignments or finishing the week 1 reading material. It could even be something as small as reading one line of text at a time of doing one homework question at a time. It might not seem like much at first, but a lot of a little eventually makes a lot. The goal is to get your motivation up and completing a task, no matter how small, can be the first step towards achieving that. :smile:

Next, a place to study. Having the place be neat, tidy and quiet helps and try to get rid of all possible distractions ranging from game counsels, your phone (those things are designed to be addictive, try to get them out of sight!) or anything else. It might even help to study somewhere else, like in your university library.

Also important, mindset. It’s true, you might have joined the study party on the later side, but hey, better late than never, right? :smile:

Know this, no matter how this exam goes, the knowledge you will acquire will come in handy for the future, if you don’t pass this exam, you’ll benefit from it in the future, on top of that your mentality will benefit by starting. :smile:

(And if your exams are usually uniformly designed, for example 10 questions for 10 characters, then you might be able to pass if you study the first 6 chapters really well.)

Furthermore, studies have shown that music can help with focus, it’s advised to listen to calm instrumental music. Here’s one for you to try out. :smile:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=efPLgLU-SEA

On the topic of making friends, maybe you could check you whether your university organizes any activities? Maybe you can go to a few and hopefully form a few friendships. :smile:

And one more thing, I don’t know if you are a Christian, but I know and believe that you are perfectly and wonderfully made, you are loved by the Creator of the World and He is PROUD of you. Not because of what you’ve achieved, but because you are who you are. You belong to Him and He wants you as a friend, not a spare friend, but someone who He’ll give His full attention to. Your worth is not based off of what you have and will achieve, but on the constant unchanging love of Christ. :smile:

Here’s another song for you. :smile:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EwSyLLHdvlo

And a few more words of encouragement. :smile:

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.”
**1 Peter‬ *5‬:*7‬ *NIV‬‬

““I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.””
**John‬ *16‬:*33‬ *NIV‬‬

“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
**Matthew‬ *6‬:*34‬ *NIV‬‬

I’ll keep you in my prayers. God bless you and have a good day!