I love my partner, but we can't have conversations
For context, we are both autistic and so somewhat lacking in social skills.
I love my partner immensely. I intend to marry them and genuinely believe we're soulmates. We're childhood friends - we've known each other for twelve years and been lovers for three, but even after all this time we struggle to have conversations with each other.
Most of our talking now is them nerding about their characters (which I don't mind for the record), me sharing music or telling them about my day, or mindless small talk. Is this normal for relationships, or relationships between autistic people? Is there anything I can do to have better conversations with my partner?
I love my partner immensely. I intend to marry them and genuinely believe we're soulmates. We're childhood friends - we've known each other for twelve years and been lovers for three, but even after all this time we struggle to have conversations with each other.
Most of our talking now is them nerding about their characters (which I don't mind for the record), me sharing music or telling them about my day, or mindless small talk. Is this normal for relationships, or relationships between autistic people? Is there anything I can do to have better conversations with my partner?
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by AnonymousFor context, we are both autistic and so somewhat lacking in social skills.
I love my partner immensely. I intend to marry them and genuinely believe we're soulmates. We're childhood friends - we've known each other for twelve years and been lovers for three, but even after all this time we struggle to have conversations with each other.
Most of our talking now is them nerding about their characters (which I don't mind for the record), me sharing music or telling them about my day, or mindless small talk. Is this normal for relationships, or relationships between autistic people? Is there anything I can do to have better conversations with my partner?
I love my partner immensely. I intend to marry them and genuinely believe we're soulmates. We're childhood friends - we've known each other for twelve years and been lovers for three, but even after all this time we struggle to have conversations with each other.
Most of our talking now is them nerding about their characters (which I don't mind for the record), me sharing music or telling them about my day, or mindless small talk. Is this normal for relationships, or relationships between autistic people? Is there anything I can do to have better conversations with my partner?
i don't really know much about autistic traits but it would possibly help if you guys had some more shared experiences. like, any hobbies you both like? do you still go on dates? experiencing new, fun things together would defo give you more stuff to talk about
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by AnonymousFor context, we are both autistic and so somewhat lacking in social skills.
I love my partner immensely. I intend to marry them and genuinely believe we're soulmates. We're childhood friends - we've known each other for twelve years and been lovers for three, but even after all this time we struggle to have conversations with each other.
Most of our talking now is them nerding about their characters (which I don't mind for the record), me sharing music or telling them about my day, or mindless small talk. Is this normal for relationships, or relationships between autistic people? Is there anything I can do to have better conversations with my partner?
I love my partner immensely. I intend to marry them and genuinely believe we're soulmates. We're childhood friends - we've known each other for twelve years and been lovers for three, but even after all this time we struggle to have conversations with each other.
Most of our talking now is them nerding about their characters (which I don't mind for the record), me sharing music or telling them about my day, or mindless small talk. Is this normal for relationships, or relationships between autistic people? Is there anything I can do to have better conversations with my partner?
If you want to create more conversations with your partner, watch the news, popular series/movies etc. Or maybe try to get into deeper questions if your desperate.
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