Aren't girls in relationships scared?

Aren't girls in relationships scared?
Do you not scared of DOING IT and then getting pregnant? I know things are quite successful but I dont think I could ever be in a relationship because my fear of pregnancy and having kids is just too big.
Do you not get scared that they would cheat? I would want to trust them but it would always linger in the back of my mind. Because how do you know if they actually love you - they might say it and show it but for some reason, I cant trust that.
Do you get scared for the future? For example, I know lots of men start becoming lazy or uncaring - how do you protect yourself from this? Because you can't tell the future and you cant exactly trust anyone.
I'm turning 20. I've never been in a relationship with a guy, not even a talking stage. Growing up, I thought relationships were so cute but the more I think about it, the more scared I get. My friend is also in a relationship and my friend has multiple talking stages but like the whole issue is trust.
I like the sound of going on dates, taking cute pictures and the commitment and stability it can bring. However what scares me is that nothing is permanent and people can change for better and for worse. If your dating someone great now, how do you know that in like 5 years or something, they'll be worse?

Aren't girls in relationships scared?
Do you not scared of DOING IT and then getting pregnant? I know things are quite successful but I dont think I could ever be in a relationship because my fear of pregnancy and having kids is just too big.
Do you not get scared that they would cheat? I would want to trust them but it would always linger in the back of my mind. Because how do you know if they actually love you - they might say it and show it but for some reason, I cant trust that.
Do you get scared for the future? For example, I know lots of men start becoming lazy or uncaring - how do you protect yourself from this? Because you can't tell the future and you cant exactly trust anyone.
I'm turning 20. I've never been in a relationship with a guy, not even a talking stage. Growing up, I thought relationships were so cute but the more I think about it, the more scared I get. My friend is also in a relationship and my friend has multiple talking stages but like the whole issue is trust.
I like the sound of going on dates, taking cute pictures and the commitment and stability it can bring. However what scares me is that nothing is permanent and people can change for better and for worse. If your dating someone great now, how do you know that in like 5 years or something, they'll be worse?

Not a girl. But what’s the whole purpose of protection. Secondly what’s the purpose of boundaries within a relationship. Ones that aren’t controlling although something you both can equally share and have control over. Thirdly do you not take the time or get to know “us” even further beforehand before saying “yes” I believe he’s “right for me or let’s give it a shot by starting a relationship”.
To the last bit I say is compatibility. If the understanding there alongside the commitment and the willingness from both ends for the relationship to work for example the unconditional love and affection you then know that 5 or so years down the line it will still be successful.

I know that protection can be strong but its not 100%. Its still high but its always that 'what if'.
People can still establish boundaries and people still cheat. Boundaries can mean nothing at the end of the day. It doesn't physically stop someone from cheating.
What I meant by the 3rd one is that no one stays the same over time, you could be marrying someone that is the absolute love of your life, someone that you know everything about but it can still end bad. I've many husbands treat their wives with less respect and become lazy when it comes to house chores etc. Stuff like that.

Aren't girls in relationships scared?
Do you not scared of DOING IT and then getting pregnant? I know things are quite successful but I dont think I could ever be in a relationship because my fear of pregnancy and having kids is just too big.
Do you not get scared that they would cheat? I would want to trust them but it would always linger in the back of my mind. Because how do you know if they actually love you - they might say it and show it but for some reason, I cant trust that.
Do you get scared for the future? For example, I know lots of men start becoming lazy or uncaring - how do you protect yourself from this? Because you can't tell the future and you cant exactly trust anyone.
I'm turning 20. I've never been in a relationship with a guy, not even a talking stage. Growing up, I thought relationships were so cute but the more I think about it, the more scared I get. My friend is also in a relationship and my friend has multiple talking stages but like the whole issue is trust.
I like the sound of going on dates, taking cute pictures and the commitment and stability it can bring. However what scares me is that nothing is permanent and people can change for better and for worse. If your dating someone great now, how do you know that in like 5 years or something, they'll be worse?

You hit the nail on the head when you spoke of trust.
You’ve been taught not to trust men and you need to find out why, be that feminist rubbish or your parents having a poor marriage.
It’s worth saying that statistically, women are far more likely to initiate a divorce than the other way.

Aren't girls in relationships scared?
Do you not scared of DOING IT and then getting pregnant? I know things are quite successful but I dont think I could ever be in a relationship because my fear of pregnancy and having kids is just too big.
Do you not get scared that they would cheat? I would want to trust them but it would always linger in the back of my mind. Because how do you know if they actually love you - they might say it and show it but for some reason, I cant trust that.
Do you get scared for the future? For example, I know lots of men start becoming lazy or uncaring - how do you protect yourself from this? Because you can't tell the future and you cant exactly trust anyone.
I'm turning 20. I've never been in a relationship with a guy, not even a talking stage. Growing up, I thought relationships were so cute but the more I think about it, the more scared I get. My friend is also in a relationship and my friend has multiple talking stages but like the whole issue is trust.
I like the sound of going on dates, taking cute pictures and the commitment and stability it can bring. However what scares me is that nothing is permanent and people can change for better and for worse. If your dating someone great now, how do you know that in like 5 years or something, they'll be worse?

because a lot of men can't be trusted. sure, 'not all men' whatever, but a large proportion of men... literally every bad thing that’s happened to me in life involved a man.

Have you ever had to trust or make yourself vulnerable to a female the same way tho?
IME the sort of people who cheat are cheaters, there's no significant distinction between men and women beyond a possibly more toxic and laddish culture some men attach to it.

Is male encouragement really more toxic than females avoiding accountability and being told that’s a valid opinion by their own friends (I.e. I cheated on him because he wasnt satisfying me emotionally).

Have you ever had to trust or make yourself vulnerable to a female the same way tho?
IME the sort of people who cheat are cheaters, there's no significant distinction between men and women beyond a possibly more toxic and laddish culture some men attach to it.

well, no, for obvious reasons. but in my post, i wasn’t just referring to cheaters (though i do think it’s way easier for men to have no-strings-attached relationships, which makes men more likely to cheat - like, if you compare tinder to grindr, the difference in how both genders approach the whole thing is pretty stark). what i was really talking about tho is relationships in general, meeting new people, and opening up to them. i think it makes sense for women to have trouble trusting men. like, what’s the worst thing most women might do to you, even if you run into a slightly psycho one? hurt your feelings, blow up your phone, talk **** about you to their friends. slap you, meaybe. a psycho man will rape or batter you... just look at the statistics

By the first bit I was really just trying to show that your experiences with women won't be like mine, you likely haven't been on that side of a cheating/failed relationship with one or more to build prejudice.
When you talk of managing or dealing with 'slightly psycho' women.... bro, even you might be surprised I'm a basically decent guy but I've been woken with blades at my throat, blender jugs of blood thrown me, 10 police jumping out in force and nearly getting myself killed because the girl just said 'someone is after me' and didn't elaborate 😅 I've seen so many needless fights where a girl had their new guy or a bunch of their friends/hopers to batter their ex.

your taste in women must be similar to my taste in men then, i'm sorry....