Does anyone else regret their choice of Uni?

So, I’ve been in University for almost 2 years and I regret my choice every single day. It’s like this gut feeling that gnaws at me every second I am there. I look at other people in university, and they look so happy and seem to be having the best time. I don’t go out, I don’t have many friends, I have to work whereas they don’t. It’s genuinely gut wrenching and quite heartbreaking. I used to be so confident, and now I am not. I feel like I lost who I used to be because of my decision to study at the university I am at.

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PQ

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Do you have any thoughts about what you would have chosen to do instead?

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by PQ

Do you have any thoughts about what you would have chosen to do instead?

my course isn’t the problem, it’s the uni itself! i just don’t like it, very cliquey so if you didn’t find friends at the start - you don’t really make any. i’ve got a few, but it’s hard seeing everyone out all the time - i didn’t live on campus which was my biggest mistake. and now i just dread going there.

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PQ

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Original post by Anonymous

my course isn’t the problem, it’s the uni itself! i just don’t like it, very cliquey so if you didn’t find friends at the start - you don’t really make any. i’ve got a few, but it’s hard seeing everyone out all the time - i didn’t live on campus which was my biggest mistake. and now i just dread going there.

That’s tough.
Have you looked into transferring? It’s not a simple process and could mean repeating second year but if you’re unhappy it’s difficult to get everything out of your degree and time at university

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swanseaLM

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Original post by PQ

That’s tough.
Have you looked into transferring? It’s not a simple process and could mean repeating second year but if you’re unhappy it’s difficult to get everything out of your degree and time at university

I feel there’s no point, I only have one year left and am on track to do quite well! it’s just a shame it’s now how I wanted it to be really :frown:

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University of Bath

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Original post by swanseaLM

I feel there’s no point, I only have one year left and am on track to do quite well! it’s just a shame it’s now how I wanted it to be really :frown:

Hi Swansea,

I'm sorry to hear you're struggling and it sounds like you're going through a tough time at the moment.

Its great to hear you have a few friends you can chat to and see - I'd definitely recommend leaning on them and trying to see them as much as you can outside lectures. Do you think joining a new society for your final year would be worth a try? I found at Bath that its never too late to meet people and try something different and new. I joined a new group in my final year and actually it was a really good way to meet new friends and force me to balance my time around working on my dissertation.

What I'd also say is that the grass is always greener. By that, I mean that even though going to another uni sounds like it would be better, this is not necessarily true. After all, it sounds like you're doing all the right things by getting on with your work, keeping in contact with a few friends and doing well with your course - and that's the important thing!

You have 1 year left. I am confident that things can get brighter for you if you look to the future and where you want to be in a couple of years time. You'll hopefully have graduated with good marks, and be on your way into a career you will enjoy and taking on the next chapter in your life. Even if things are very difficult now, these times don't last forever.

I hope that helps - best of luck with your last year 🙂

Holly
University of Bath

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primaveraa2

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No, I don't regret choosing my university. It was only last year when I had difficult lectures that I doubted that I chose this university. But even then I found a way out of the situation. My friend recommended CanadianWritings https://canadianwritings.com/ to me, which helped me with math and statistics. I'm very happy that this period is finally over and now I don't have difficult lectures.

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hallamstudents

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Original post by Anonymous

So, I’ve been in University for almost 2 years and I regret my choice every single day. It’s like this gut feeling that gnaws at me every second I am there. I look at other people in university, and they look so happy and seem to be having the best time. I don’t go out, I don’t have many friends, I have to work whereas they don’t. It’s genuinely gut wrenching and quite heartbreaking. I used to be so confident, and now I am not. I feel like I lost who I used to be because of my decision to study at the university I am at.

Hi there,

I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling like this. It's really hard at Uni when you feel this way and I completely understand how you feel.

While I have never regretted the Uni I chose, it did take me a while in first year to find 'my people' and it can be quite disheartening when you see people who look like they are having the best time ever. The first thing I would say is try not to compare yourself to anyone else at Uni. I know this is much easier said than done but there will be lots of people who are not enjoying themselves as much as it looks, or there will just be lots of people in the same situation as you in general so try not to worry about this too much.

In terms of making friends, here are some ways that I met people or know others who have made friends this way:

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I am sure you will have heard this, but joining societies. I know you might think you are too late but honestly so many people join them in their second or third year and there is no reason why you wouldn't make friends because you are joining later than some others. There will be so many people here so maybe have a look in September and see if you like the sound of any!

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If you don't want to do this, you could see if there are any clubs local to you that you could join. There are often lots of clubs or groups for people to join such as sports clubs which are really fun! It might be a good idea to do something completely separate to your uni and you will meet so many people this way that you otherwise wouldn't have met at Uni!

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Have a look on social media. There will quite often be groups on here for every Uni so see if there is one for your Uni and see if you meet anyone this way! It can be a good way of meeting some people that you otherwise wouldn't cross paths with and it can sometimes be less daunting than talking to new people in real life!

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See if your SU puts any events on. Quite often, the student union at Uni will put events on that any student can go to and you can meet some new people while doing something fun and new! It is worth looking as there may be something that takes your fancy!

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As a general tip, try and see if you can talk to one new person a week if you want to meet some new people. You could talk to someone in your lecture, or at work or at an event you go to! Just try and get yourself out there talking to people and the worst thing that can happen is you don't talk to them again but you might meet some people by doing this!

In general, I know it can be really hard and especially when you have to work and some others may not. Just remember that this will pass and you are getting some experience while you are at Uni too!

If you are really struggling, please get in contact with the support team or wellbeing team at Uni. They are so helpful and will speak to so many people like you so they will be able to help you out. It can be so good to just talk to someone about how you feel so make sure you do this.

I hope things get better for you soon,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.

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Thisismyunitsr

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Not really because I went in 2020 and I didn't want to move out due to the lockdowns at the time. It meant that I had a choice of like 2. I would have gone somewhere different if the lockdowns did not take place but I'd probably still be in the same situation as I am now, so it does not matter.

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

I regretted my first university and left for a different one. Loved the second one.

Does anyone else regret their choice of Uni?

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