How to make my husband find a job?

I was smitten with my husband just last year. He did everything in his power to get me and if finally happened. Right in the mist of our love journey I got hired at this law farm. My husband told me that he was against working because he did not want to be told what to do. He also has dreams of becoming a rapper. I do support his dreams but his business is not bringing in any money. Sometimes it’s hard to tell him the truth since I’m so attracted to him. One look in his eyes and I’m smitten all over again. I buy all the groceries. I pay all the bills. He does nothing. He even brings women to our home sometimes when I’m at work. I knew he had a problem before I met him so I tried to not judge him. For our child’s 3rd I had to lie to our family and friends that the gifts were for him. Please help?

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Dunnig Kruger

What does he do with the women he brings to your home?

The 2 of you are incompatible when it comes to money. You have zero chance of a long term happy future with him.
Better to kick him out and divorce him sooner rather than later.

Judging is precisely what you should do - in abundance - when marrying someone or deciding whether to stay married to someone. If they're not good enough you shouldn't spend any more time with them.

Nobody's perfect. However, in order for a couple to be married happily, compatibility is required in 6 key areas.
Money, your approach to earning it, investing it, spending it is one of those key areas.

Does your husband do all the cleaning, food shopping, cooking, gardening, DIY home maintenance? And does he do them to a good standard?

It's nonsense that you had to lie. Being honest would have been a fine approach. People tend to respect you more when you're honest and reveal uncomfortable truths.