How do I react when my reign says something insensitive
Today I was talking with a friend and she said something insensitive I don’t really know how to react. I’m pretty new to this school and she’s the only “good” friend I have but she said something rude out of ignorance and I did not really know how to respond. Usually I call my other friends out or correct them politely but today I just sort of froze and glossed over it I did try to correct her but I stumbled o er my words. I don’t really know why but it has been bothering me the way I reacted for the whole day I really do wish I corrected her on the spot.
Any advice on how to deal with this in the future?
Any advice on how to deal with this in the future?
Original post by Anonymous
Today I was talking with a friend and she said something insensitive I don’t really know how to react. I’m pretty new to this school and she’s the only “good” friend I have but she said something rude out of ignorance and I did not really know how to respond. Usually I call my other friends out or correct them politely but today I just sort of froze and glossed over it I did try to correct her but I stumbled o er my words. I don’t really know why but it has been bothering me the way I reacted for the whole day I really do wish I corrected her on the spot.
Any advice on how to deal with this in the future?
Any advice on how to deal with this in the future?
In future you react as when you "call my other friends out or correct them politely".
The problem here is that this is "the only “good” friend' you have at this school as you're worried about damaging the friendship. However, the fact that "it has been bothering me the way I reacted for the whole day' means you know you can't take the same approach as you did today next time it happens.
If she's a good friend, the relationship should be able to survive you pointing out her saying something insensitive, especially if was said out of ignorance.
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I think that glossing over it, or saying nothing is a better response than calling them out or correcting them politely.
People say ignorant or incorrect stuff all the time. It's not your job to correct them. And there may be times when you think they're wrong, but they're not.
It's no big deal if someone else has an incorrect view.
It's no big deal if a friend says something that's personally insulting towards you - once. If they keep going on about something that's putting you down, that's bullying. You should set boundaries when it comes to bullying.
You could also agree and exaggerate when friends say something foolish.
Or you could deliberately misinterpret what they said and turn it into a compliment.
Overall, you should aim to be in chilled, mucking about, having fun mode - especially when with friends.
For sure there will be times when it's appropriate to be in deep dark serious conversation mode. But between those times, fill the atmosphere with lightness and laughter.
Also aim to never settle for a clique of friends. Look to engage socially with everyone you come across, apart from the nastiest bullies. So that your social circle is developing all the time.
People say ignorant or incorrect stuff all the time. It's not your job to correct them. And there may be times when you think they're wrong, but they're not.
It's no big deal if someone else has an incorrect view.
It's no big deal if a friend says something that's personally insulting towards you - once. If they keep going on about something that's putting you down, that's bullying. You should set boundaries when it comes to bullying.
You could also agree and exaggerate when friends say something foolish.
Or you could deliberately misinterpret what they said and turn it into a compliment.
Overall, you should aim to be in chilled, mucking about, having fun mode - especially when with friends.
For sure there will be times when it's appropriate to be in deep dark serious conversation mode. But between those times, fill the atmosphere with lightness and laughter.
Also aim to never settle for a clique of friends. Look to engage socially with everyone you come across, apart from the nastiest bullies. So that your social circle is developing all the time.
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