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No Job, No Friends, Dysfunctional family and Mental health issues

Hey,
So I graduated in December and have been back home since September. Coming back home has made my mental health even worse- suffer from PTSD and severe depression. I have no friends here anymore due to everyone moving on to live their life. I’m living in a town which has little opportunity to make friends. I tried to network, make friends but nothing ever sticks. I also don’t have enough money to do things and I don’t have family support. My family don’t believe in celebrating things so we did nothing for my birthday and graduation.

I did a very intensive 4 year PA program (2020-2024) which had good career prospects at the time but now it has gone downhill. As someone who comes from a low-income household and with poor mental health, I was looking for financial stability, because ik money has been the root of majority of my problems.

I don’t know what else to do. I use to be very active but everyday I wake up, I have these pain in my chest that my reality is a living nightmare. When I was younger, my hope was everything will get better once I finished my degree and I’m working. But no I’m back to square one again and even worse. At 22 yrs old I have to be home by 10pm everyday and only leave the house before 5 am.
Even if I were to have made friends and hangout, I would have to be back before 10pm.

I’m on the Crisis team now and they say I should go outside cause it’s a “lovely weather” I take the same walks everyday and I don’t even have enough money.

Also for Anyone thinking of doing the Physician associate MSC program, PLS Don’t do it. I have met so many who have started the course this year and I’m shocked when there are soo many ppl unemployed.

Reply 1

Very sorry to hear this . I’ve been trying to warn people but they won’t listen . Maybe they’ll listen to you

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
Hey,
So I graduated in December and have been back home since September. Coming back home has made my mental health even worse- suffer from PTSD and severe depression. I have no friends here anymore due to everyone moving on to live their life. I’m living in a town which has little opportunity to make friends. I tried to network, make friends but nothing ever sticks. I also don’t have enough money to do things and I don’t have family support. My family don’t believe in celebrating things so we did nothing for my birthday and graduation.
I did a very intensive 4 year PA program (2020-2024) which had good career prospects at the time but now it has gone downhill. As someone who comes from a low-income household and with poor mental health, I was looking for financial stability, because ik money has been the root of majority of my problems.
I don’t know what else to do. I use to be very active but everyday I wake up, I have these pain in my chest that my reality is a living nightmare. When I was younger, my hope was everything will get better once I finished my degree and I’m working. But no I’m back to square one again and even worse. At 22 yrs old I have to be home by 10pm everyday and only leave the house before 5 am.
Even if I were to have made friends and hangout, I would have to be back before 10pm.
I’m on the Crisis team now and they say I should go outside cause it’s a “lovely weather” I take the same walks everyday and I don’t even have enough money.
Also for Anyone thinking of doing the Physician associate MSC program, PLS Don’t do it. I have met so many who have started the course this year and I’m shocked when there are soo many ppl unemployed.

Don't worry about anything else until you get your depression controlled. Depression makes people think that things are bad and impossible. Just because depression makes people think this, doesn't mean that it is actually true. Many degrees do not lead to an actual job. Lots and lots of people who have degrees also have jobs that do not need a degree to do them. When your depression is under control and you feel better you can start to look for a job. Sort the depression out first.

Reply 3

Original post by Blueberrypop
Very sorry to hear this . I’ve been trying to warn people but they won’t listen . Maybe they’ll listen to you

Yes, honestly I’ve noticed, I get people want to stay optimistic by the whole situation but it’s very unrealistic. So many student chose to be oblivious about the whole situation while others are being brainwashed by their lecturers that “things will get better”. I have met a few who started the course in September and Jan this year and I’m so shocked that ppl r willing to bet their money on something with so much uncertainty and I know so many now with no jobs.
Anyways u can only do so much to help but if they choose ignorance it’s up to them.

Reply 4

Original post by Flamingo10
Don't worry about anything else until you get your depression controlled. Depression makes people think that things are bad and impossible. Just because depression makes people think this, doesn't mean that it is actually true. Many degrees do not lead to an actual job. Lots and lots of people who have degrees also have jobs that do not need a degree to do them. When your depression is under control and you feel better you can start to look for a job. Sort the depression out first.

Thank you so much that makes me feel alot better honestly. I recently got an offer to work as a Phlebotomist but that starts next month, so I am hoping that would be enough time to get better. But do you have any ideas as to alternative careers path I should look into when applying for masters later on?

Reply 5

Original post by Anonymous
Thank you so much that makes me feel alot better honestly. I recently got an offer to work as a Phlebotomist but that starts next month, so I am hoping that would be enough time to get better. But do you have any ideas as to alternative careers path I should look into when applying for masters later on?

Why don't you try the Phlebotomist job? Once you have a job you may find that you don't actually need a masters degree.

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