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Is she has became toxic or it’s menopause?!

I’ve noticed since a few months that my mom has became somewhat toxic like manipulative, something disrespectful and angry is it her menopause or she has became a mean/toxic all of sudden I’m 23 she 47

Reply 1

Zarek

Might be time to fly the nest

Reply 2

Username123ab

That's just normal mum behaviour

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

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by Anonymous

My mum's mentally ill so she's always kind of been like that but she's going through menopause atm (she's 50) and she is a bit worse than she used to be if she's off her medication. Maybe talk to her and ask if she's ok if it's safe to do that? Menopause does crazy things to the body and messes with hormones.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

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by Username123ab

That's just normal mum behaviour

Not every mum is like that. If they've noticed a change in her behaviour there's likely something going on, whether that be a stressor or hormones. My mum is mentally ill but she has episodes generally when she's more stressed and there's something going on.

Reply 5

Little pecker

Just because she’s going through a menopause doesn’t justify the way she acts

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

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by Little pecker

Just because she’s going through a menopause doesn’t justify the way she acts

It depends, this person is anonymous but I've seen someone else on here who's also 23 call his mum manipulative because she asked him to put jam on his own toast or get himself a plate. I obviously don't know what actions the mum in this case is taking but due to hormones things like lashing out a bit can be quite normal. If it's actual manipulation then it's different. As I've said earlier, my mum is mentally ill and going through menopause atm. She's genuinely manipulative and has destroyed mine and my siblings mental health because of it among other things. If the mum in this case has genuinely become very manipulative and is having actual effects on this person then yes it's not justified, but if she's just lashing out a bit because she's tired and stressed and not in control of her hormones then that's pretty normal, but there are ways she can take responsibility of it by, for example, going on hrt.