Would you want to marry the person you're currently dating?

Tell him if he proposes you'll agree to a pre nup so long there's an inedelity clause

if he wanted to he would've done it a long time ago, lol. his endgame is to probably discard me once he gets bored and get with a woman instead because he wants to have kids.

Isn't that a better reason to offer the carrot I described and tie him down. Even offer to adopt.

Assuming they were poor, no. Obviously a celeb is rich enough that divorce would favour me were it to happen.

eh, i'm not gonna force it, it's his decision if he doesn't wanna get married. and i don't want to be a parent, like ever tbh. i can barely take care of myself when my mental health gets bad, so i would defo just neglect it. if i'm honest, he'd make a pretty awful parent tbh... unless he can find a way to fix his drinking habits and anger issues

If he’s angry and drunk, why would you wish to stay with him at all?

Presumably if you were to marry a woman who had more pre marital assets/wealth than you, you wouldn't have any issue signing a pre nuptial to protect her assets either?
I will say that the law relating to financial remedy cases (which covers divorce and financial support for children) is not quite as straightforward as many think it is in this thread. Pre nuptial agreements are not automatically binding, though the court will have regard to them, and even without one pre marital assets will often largely be protected in a shorter marriage. It's in a longer marriage and assets become intertwined that you'll struggle to separate them out, but even then it's possible to do so in the case of non marital assets like inheritance which has been kept separate from marital assets. Frankly, a lot of the issues that arise in financial remedy cases come from the inability of one or both parties to acknowledge the contribution that the other has made to the relationship and overall marital assets. An obvious example of that is men not acknowledging the contribution of women in raising children, but by no means is that always the case.
Anyway, I have been married (happily, fortunately) for quite a long time by the standards of most people on this site, so I think the answer should probably be yes.

Well this thread was all a bit more cynical and depressing than I expected.
Anyway I'm still deciding if I would want to marry my boyfriend. It's only been like 4-5 months, I don't think I know him well enough yet. Also I'm just not sure about the whole institution of marriage. Not for financial/prenup reasons but because I like the idea of waking up every day and deliberately choosing to be with my partner rather than feeling like it's my only choice, you know?

While it would be in my interest not to, I actually believe in marriage and so yes I would sign it. I’d actually want one with an infidelity clause regardless of her income.

While I do agree that there’s an argument around lost earnings for raising children I still think this is a gynocentric view since it looks upon being a non-working mother as a liability rather than a privilege. I also think it ignores the choice aspect of a woman choosing to rear children and depend on her husband since under current law, it’s not reasonable to suggest she was forced or coerced.

Just as an FYI, if you want an infidelity clause that's enforceable you're likely going to need to plan to move to the US at some point. Not only was no fault divorce recently introduced in this country, which means individuals don't need a reason in the eyes of the law to ask for a divorce, but it's been a much longer established principle that conduct is not taken into consideration in financial remedy cases in this country save for in exceptional circumstances. And suffice to say, adultery is virtually never going to be an exceptional circumstance. Just so you can make plans, depending on how important this is to you of course.
It's not about liability or privilege. It's about contribution to the marriage, and recognising that taking time to raise children is as valuable an endeavour for the purposes of the marriage as earning money. Though I take it that's not something you agree with?

That makes a lot of sense to me. And yes I did not expect us to get into prenup territory either

Thanks for that information, it’s surprising and disappointing. Could an adultery clause not be enforceable separate to the divorce. I.e. the divorce might be awarded 50/50 but you can essentially view the infidelity clause as its own contract so you get the 40% awarded back that way.

Could you see yourself tying the knot with your current significant other?

Fine if the answer is no, some things aren't as serious especially if it's early days in your relationship.

Equally, it could be that you both don't want to follow the tradition/concept of marriage

What do you think?

Can you imagine getting married to your significant other?

Or are things not quite there yet?

I'm interested to hear what people say