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What should I do about my homeless sister?

My sister unfortunately has been going through a lot before she became homeless. Her SA case was dismissed, she's been in and out of hospital for months die to physical and mental health reasons and unfortunately has been dealing with a sketchy landlord (that we will be suing) who forced her out of her home because of rent payment, even though my sister spent most of her money trying to keep the utilities fixed because her landlord wouldn't pay for it in an emergency.

I know it's alot for her, so she's staying with me at the moment. However, it's not sustainable for me to keep her here. She doesn't have her own room, I have to pay for more groceries in order to keep her afloat and I just don't know how long this is gonna be before she gets housing from the council. I'm a full time student who works part time on the weekends with a plethora of other personal things I need to do in the next couple of months and I just don't think I have the needs for her, bit she has nowhere to go. My parents are abusive and we don't talk to them anymore and my older sister doesn't live in London. I love my sister a lot but I'm conflicted on what to do?

(edited 9 months ago)

Reply 1

Ciel.

Original post

by Ojiem

My sister unfortunately has been going through a lot before she became homeless. Her SA case was dismissed, she's been in and out of hospital for months die to physical and mental health reasons and unfortunately has been dealing with a sketchy landlord (that we will be suing) who forced her out of her home because of rent payment, even though my sister spent most of her money trying to keep the utilities fixed because her landlord wouldn't pay for it in an emergency.
I know it's alot for her, so she's staying with me at the moment. However, it's not sustainable for me to keep her here. She doesn't have her own room, I have to pay for more groceries in order to keep her afloat and I just don't know how long this is gonna be before she gets housing from the council. I'm a full time student who works part time on the weekends with a plethora of other personal things I need to do in the next couple of months and I just don't think I have the needs for her, bit she has nowhere to go. My parents are abusive and we don't talk to them anymore and my older sister doesn't live in London. I love my sister a lot but I'm conflicted on what to do?

tbh it depends. if you have a decent relationship with her, then as long as she's not wrecking your house, doing hardcore drugs etc. then just... let her stay until she can find her own place? homeless shelters etc. are dangerous, especially for women. more so, if she's already been a victim of sexual violence in the past.
if she's a horrible person, who actually poses a risk to you then... cut her off completely. sometimes that's what you gotta do, even if it's family.

Reply 2

Username123ab

If you have a good relationship I'd let her stay, encourage her to get a job and contribute but better to have her sleeping on your couch than the streets