How do people talk to people they really like, I always mess up?
Every time I meet a girl I really like, I mess things up. I'm fine hanging out with girls I don't find attractive but every time I meet one I like I screw it up so badly. Like I don't just find it difficult talking to them in the first place, I say and do stupid things. Like at the end of last year before term ended we were all drinking at the pub and I told someone I really liked them in a moment of drunken sincerity and they have barely talked to me after that. Then this year, I did something I massively regret. There's this girl I like and for the first time I seemed to be able to talk to her normally, and things seemed to be going great. Then I viewed several of her instagram stories without realising people can see who views their stories and now she isn't talking to me either. How do people talk to people they really like so easily.
Reply 1
People talk to people they like 'so easily' because (from my experience), they are comfortable speaking to them, they can keep a cool head. From what you've mentioned, it sounds like you're quite anxious around girls you're attracted to, and that's pretty common, even I get nervous when I speak to girls or even talented people (regardless of gender) who I believe are extraordinary, we don't want to slip up and make ourselves look 'bad', but when we're so self-aware of how we speak or act, we tend to slip up worse than say, we didn't pay attention to ourselves. Does that make sense?
Reply 2
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Take an interest, flirt mildly and see if it’s reciprocated before trying to progress with romance. It doesn’t sound like either of these girls felt the same way, so you didn’t really mess it up. And on the Instagram stories, I particularly don’t see a problem, that’s what social media is about
Reply 3
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Why is she not talking to you just because you viewed her stories ! 😭wtff anyways I am girl so when like I boy I talk to him normally by giving myself a pep talk before talking to me and try not to look nervous so basically so shaking or not making eye contact I make direct eye contact when I am talking but I just kind of tell myself don’t make it obvious that you like him so basically when I am talking to him I pretend we are best friends and just talk normally like how I talk all of my other friends
So basically start off as friends and then bring in the flirting ect
And also if the guy I like story I view then he doesn’t stoop talking me but yes nowadays social media is making us stupid so some people think that if you view someone’s story like you did to that girl she probably thought you were stalking her so she stopped talking to you next time don’t view her story or don’t view it instantly
I am honestly not that type of girl who considers viewing my story as stalking but hey everyone has different opinions
Also the guys I have liked previously have considered me viewing their story as stalking so again that could be the reason anyways good luck hopefully this long ass essay helped and at this point I was just rambling
So basically start off as friends and then bring in the flirting ect
And also if the guy I like story I view then he doesn’t stoop talking me but yes nowadays social media is making us stupid so some people think that if you view someone’s story like you did to that girl she probably thought you were stalking her so she stopped talking to you next time don’t view her story or don’t view it instantly
I am honestly not that type of girl who considers viewing my story as stalking but hey everyone has different opinions
Also the guys I have liked previously have considered me viewing their story as stalking so again that could be the reason anyways good luck hopefully this long ass essay helped and at this point I was just rambling
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