Coming out - LGBTQ+

My name is Sebastian, I've transitioned from a woman at the age of 13, and still, around a year later, I haven't come out to anybody other than close friends. This also excludes my family. I would like to come out, but the first time I ever brought up the idea of me transitioning, I was met with a bitter reply. I currently live with my mother as my father is currently not wanted in the picture from my own decisions. As you could imagine, this involved a toll in my mental health. I'm hoping it's maybe just that, and this is a phase because I know that if I come out, I'll be met with rejection again. I was lesbian for around 4 months last year before my (now ex) girlfriend brought up that I seem to come off as more masculine to her, and I decided to monitor my own behaviour before wanting to be trans. More or less, I would like some for of advice on how to come out or if this is really just a phase.

i'm sorry but that sounds insane unless i'm missing something? so you were fine with being a girl, but the second your ex called you too masculine, you decided to be a guy? trans people don't just 'decide' to be trans tbh. also, women can be masculine af too, and there's nothing wrong with that, you don't need to change your gender just to present masculine. don't get me wrong, i'm all for exploring your identity, gender, sexuality, whatever, but don't rush into anything... and by that i mean don't rush into a medical transition at your age. you can ask people to call you a different name, dress however you like but don't take any drastic steps at your age. if you aren't sure, there's no need for a big 'coming out' either. just present however you like, you're not obliged to announce it to anyone

I think you've jumped ahead, it could be just the case that the comment about being masculine prompted thoughts about transitioning and gender and also at no point was medical transition mentioned
On top of that medical transition isn't fully allowed at that age without parental consent so I'm not entirely sure what you're getting at?

that's why i said 'maybe i'm missing something'. but people at 13 often have identity issues, so it's never good to rush into anything.
what do you think i'm getting at? hormonal treatments, ofcs.

Sorry I must've missed that part
I just meant I wasn't so sure what your point was, as far as I'm aware the most you can do under the age of 18 is puberty blockers

some research shows that even puberty blockers can sometimes have permanent effects. for testosteone/estrogen i think you need to be like 16 if you have parental consent
don't get me wrong, i believe that gender dysphoria is a real thing and all. but there are growing numbers of people, mostly biological females, who are detransitioning bc they never had a chance to properly explore their identity first, and rushed into a transition.

If people choose to detransition that's their choice and I completely disagree with you saying this under someone who's clearly already going through plenty
You can stop taking puberty blockers at anytime and they are not permanent on their own, as the name implies they just block puberty and once you stop taking them your body will continue as though puberty is starting, you do need to be over a certain age threshold to access other 'transitional steps'
According to multiple studies less than 1% of trans people regret a full transition and those that do only regret it due to transphobia, lack of support, bad surgical outcomes or fear of violence. Also you don't even need to medically transition to be a valid trans person, some people just use hormones and social transitioning to achieve their goal
Of those who begin to transition only about 8% regret it for the same reasons I stated above

it's also a choice most 13 year olds don't have the maturity to make. you should stop spreading misinformation and actually do some research. you're doing more harm than good with that attitude.
can you even read? that's literally what i said - that they don't need to medically transition to present however they like, but go off. you're insufferable, trying to turn this into a debate just because i told the OP to be cautious and not rush into anything. not everything is about you.

Excuse me? first, each statement I've made has been backed by research. Secondly, I was merely questioning the narrative you were trying to spread, have I misunderstood you somewhere? If so please do clarify.
Also, you do not know me and have no right to call me insufferable and illiterate.
I fully agree OP should be cautious about their decision but it seemed more like you were trying to deter him entirely, a person can know themselves any age and while yes, they may change their mind later that is, quite frankly none of either of our business, our only role here is to be supportive and provide advice on situations.
Also if you really want my source here:
https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/usts/USTS-Full-Report-Dec17.pdf

Also OPs post was about coming out NOT asking whether they should transition so I'm not sure where you've gotten that from

imagine being so pressed because i told a 13 year old to explore their identity first before rushing into a medical transition, when their first post literally said they think it might be a phase and that they only started questioning their gender after someone called them masculine. i don’t get your obsession with needing to constantly validate everything and everyone. it’s okay for people to question things, it's literally how they figure things out for themselves. critical thinking isn’t evil. btw, that survey is from 2015...

bit dramatic.. you never know, we might cross paths at a gay club someday : /
that's not how i interpreted it because their last sentence literally says 'i would like some for of advice on how to come out or if this is really just a phase' hence my initial post but who knows, maybe the OP will clarify when they see our posts.

That's fair enough, I was under the impression that OP just wanted advice on coming out to their family
Also please don't talk about 'crossing paths at a gay club' with me after calling me insufferable, unable to read, dramatic and in need of attention.

i'm sorry but that sounds insane unless i'm missing something? so you were fine with being a girl, but the second your ex called you too masculine, you decided to be a guy? trans people don't just 'decide' to be trans tbh. also, women can be masculine af too, and there's nothing wrong with that, you don't need to change your gender just to present masculine. don't get me wrong, i'm all for exploring your identity, gender, sexuality, whatever, but don't rush into anything... and by that i mean don't rush into a medical transition at your age. you can ask people to call you a different name, dress however you like but don't take any drastic steps at your age. if you aren't sure, there's no need for a big 'coming out' either. just present however you like, you're not obliged to announce it to anyone

imagine being so pressed because i told a 13 year old to explore their identity first before rushing into a medical transition, when their first post literally said they think it might be a phase and that they only started questioning their gender after someone called them masculine. i don’t get your obsession with needing to constantly validate everything and everyone. it’s okay for people to question things, it's literally how they figure things out for themselves. critical thinking isn’t evil. btw, that survey is from 2015...

I don't wish to start any argument, but I've read it all, and I'd like to clear things up. I broke up with my ex quite a while ago in like 2021 or 2022. Before I'd met her, I'd been thinking about it. I'm not 13 anymore, thanks, and with everything happening, I just want a fresh start. I'd tried everything. I hate who I am and don't like my own identity and hope that transitioning will make a change, but after reading the responses, I honestly don't think it will. I appreciate you reading the entire post and taking everything into consideration. I am worried it is just a phase. Hence, I want to keep it to myself, but it's been on my mind for a very long time now.