Do normal people talk to their uni friends about their mental health?
I don’t have much experience being a normal person so I have to ask these things. I’ve had no close friends my entire life and I’m currently on my year abroad.
There’s one girl from my course/building who I’ve become friends with and we hang out a couple times a week usually and for some reason she is still bothering with me. We were both sort of outsiders to the British cohort group on the year abroad and didn’t really fit into any group that formed so I assumed I was kinda just like a last ditch “well it’s better than nothing” pick for her as a friend and assumed we would not see each other again after this year as we’ll be back at our UK uni and she’ll be around her proper friends. But she’s mentioned wanting to hang out with me and invite me to a formal at her college next year so I guess she considers me a proper friend.
She does most of the talking when we hang out and I just participate in the conversation whilst avoiding the subject of the train wreck of my own life as much as possible, but there have been some antics on my part and some situations where I’ve been drunk and spoken too openly so I’m sure it’s not that hard to guess there’s things up with me.
Would it be at all normal behaviour to just fully say everything about my mental health and talk about it? I wouldn’t be expecting her to do anything and I don’t intend to lean on her for support, it would just kind of be a low stakes trial run of actually telling another person what’s going on with me, and would only need to be a one time conversation, it’s not like I’m just going to turn every time we see each other into a *****fest about my life.
There’s one girl from my course/building who I’ve become friends with and we hang out a couple times a week usually and for some reason she is still bothering with me. We were both sort of outsiders to the British cohort group on the year abroad and didn’t really fit into any group that formed so I assumed I was kinda just like a last ditch “well it’s better than nothing” pick for her as a friend and assumed we would not see each other again after this year as we’ll be back at our UK uni and she’ll be around her proper friends. But she’s mentioned wanting to hang out with me and invite me to a formal at her college next year so I guess she considers me a proper friend.
She does most of the talking when we hang out and I just participate in the conversation whilst avoiding the subject of the train wreck of my own life as much as possible, but there have been some antics on my part and some situations where I’ve been drunk and spoken too openly so I’m sure it’s not that hard to guess there’s things up with me.
Would it be at all normal behaviour to just fully say everything about my mental health and talk about it? I wouldn’t be expecting her to do anything and I don’t intend to lean on her for support, it would just kind of be a low stakes trial run of actually telling another person what’s going on with me, and would only need to be a one time conversation, it’s not like I’m just going to turn every time we see each other into a *****fest about my life.
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Just be prepared that she may not want to hang out with you afterwards. Many people find it uncomfortable being in a position where they think they might be expected to provide mental health support, even if it's not something you are actually wanting them to do.
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