Would you say this is being narcissistic?

So me and my partner split up 3 months ago back out of a relationship lasting nearly 3 and a half years. With months before her university was due to be complete she only had told me “I am not ready for marriage, financially or mentally” which I totally understand and respect. Yet lately we would still be communicating with one another on socials, and she asked whether I was able to meet up with her. Over some food presumably to catch up. I visited her workplace yesterday, because previously when we were together I knew that yesterday was a day she would regularly be working, only to know she was not working that day. I asked her co-worker (friends) whether she’ll be in as I just wanted to say Hello and it would present an opportunity to catch up. She then therefore goes that’s psycho, crazy and insane behaviour and narcissistic. Is it really? I mean what I truly have learnt and taken away is love between us is lost, everything become toxic and if there was ever any form of love me making the effort in visiting her workplace to see if she was there is truly love.

Reply 1

666LiLREAPER666

Alright bro, if you sometimes/regularly visit her at her work place to talk and "catch up" on some talking and wanting to know how life has been, yeah that's totally normal, if you ask me her co-workers/friends might be the ones filling her head with rumors or stuff that isn't true, don't listen to them, just follow where your heart takes you dude...until next time my friend, good luck...

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

She saw it as you crossing a boundary. If you aren’t together anymore and were discussing meeting up then it was going to be a pre-arranged thing. You showing up at her place of work took her off guard and she obviously didn’t like it. I don’t think it’s any of the words she used, but was a gamble that didn’t pay off on your part! Either apologise and see what happens, or it’s time to move on.

Reply 3

666LiLREAPER666

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by Anonymous

wait isn't the Co-worker the one saying "that’s psycho, crazy and insane behavior and narcissistic"?

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Anonymous #1

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by 666LiLREAPER666

wait isn't the Co-worker the one saying "that’s psycho, crazy and insane behavior and narcissistic"?

No my partner

Reply 5

Rakas21

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by Anonymous

No my partner

She’s not your partner anymore, she told you that when she said she wasn’t mentally ready for anything long term. It’s likely her new guy after you rejected her or wouldn’t commit and your just her comfort blanket.

But to answer your question, no, she does not understand the definition of narcissism.