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A girl I really like: help from girls!

Hi, tomorrow I am going to do something that really scares me but also excites me a lot. I have known this girl for 2 months. We talk every single day: 4 hours a day is normal for us but I would say we both initiate about evenly, however to be honest it all feels like one long conversation since the very beginning: we often just talk all day, like today even! Our conversations just flow so much, because we are really similar and I find her really interesting and super fun. We love the same music so she suggested we do a spotify list together and we have listened together until we fall asleep several times, talking all the while. She has insomnia and one time she even texted me at 2:30am and we talked for over an hour. Even when she is at parties she keeps sending me messages until 3am and we talk the whole time she is there. Even when she is out with friends or has things to do, she tells me about everything she is doing and sends pictures to keep me updated, even though I don’t ask, which is lovely. When at school, we talk before and after school and she sends messages to me even during lessons soemtimes (very laid back school). I feel like she really opens up to me: she tells me about personal stuff like her dreams, insecurities, her horrible ex and how it makes her feel and everything. She asks me about what I was like when I was younger, my family connections and who I am close with, and she does too. The rest of the time we just laugh together so much and have a lot of fun. I feel really close to her and I think she feels the same way. So tomorrow I am going to ask her if she wants to be more than just friends. Girls especially, do you really think her behaviour matches just a friend or do you think it sounds like she is interested in me? Thank you everyone!

Reply 1

You should just ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend and see what she says about it...
You got nothing to lose as you are both messaging each other nearly all the time and she's sending you stuff very early morning 💖.....

Just be brave enough to ask her okay 🙏 🙏 🙏.

Hopefully she'll say yes but until you ask you'll not know....


( Is she playing any games with you with sending you stuff during the early hours just to see what you do 🙂 🙂 🙂 but hopefully she's being genuine about what she is doing ) some people do that just to get someone worked up about them and then let you down 👎 👎 👎 ...

I understand that you are both been talking for a while but just be straight with her with asking her to either be your girlfriend or go out on a date with her 🤔 🤔 🤔 😔

Reply 2

Original post
by Anonymous
Hi, tomorrow I am going to do something that really scares me but also excites me a lot. I have known this girl for 2 months. We talk every single day: 4 hours a day is normal for us but I would say we both initiate about evenly, however to be honest it all feels like one long conversation since the very beginning: we often just talk all day, like today even! Our conversations just flow so much, because we are really similar and I find her really interesting and super fun. We love the same music so she suggested we do a spotify list together and we have listened together until we fall asleep several times, talking all the while. She has insomnia and one time she even texted me at 2:30am and we talked for over an hour. Even when she is at parties she keeps sending me messages until 3am and we talk the whole time she is there. Even when she is out with friends or has things to do, she tells me about everything she is doing and sends pictures to keep me updated, even though I don’t ask, which is lovely. When at school, we talk before and after school and she sends messages to me even during lessons soemtimes (very laid back school). I feel like she really opens up to me: she tells me about personal stuff like her dreams, insecurities, her horrible ex and how it makes her feel and everything. She asks me about what I was like when I was younger, my family connections and who I am close with, and she does too. The rest of the time we just laugh together so much and have a lot of fun. I feel really close to her and I think she feels the same way. So tomorrow I am going to ask her if she wants to be more than just friends. Girls especially, do you really think her behaviour matches just a friend or do you think it sounds like she is interested in me? Thank you everyone!

I'm a guy, but I thought I'd answer anyway.

It's difficult to definitively say, as from what you've written it could be either way.

The most obvious differences between someone who's just being friendly and actually liking them would be a few key things:-

1) Does she compliment you? By this does she say that you're good looking or good at something (e.g. football, dancing, maths etc.)

2) Do you naturally come up in conversation in one of her "girly" chats? If you do, chances are her girl-mates may have dropped hints that she likes you

3) Some girls act overly "girly" around guys they like; in the same way some guys act overly macho / laddish to try and impress girls.

4) I don't know if you kiss her Hello/ goodbye... but if she lets you kiss her on the lips (as opposed to the cheek), I would put a large amount of money on that she likes you.


On the whole, I think the good people at Nike say it best "Just Do It" After all, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take... and you have to take a shot to score a winner. Moreover, the worst she can say is "no"; in which case, you'll soon find someone else. Even if she does say no, by the sounds of how you've described her, she will at least be nice about it.

I agree with the post above, about asking... but I wouldn't ask her to be your girlfriend (that sounds all a bit formal; almost like a marriage proposal lol). Just do the usual high school thing and say "Will you go out with me?" . If she says "Yes" (and doesn't bring a friend), then you've basically got yourself a girlfriend.

Reply 3

Uhhh I'm another dude here and I say just follow your heart man....good luck tomorrow

Reply 4

I did it! We had a video call for 5 hours, and about 3.5 hours into it after lots of chatting and even meeting her father doing grafting in the garden, I told her just simply how I felt about our relationship and that I care about her. She told me that she feels the same way and was just a bit hesitant about the distance between us, but we discussed everything and we agreed that is only a temporary problem for a year, and that we think the connection we have is exceptionally rare, and she said that we should do it. We were both very happy. What seemed amazing to me was that it felt like it was just a natural progression and that it was very clearly just putting what we both have been thinking into words, so it was an amazing moment I will always remember, and I think this is the start of a very long and beautiful relationship. When we talk, it is pike we just understand each other so well, and we both think it is something really special. Thank you for your comments! I am very very happy today 🥰🥰.

Reply 5

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by anonymous
i did it! We had a video call for 5 hours, and about 3.5 hours into it after lots of chatting and even meeting her father doing grafting in the garden, i told her just simply how i felt about our relationship and that i care about her. She told me that she feels the same way and was just a bit hesitant about the distance between us, but we discussed everything and we agreed that is only a temporary problem for a year, and that we think the connection we have is exceptionally rare, and she said that we should do it. We were both very happy. What seemed amazing to me was that it felt like it was just a natural progression and that it was very clearly just putting what we both have been thinking into words, so it was an amazing moment i will always remember, and i think this is the start of a very long and beautiful relationship. When we talk, it is pike we just understand each other so well, and we both think it is something really special. Thank you for your comments! I am very very happy today 🥰🥰.

🎉wooooooooo atta boy 🎉

Reply 6

Congratulations!

Reply 7

Original post
by Anonymous
I did it! We had a video call for 5 hours, and about 3.5 hours into it after lots of chatting and even meeting her father doing grafting in the garden, I told her just simply how I felt about our relationship and that I care about her. She told me that she feels the same way and was just a bit hesitant about the distance between us, but we discussed everything and we agreed that is only a temporary problem for a year, and that we think the connection we have is exceptionally rare, and she said that we should do it. We were both very happy. What seemed amazing to me was that it felt like it was just a natural progression and that it was very clearly just putting what we both have been thinking into words, so it was an amazing moment I will always remember, and I think this is the start of a very long and beautiful relationship. When we talk, it is pike we just understand each other so well, and we both think it is something really special. Thank you for your comments! I am very very happy today 🥰🥰.

Well done 😎 🤲🤝

See what happens when you just have a little faith? This thread should be an example to the rest of the TSR lads that it IS possible to get a girlfriend.

Enjoy the benefits of being in love... The pleasure is all yours, my man, the pleasure is all yours (oh and hers lol).🥰😍🤩

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