my bf addicted to weed/vapes and i hate it

What do you mean “to me weed and vaping are both just as bad” its not about if *You* think its just as bad. Weed isnt that bad for you, it helps with stress, anxiety depression etc, ofc if its laced its deadly but look at snoopDogg he said he smokes 80 blunts a day, but hes perfectly fine. Also if you are worried about people dying from smoking why cut them off instead of spending time with them.

yeah i completely agree that though weed/vape is his coping mechanism, that doesnt mean its justified as it is an unhealhty habit. would you say to a crk head that they can keep doing it because its how they cope? no. I binge eat when im sad and then make myself throw up after out of guilt. thats not healthy and I have asked him to tell me no to snacks, I want him to be my support in stopping that addiction. I want to help stop his too. I want to be emotionally there for him instead of the vape. He is just a very introverted person as am i but he also doesnt share his problems or talk about feelings, so its hard replacing somethng as easy as a puff on the vape to push his problems away.

The short answer is you're the one with the real issue. If you let the fact your parents smoke actively ruin your relationship with them, yeah that's on you and this will prob happen with anyone else you try to control

This is a horrible thing to say. OP this is not your fault in any way. If your boyfriend can’t get over his bad habits and this is becoming an addiction, he is the one in the wrong. Don’t stay on the sinking ship. You don’t want to regret so much time with someone like this later on.

It's not 'horrible', it's simply an opinion trying to see things from both sides. and I've already explained why I said it.
You realise I'm not saying like 'Well that's all your fault!' right? I'm saying you have to sometimes make peace with other peoples choices whether you approve of them or not, rather than throw away the relationship.
Likewise that whatever your feelings, sitting here claiming someone will go to jail for smoking or it's comparable to crack isn't constructive for anyone.

yeah i completely agree that though weed/vape is his coping mechanism, that doesnt mean its justified as it is an unhealhty habit. would you say to a crk head that they can keep doing it because its how they cope? no. I binge eat when im sad and then make myself throw up after out of guilt. thats not healthy and I have asked him to tell me no to snacks, I want him to be my support in stopping that addiction. I want to help stop his too. I want to be emotionally there for him instead of the vape. He is just a very introverted person as am i but he also doesnt share his problems or talk about feelings, so its hard replacing somethng as easy as a puff on the vape to push his problems away.

The short answer is you're the one with the real issue. If you let the fact your parents smoke actively ruin your relationship with them, yeah that's on you and this will prob happen with anyone else you try to control

who hurt you?

As the title says, my boyfriend uses weed at least once a week (something im very much against as Im scared its illegal and he gets it from friends of friends in elaborate ways), and vapes daily, he said he would stop vaping but he bought a new one so clearly lied. I dont know what to do, my parents both smoke tobacco and it ruined my relationship with them as I despise smoking and I have this morbid awareness that they will both die of cancer or something too early, them coughing is a regular noise to me now.
Thankfull he also hates the idea of smoking tobacco but to me weed and vaping are both just as bad. I ask him why he does it and he says its reason he cant say (he has previously said he doesnt like talking about feelings etc, hes a private person). But i really want him to stop, should I push it? I jokingly held onto his vape once and hid it but should I do that for real? get more serious about my hatred of his habits?
I don't want it to badly harm his health but I dont know if I should actively stop him.

99% of men do this

It's not 'horrible', it's simply an opinion trying to see things from both sides. and I've already explained why I said it.
You realise I'm not saying like 'Well that's all your fault!' right? I'm saying you have to sometimes make peace with other peoples choices whether you approve of them or not, rather than throw away the relationship.
Likewise that whatever your feelings, sitting here claiming someone will go to jail for smoking or it's comparable to crack isn't constructive for anyone.

At the point where you've said "you're the one with the real issue" and "that's on you" in your first post, then saying you're NOT saying "well that's all your fault" seems like splitting hairs >.>

As the title says, my boyfriend uses weed at least once a week (something im very much against as Im scared its illegal and he gets it from friends of friends in elaborate ways), and vapes daily, he said he would stop vaping but he bought a new one so clearly lied. I dont know what to do, my parents both smoke tobacco and it ruined my relationship with them as I despise smoking and I have this morbid awareness that they will both die of cancer or something too early, them coughing is a regular noise to me now.
Thankfull he also hates the idea of smoking tobacco but to me weed and vaping are both just as bad. I ask him why he does it and he says its reason he cant say (he has previously said he doesnt like talking about feelings etc, hes a private person). But i really want him to stop, should I push it? I jokingly held onto his vape once and hid it but should I do that for real? get more serious about my hatred of his habits?
I don't want it to badly harm his health but I dont know if I should actively stop him.