howw 2 up my game

Ive got a bf ..like we all cute type shi like my friends b biggin it up but like i feel like a type of pressure not off him but like i havent had my first kiss im 16 ... i had bf in past so im not like totally clueless but hes fine wit it anyway i think he tryna change that soon but like its hes only bold when hes high and then he tries to pull a move but i dont really want that when hes like that idrc that he does it but .. and then normally we so nonchalent like we can walk past each not say anything but we improving on that now but like its the lack of communication and not doin anything thats worrying like 1. im slightly scared but mainly like its idk .. what if he just like we shud break up .. we not working .. and then im hearing people at sch talking bout doing it n im like the whole populations doing it and i ent even had first kiss type shi .. ik when im ready tho ofc but idk its the pressures of society yall .. im lost ..like im tryna take litlle steps wit him but idk what to doo😮*💨

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nimatalla

First thing i would say is; girl, you’re your own person with a whole life ahead of you. When you grow up, you’ll thank yourself deeply for not letting 'society' rush you into things you weren’t ready for. The most attractive thing someone can do is not follow the herd. I promise. Because the moment you start doing things from a place of inner conviction—not pressure—you become unshakably strong.
The pressure you feel is not yours to carry. The people around you don’t define your timeline, and you’re not late to anything. It doesn’t matter if your first kiss happens at 16, 18, 22, 26, etc.. Your worth isn't on a clock, and it sure as hell isn’t defined by what others are doing in school.
I would say you've got to tap into your feminine energy—that soft and powerful part of you that knows her value. That part of you doesn’t need to entertain moves from someone who’s only bold when he’s not in his right mind. That’s not love, that’s impulse. And you're not a space for someone's impulses to land on.
Truth is, a kiss, intimacy, even closeness—those things affect your soul way more than people your age realize. If it’s not handled with care, safety, and genuine respect, it can harm more than help. So protect that energy.
You’re not behind, because while others are rushing, you're preserving your peace, your spirit, and your power. That quiet knowing inside you is the real guide and everyone else is bull****.
Thats the mindset you've got to have in high school because trust me, I FEEL YOU, and its so much more attractive when a girl knows who or what deserves her time.