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Heartbreak friend issues

So basically I confessed to a friend I liked them it went well confirmed dating then they pulled out due to like school saying it was a lot and to wait then 2 weeks later said no relationship so I was lead on romantically but my issue is same friend group and I feel so mad and upset and angry at myself at them at my friends for just expecting me to just move on to take it on the shoulders and carry on with my life it's unfair how they just move on so easily and I can't.
So what do I do exams , my a levels are very soon too so how do I idk manage the sadness or being around them I guess

Reply 1

Original post by Anonymous
So basically I confessed to a friend I liked them it went well confirmed dating then they pulled out due to like school saying it was a lot and to wait then 2 weeks later said no relationship so I was lead on romantically but my issue is same friend group and I feel so mad and upset and angry at myself at them at my friends for just expecting me to just move on to take it on the shoulders and carry on with my life it's unfair how they just move on so easily and I can't.
So what do I do exams , my a levels are very soon too so how do I idk manage the sadness or being around them I guess

That's a real bummer, I'm so sorry this happened to you. You want to keep the balance between addressing your feelings and studying for your A levels - depending on how much of a priority A levels are for you I'd say maybe throw yourself into that and see how it goes. If good, carry on and try to deal with the feels a bit at a time. If bad, do a bit of revision every day and focus on yourself. You are in no shape to sit an exam when upset and heartbroken, as you put it. Maybe you need a break from the group to just clear your head. I'm not saying find new friends but if there's one or two in the group who especially have you back just hang out with them for a bit. Eventually you will have to see your person but try to ease back into it as much as is in your control. Let me know how it goes, I hope you feel alright-ish soon. In the meantime, I recommend Ben and Jerry's phish food ice cream and Fleabag (TV series).
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Reply 2

I know you'll be feeling bad about it all but I do need to be candid, it was 2 weeks. Yes people expect you to function and get on with your life. What is it you feel a need to move on from in such a short space of days, you both barely had time to get used to the idea surely?

Is it possible this has just been a really bad time for you to both to have made a move knowing you're both busy? Is it possible someone else like his parents talked him out of it as it's almost exam time?

If it was me, I'd try to brazen it out and keep my dignity, I wouldn't try to avoid any of them or let it become an issue for the group, esp as they have exam stuff to worry about too.

Reply 3

Original post by StriderHort
I know you'll be feeling bad about it all but I do need to be candid, it was 2 weeks. Yes people expect you to function and get on with your life. What is it you feel a need to move on from in such a short space of days, you both barely had time to get used to the idea surely?
Is it possible this has just been a really bad time for you to both to have made a move knowing you're both busy? Is it possible someone else like his parents talked him out of it as it's almost exam time?
If it was me, I'd try to brazen it out and keep my dignity, I wouldn't try to avoid any of them or let it become an issue for the group, esp as they have exam stuff to worry about too.

Yeah I agree completely. We had been good friends for like ages and I think the only reason I was so upset was because I really liked her well like her alot and she was so into it and was feeding into it so hard and it just upset me when she pulled out so suddenly and then kept me guessing till she finally said no.

Reply 4

Original post by Anonymous
Yeah I agree completely. We had been good friends for like ages and I think the only reason I was so upset was because I really liked her well like her alot and she was so into it and was feeding into it so hard and it just upset me when she pulled out so suddenly and then kept me guessing till she finally said no.

I'm not like trying to cause issues for them and most of them know anyways and my main fear was causing issue since we all have exams. But it's okay we're cool.

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