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idk what to do anymore please help?😓

hello i’m so sorry for this huge yap but i would really appreciate any help thank you💗💗

i have exams and i had the easter holidays (2 1/2) weeks to revise for them, and i ended up barely revising anything. it’s not because i didn’t want too or i maybe i was lazy, ive thought about that may be the case but i believe i really did try. at the start of the 2 weeks, i tried to revise everyday or as much as i could but i ended up wasting the day. i guess i realised that maybe i set too ambitious goals for myself because i wanted to follow a timetable i had made that would make me revise every hour of the day from 8am😭 so i tried shortening it but i just could never stick to it. over the years, i have made revision timetables but i never followed through with them. i would instead end up doing one topic on one subject the entire day and barely do anything else or i would end up underestimating how long id take on the one subject and take longer or i would just get distracted and do something else. i really dont mean too, it just happens every single time.

Instead of revising, i either would sit there doing nothing or just doing ANYTHING but revision. i didn’t mean too and i felt so guilty every time i wasted my time. sometimes i feel like my brain doesn’t want to do it but every other part of me wants to i just simply and physically cannot do it. over the easter break, i would barely do anything the first two weeks until for a few days i just gave up and was exhausted for no reason at all because i hadn’t even doing anything why was i exhausted?? i wasted day after day and i was miserable. i began thinking that this wasn’t the first time this has happened, truth is, i wasnt a good student but i got by, i relied on last minute revision and winging tests my entire life. i had picked to do art at the beginning of the year because i had always loved it and i wasn’t terrible at it but then dropped it because i couldn’t hand in my work in time and lost so much sleep because i would do everything the night before and would stay up until 4am to do it.

but this was kind of weird for me because i always managed to do my homework in time and to bring it in most of time, so im not really sure why im struggling so much?

i mean i guess the only time i could find a similiar experience to this is that i would take forever to do my essays. for english coursework, over the christmas holidays i would take the entire time just to finish an essay and end up just finishing 75% of it the night before.

i guess i feel like it’s the big, long homework’s im struggling to do. but just typical normal homeworks i did in time, and i didn’t really have any problems with that.

i feel so guilty and sick of myself, i know if just worked more and harder i could achieve the grades i want and i do really care about them but i just keep doing this. i have tried other things like drinking more water and sleeping more but it doesn’t seem to help with my focus and my productivity, ive also tried moving to other places to study like the library and cafes. that seems to work better for me as i feel like im already putting the effort to do something so in a way pressures me to do it, but even doing that, i still end up wasting my day by getting distracted by my phone so i put that away, but still just staring off to space and just wasting time by not doing anything at all or doing useless things. i don’t know, i just feel like time just slips away so fast if that makes sense like i don’t have control over myself. i know that’s weird and dramatic lmao but i kind of feel like im losing my mind.

tomorow i have three tests and i haven’t done anything all weekend so i’m cramming it all tonight, i do this with every single exam, i really wish i could be productive i am so sick of myself, im failing all my subjects i dont know what to do.

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by poppieax
hello i’m so sorry for this huge yap but i would really appreciate any help thank you💗💗
i have exams and i had the easter holidays (2 1/2) weeks to revise for them, and i ended up barely revising anything. it’s not because i didn’t want too or i maybe i was lazy, ive thought about that may be the case but i believe i really did try. at the start of the 2 weeks, i tried to revise everyday or as much as i could but i ended up wasting the day. i guess i realised that maybe i set too ambitious goals for myself because i wanted to follow a timetable i had made that would make me revise every hour of the day from 8am😭 so i tried shortening it but i just could never stick to it. over the years, i have made revision timetables but i never followed through with them. i would instead end up doing one topic on one subject the entire day and barely do anything else or i would end up underestimating how long id take on the one subject and take longer or i would just get distracted and do something else. i really dont mean too, it just happens every single time.
Instead of revising, i either would sit there doing nothing or just doing ANYTHING but revision. i didn’t mean too and i felt so guilty every time i wasted my time. sometimes i feel like my brain doesn’t want to do it but every other part of me wants to i just simply and physically cannot do it. over the easter break, i would barely do anything the first two weeks until for a few days i just gave up and was exhausted for no reason at all because i hadn’t even doing anything why was i exhausted?? i wasted day after day and i was miserable. i began thinking that this wasn’t the first time this has happened, truth is, i wasnt a good student but i got by, i relied on last minute revision and winging tests my entire life. i had picked to do art at the beginning of the year because i had always loved it and i wasn’t terrible at it but then dropped it because i couldn’t hand in my work in time and lost so much sleep because i would do everything the night before and would stay up until 4am to do it.
but this was kind of weird for me because i always managed to do my homework in time and to bring it in most of time, so im not really sure why im struggling so much?
i mean i guess the only time i could find a similiar experience to this is that i would take forever to do my essays. for english coursework, over the christmas holidays i would take the entire time just to finish an essay and end up just finishing 75% of it the night before.
i guess i feel like it’s the big, long homework’s im struggling to do. but just typical normal homeworks i did in time, and i didn’t really have any problems with that.
i feel so guilty and sick of myself, i know if just worked more and harder i could achieve the grades i want and i do really care about them but i just keep doing this. i have tried other things like drinking more water and sleeping more but it doesn’t seem to help with my focus and my productivity, ive also tried moving to other places to study like the library and cafes. that seems to work better for me as i feel like im already putting the effort to do something so in a way pressures me to do it, but even doing that, i still end up wasting my day by getting distracted by my phone so i put that away, but still just staring off to space and just wasting time by not doing anything at all or doing useless things. i don’t know, i just feel like time just slips away so fast if that makes sense like i don’t have control over myself. i know that’s weird and dramatic lmao but i kind of feel like im losing my mind.
tomorow i have three tests and i haven’t done anything all weekend so i’m cramming it all tonight, i do this with every single exam, i really wish i could be productive i am so sick of myself, im failing all my subjects i dont know what to do.

I FEEL YOU. I have the exact same issue! (The fall off from an A student to an as long as i pass student needs to be studied 😭)
I tend to take it in blocks when i can. Like spend 10 mins on something and go do anything else. (as i write this, i'm doing a philosophy revision task for a three hour exam on thursday 😶). Like the day of getting an assignment, do it for 10 mins and then move on. Then the same the next day. All up until the night before, then you'll have less to complete despite the last minute business. Also talk to your teachers ik its not the best advice at all but maybe they'll go easy on you or set you less (will send prayers)
Good luck ❤️
Hello there!

First of all, relax and take a deep breath.

I am sure you care a lot and you are trying, even if it doesn’t always feel like it. Please don’t be so hard on yourself.
You’re not lazy or broken, you just might be overwhelmed, and that’s completely normal.
If a tasks seem too big, our brains often freeze rather than start, and that is not a weakness, that is how stress and pressure work.

It is also understandable that you were able to complete smaller homework tasks on time but struggled with longer projects or revision. Bigger tasks without clear, small steps are naturally harder to manage, especially when you are feeling guilty or stressed.

The most important thing is that you are not broken because of a rough Easter break. Don’t give up on yourself!
You don’t need to punish yourself into working harder, instead, the key is working smarter and starting smaller. Focus on just one tiny task at a time, for example, revise one topic or complete one practice question, and then move onto the next small thing.
For example, tonight, for your tests, prioritise the main topics, focus on understanding the key points rather than trying to memorise everything perfectly, and maybe use a simple timer method like 25 minutes of work and 5 minutes of break to stay focused without burning out.

Try not to create “perfect” timetables that are too strict. Instead, only aim to get just one or two important things done each day and celebrate any progress, even if it feels small.
Every small step counts more than you think. Revision isn’t about punishing yourself, it’s about practicing and slowly building confidence!

You are not failing, or broken, you are just human, who might be under pressure.
It is not too late to turn things around, even if right now it feels overwhelming.
Start small, be kind to yourself, and remember, progress is still progress, even if it’s slow.

You’ve got this!

I hope this helps!

Kind regards,
Reka - Coventry University Student Ambassador

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