Worried about what I said whilst drunk
I got way too drunk on Saturday night. Im banned from one of my favourite bars now (I was banned until July but I went back twice trying to get it so god knows it’s probably forever now).
I also said some nasty things about some friends to one of their mutual friends and im genuinely extremely anxious this person is going to tell them what I said when they next see each other. I don’t know what to do/ say about it. Thing is im living with said friends next year.
Im going to an AA meeting tonight because my drinking has gotten out of hand in general recently. But how do I apologise for whatever I’ve said/ done? And make it better with the friends I mentioned because Im worried they won’t speak to me again/ will kick me out of the house arrangement (we haven’t moved in yet but will in august)
I also said some nasty things about some friends to one of their mutual friends and im genuinely extremely anxious this person is going to tell them what I said when they next see each other. I don’t know what to do/ say about it. Thing is im living with said friends next year.
Im going to an AA meeting tonight because my drinking has gotten out of hand in general recently. But how do I apologise for whatever I’ve said/ done? And make it better with the friends I mentioned because Im worried they won’t speak to me again/ will kick me out of the house arrangement (we haven’t moved in yet but will in august)
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by AnonymousI got way too drunk on Saturday night. Im banned from one of my favourite bars now (I was banned until July but I went back twice trying to get it so god knows it’s probably forever now).
I also said some nasty things about some friends to one of their mutual friends and im genuinely extremely anxious this person is going to tell them what I said when they next see each other. I don’t know what to do/ say about it. Thing is im living with said friends next year.
Im going to an AA meeting tonight because my drinking has gotten out of hand in general recently. But how do I apologise for whatever I’ve said/ done? And make it better with the friends I mentioned because Im worried they won’t speak to me again/ will kick me out of the house arrangement (we haven’t moved in yet but will in august)
I also said some nasty things about some friends to one of their mutual friends and im genuinely extremely anxious this person is going to tell them what I said when they next see each other. I don’t know what to do/ say about it. Thing is im living with said friends next year.
Im going to an AA meeting tonight because my drinking has gotten out of hand in general recently. But how do I apologise for whatever I’ve said/ done? And make it better with the friends I mentioned because Im worried they won’t speak to me again/ will kick me out of the house arrangement (we haven’t moved in yet but will in august)
I'd say apologise face to face and also write them a letter but honestly they need to gain your trust back. You need to show them you are committed to being a better person by going to those meetings and putting in the work with yourself and your relationships with them. Good luck, all the best.
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by AnonymousI'd say apologise face to face and also write them a letter but honestly they need to gain your trust back. You need to show them you are committed to being a better person by going to those meetings and putting in the work with yourself and your relationships with them. Good luck, all the best.
Thank you. This is the first time I may fall out with my friends- do you think it’s possible they’ll never forgive me?
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by AnonymousThank you. This is the first time I may fall out with my friends- do you think it’s possible they’ll never forgive me?
Depends what you said, how close your relationship is with them, and whether this is the latest in a long line of drinking related behaviours that they can’t be bothered with any more.
As above, all you can do is apologise and let them know you’re taking your drinking problem seriously now.
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by Admit-OneDepends what you said, how close your relationship is with them, and whether this is the latest in a long line of drinking related behaviours that they can’t be bothered with any more.
As above, all you can do is apologise and let them know you’re taking your drinking problem seriously now.
As above, all you can do is apologise and let them know you’re taking your drinking problem seriously now.
From what I can remember I just said that I found one of the friends more attractive than the other one- but said I ghosted one of them because we briefly dated etc. but I think I said it unkindly. I’m not super close friends. Stuff getting out of hand has only happened with them present 2 maybe 3 times over the span of 5 months. I will apologise profusely and not drink again when out with friends.
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by AnonymousFrom what I can remember I just said that I found one of the friends more attractive than the other one- but said I ghosted one of them because we briefly dated etc. but I think I said it unkindly. I’m not super close friends. Stuff getting out of hand has only happened with them present 2 maybe 3 times over the span of 5 months. I will apologise profusely and not drink again when out with friends.
That doesn't sound like the worst thing in the world, but as you say, it is all in the context of how it was delivered.
Sounds like a sensible plan. I hope the AA meetings are productive.
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A sincere apology normally will go a long way with friends. Also if it’s backed by learning from the situation
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by AnonymousThank you. This is the first time I may fall out with my friends- do you think it’s possible they’ll never forgive me?
I think that as long as you show you are truly sorry, things can be patched up. Fall outs are somewhat common and you're bound to have a few in life especially with friends. Just try to explain yourself to them without being defensive and take responsibility for the whole ordeal. The rest is up to them whether to forgive you but I would have faith.
Reply 8
As someone who's been there many, many times, people forget and get over your antics lol, I usually just act like nothing happened and people can choose to cut me off if they want. The trick is to be such a pitiful charity case that people don't hold it against you because they feel bad for you 🥂
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