Islamic advice please
Okay, so I know this isn’t a Muslim site, but I’ll take any help I can get right now. This is really difficult for me to do, and I don’t usually open up like this, but I’m just seeking any advice, support, or anything that has helped someone else that might help me.
I’m Muslim, and I love everything about my religion. I just turned 18, and lately, I’ve been struggling with my imaan and life in general—so much—and I don’t even know why. I know this might sound really bad to say, and I’m probably getting so many sins for it, but I genuinely feel like Allah has abandoned me. I just don’t feel a connection with Him anymore. It used to be so strong—honestly, looking back, my imaan was high. Now, I feel completely numb.
I still pray all my salah, including my sunnahs, and I try to read the Qur’an here and there. But I feel nothing. I’m not where I want to be in life at all. I’m working so hard—I’m studying, applying for jobs, trying my best—but nothing is working out. Nothing is going right. And I’m usually a very grateful person. People have always said that about me. I know how to be humble. I know what it means to struggle. I’m grateful to have food in the fridge, a bed to sleep in, time to study, and good health—but other than that, it feels like I have nothing. I’m not winning in any other area.
And the future I’m working so hard for—it’s not even for me. It’s not even for money. It’s for my family. It’s for my grandparents who sacrificed so much, who worked so hard. It’s for the people I want to help, the people I want to save. I truly believe that my intentions are pure. So I don’t understand—what is going on? Why do I feel like this? I know Allah doesn’t burden a soul with more than it can bear… but I just… I’ve reached a point where it feels unbearable. Every day feels so heavy. Nothing good is happening. It’s already May—half the year is nearly gone—and I feel nothing.
Now, I’m starting to feel like I’m not even being a good friend anymore. I feel like I’m disassociating constantly. Like I’m never really present in any moment. I can’t enjoy the moment—ever. Genuinely never. This is supposed to be the final year of school, my last year of sixth form. Everyone’s crying, hugging, sad that it’s ending… and I feel nothing. I feel so disconnected from reality that I don’t even care.
I’m genuinely trying my best, and nothing seems to work. It gets to the point where I don’t even want to wake up in the morning because I don’t know what I’m waking up for. I have nothing to look forward to. Every time something starts going right, I get hopeful, I try again—and then it all just falls apart. It’s like, what’s the point?
All the studying, all the job applications, the revising for interviews—it feels like a waste of time because none of it ever works out. And I just keep asking myself, ‘What am I even doing with my life?’ I don’t know. But if anyone has been through this and has any advice, I would really appreciate it. Honestly, anything would mean a lot right now.
I’m Muslim, and I love everything about my religion. I just turned 18, and lately, I’ve been struggling with my imaan and life in general—so much—and I don’t even know why. I know this might sound really bad to say, and I’m probably getting so many sins for it, but I genuinely feel like Allah has abandoned me. I just don’t feel a connection with Him anymore. It used to be so strong—honestly, looking back, my imaan was high. Now, I feel completely numb.
I still pray all my salah, including my sunnahs, and I try to read the Qur’an here and there. But I feel nothing. I’m not where I want to be in life at all. I’m working so hard—I’m studying, applying for jobs, trying my best—but nothing is working out. Nothing is going right. And I’m usually a very grateful person. People have always said that about me. I know how to be humble. I know what it means to struggle. I’m grateful to have food in the fridge, a bed to sleep in, time to study, and good health—but other than that, it feels like I have nothing. I’m not winning in any other area.
And the future I’m working so hard for—it’s not even for me. It’s not even for money. It’s for my family. It’s for my grandparents who sacrificed so much, who worked so hard. It’s for the people I want to help, the people I want to save. I truly believe that my intentions are pure. So I don’t understand—what is going on? Why do I feel like this? I know Allah doesn’t burden a soul with more than it can bear… but I just… I’ve reached a point where it feels unbearable. Every day feels so heavy. Nothing good is happening. It’s already May—half the year is nearly gone—and I feel nothing.
Now, I’m starting to feel like I’m not even being a good friend anymore. I feel like I’m disassociating constantly. Like I’m never really present in any moment. I can’t enjoy the moment—ever. Genuinely never. This is supposed to be the final year of school, my last year of sixth form. Everyone’s crying, hugging, sad that it’s ending… and I feel nothing. I feel so disconnected from reality that I don’t even care.
I’m genuinely trying my best, and nothing seems to work. It gets to the point where I don’t even want to wake up in the morning because I don’t know what I’m waking up for. I have nothing to look forward to. Every time something starts going right, I get hopeful, I try again—and then it all just falls apart. It’s like, what’s the point?
All the studying, all the job applications, the revising for interviews—it feels like a waste of time because none of it ever works out. And I just keep asking myself, ‘What am I even doing with my life?’ I don’t know. But if anyone has been through this and has any advice, I would really appreciate it. Honestly, anything would mean a lot right now.
Reply 1
I am really sorry to hear that you are feeling like this. Do you have anyone else you can talk to? Perhaps a teacher at school or your doctor? There are also many confidential helplines you could try such as Young minds. You may find this useful: Reaching Out For Help With Your Mental Health | YoungMinds
Reply 2
Hiyaa,
I'm posting this in hopes that I am not too late. Imaan fluctuates- that is completely normal. The important thing is to try to find ways or identify times when your imaan was high and try to replicate it. (I'm just adding here that I am not an Islamic cleric in any way, just someone trying to help out a fellow Muslim).
I take my faith day by day, trying to actively do a good deed here and there, even with little things like smiling and greeting others, knowing that it could very well change the trajectory of someone's day while gaining rewards and doing something pleasing to Allah makes me feel even a little better.
Imaan is something that takes consistent nourishment, please be patient. Remember, Allah does not burden a soul with that which he/she cannot bear.
As a foreign student, I can relate to doing stuff for the sake of your family. Honestly, I don't know how to make you feel better. Satisfaction is innate, and sometimes, it doesn't help when at the end of the day, it seems like you never come first. I just hope one day, Allah grants you peace of mind.
Talk to your friends please about what's going on as well. I'm in my last year of sixth form too so we do have some things in common. If you ever want to talk, feel free.
I'm posting this in hopes that I am not too late. Imaan fluctuates- that is completely normal. The important thing is to try to find ways or identify times when your imaan was high and try to replicate it. (I'm just adding here that I am not an Islamic cleric in any way, just someone trying to help out a fellow Muslim).
I take my faith day by day, trying to actively do a good deed here and there, even with little things like smiling and greeting others, knowing that it could very well change the trajectory of someone's day while gaining rewards and doing something pleasing to Allah makes me feel even a little better.
Imaan is something that takes consistent nourishment, please be patient. Remember, Allah does not burden a soul with that which he/she cannot bear.
As a foreign student, I can relate to doing stuff for the sake of your family. Honestly, I don't know how to make you feel better. Satisfaction is innate, and sometimes, it doesn't help when at the end of the day, it seems like you never come first. I just hope one day, Allah grants you peace of mind.
Talk to your friends please about what's going on as well. I'm in my last year of sixth form too so we do have some things in common. If you ever want to talk, feel free.
Reply 3
Original post
by AnonymousOkay, so I know this isn’t a Muslim site, but I’ll take any help I can get right now. This is really difficult for me to do, and I don’t usually open up like this, but I’m just seeking any advice, support, or anything that has helped someone else that might help me.
I’m Muslim, and I love everything about my religion. I just turned 18, and lately, I’ve been struggling with my imaan and life in general—so much—and I don’t even know why. I know this might sound really bad to say, and I’m probably getting so many sins for it, but I genuinely feel like Allah has abandoned me. I just don’t feel a connection with Him anymore. It used to be so strong—honestly, looking back, my imaan was high. Now, I feel completely numb.
I still pray all my salah, including my sunnahs, and I try to read the Qur’an here and there. But I feel nothing. I’m not where I want to be in life at all. I’m working so hard—I’m studying, applying for jobs, trying my best—but nothing is working out. Nothing is going right. And I’m usually a very grateful person. People have always said that about me. I know how to be humble. I know what it means to struggle. I’m grateful to have food in the fridge, a bed to sleep in, time to study, and good health—but other than that, it feels like I have nothing. I’m not winning in any other area.
And the future I’m working so hard for—it’s not even for me. It’s not even for money. It’s for my family. It’s for my grandparents who sacrificed so much, who worked so hard. It’s for the people I want to help, the people I want to save. I truly believe that my intentions are pure. So I don’t understand—what is going on? Why do I feel like this? I know Allah doesn’t burden a soul with more than it can bear… but I just… I’ve reached a point where it feels unbearable. Every day feels so heavy. Nothing good is happening. It’s already May—half the year is nearly gone—and I feel nothing.
Now, I’m starting to feel like I’m not even being a good friend anymore. I feel like I’m disassociating constantly. Like I’m never really present in any moment. I can’t enjoy the moment—ever. Genuinely never. This is supposed to be the final year of school, my last year of sixth form. Everyone’s crying, hugging, sad that it’s ending… and I feel nothing. I feel so disconnected from reality that I don’t even care.
I’m genuinely trying my best, and nothing seems to work. It gets to the point where I don’t even want to wake up in the morning because I don’t know what I’m waking up for. I have nothing to look forward to. Every time something starts going right, I get hopeful, I try again—and then it all just falls apart. It’s like, what’s the point?
All the studying, all the job applications, the revising for interviews—it feels like a waste of time because none of it ever works out. And I just keep asking myself, ‘What am I even doing with my life?’ I don’t know. But if anyone has been through this and has any advice, I would really appreciate it. Honestly, anything would mean a lot right now.
I’m Muslim, and I love everything about my religion. I just turned 18, and lately, I’ve been struggling with my imaan and life in general—so much—and I don’t even know why. I know this might sound really bad to say, and I’m probably getting so many sins for it, but I genuinely feel like Allah has abandoned me. I just don’t feel a connection with Him anymore. It used to be so strong—honestly, looking back, my imaan was high. Now, I feel completely numb.
I still pray all my salah, including my sunnahs, and I try to read the Qur’an here and there. But I feel nothing. I’m not where I want to be in life at all. I’m working so hard—I’m studying, applying for jobs, trying my best—but nothing is working out. Nothing is going right. And I’m usually a very grateful person. People have always said that about me. I know how to be humble. I know what it means to struggle. I’m grateful to have food in the fridge, a bed to sleep in, time to study, and good health—but other than that, it feels like I have nothing. I’m not winning in any other area.
And the future I’m working so hard for—it’s not even for me. It’s not even for money. It’s for my family. It’s for my grandparents who sacrificed so much, who worked so hard. It’s for the people I want to help, the people I want to save. I truly believe that my intentions are pure. So I don’t understand—what is going on? Why do I feel like this? I know Allah doesn’t burden a soul with more than it can bear… but I just… I’ve reached a point where it feels unbearable. Every day feels so heavy. Nothing good is happening. It’s already May—half the year is nearly gone—and I feel nothing.
Now, I’m starting to feel like I’m not even being a good friend anymore. I feel like I’m disassociating constantly. Like I’m never really present in any moment. I can’t enjoy the moment—ever. Genuinely never. This is supposed to be the final year of school, my last year of sixth form. Everyone’s crying, hugging, sad that it’s ending… and I feel nothing. I feel so disconnected from reality that I don’t even care.
I’m genuinely trying my best, and nothing seems to work. It gets to the point where I don’t even want to wake up in the morning because I don’t know what I’m waking up for. I have nothing to look forward to. Every time something starts going right, I get hopeful, I try again—and then it all just falls apart. It’s like, what’s the point?
All the studying, all the job applications, the revising for interviews—it feels like a waste of time because none of it ever works out. And I just keep asking myself, ‘What am I even doing with my life?’ I don’t know. But if anyone has been through this and has any advice, I would really appreciate it. Honestly, anything would mean a lot right now.
It seems like you may be suffering from depression. You might want to see a professional. In the meantime you can try 5HTP supplement to help with feeling down.
Allah (SWT) created you and loves you and will always love you. Even if you have made mistakes or commited sins. He is Al-Wadud, meaning "The Most Loving".
If you feel disconnected recite "Astaghfirullah wa atubu ilaih". Which means "I seek forgiveness from Allah and turn to Him in repentance".
Because in the Qur'an Allah (SWT) says :-
(71:10) Then I said, Ask forgiveness of your Lord, surely He is the most Forgiving
(71:11) He will send down upon you the cloud, pouring down abundance of rain
(71:12) And help you with wealth and sons, and make for you gardens, and make for you rivers
Our here rain also means abundant mercy
(edited 9 months ago)
Reply 4
اَلسَلامُ عَلَيْكُم وَرَحْمَةُ اَللهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ
First thing first if you haven't I'd advise making sincere dua for Allah to ease your situation.
However keep doing what ur doing and don't give it up, but try to increase the depth of it like when you read quran, if you don't know Arabic read the English translation alongside it
Or when you pray, learn what you are actually saying in your own language
And have intentions to study islam once your studies are over or maybe alongside
Main thing is to identify any sins that you may commit such as listening to music etc, this will drag you down 100%, every son of Adam is a sinner but try to cut off the evil sins for good.
Including observing proper hijab if your a female
But yeah DW in sha Allah, listen to quran more tho 100% and read the meanings and ponder upon it, it'll come to a point you'll have no time for sadness because you'll be thinking about the beautiful words of allah
First thing first if you haven't I'd advise making sincere dua for Allah to ease your situation.
However keep doing what ur doing and don't give it up, but try to increase the depth of it like when you read quran, if you don't know Arabic read the English translation alongside it
Or when you pray, learn what you are actually saying in your own language
And have intentions to study islam once your studies are over or maybe alongside
Main thing is to identify any sins that you may commit such as listening to music etc, this will drag you down 100%, every son of Adam is a sinner but try to cut off the evil sins for good.
Including observing proper hijab if your a female
But yeah DW in sha Allah, listen to quran more tho 100% and read the meanings and ponder upon it, it'll come to a point you'll have no time for sadness because you'll be thinking about the beautiful words of allah
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