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Lost all my friends to this, what do I do?

I have been getting added by a lot of bots on Snapchat that try to promote their onlyfans and always pretend they’re a real person. Last year when I was 16 I was added by a girl who has 20 snap score which is very low, in seeing this I thought it was another bot and I like to just waste their time. She said that she was 13 and I said okay and then she asked for a picture of my face. I sent a picture of my face and they sent a picture of some random girl off tiktok who I searched up and saw had a lot of followers so I knew was not this bot with 20 snap score. I then said “you look good” which I just said so the bot would keep speaking to me. They then asked to meet up and I was confused by this, to see what would happen I gave them a location and they said they could go there on a specific day, I was very confused as bots don’t normally do this. Just in case this was a real 13 year old and not a bot (which I knew was highly unlikely) I said “Why do you want to meet?” I then said “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you if we meet since you’re too young” they then said “I don’t think we should meet then” I wanted to see why this bot wanted to meet so said “no no we should still meet” I then went there the next day and it was 2 boys from my high school who are now sending screenshots of the chat and the part where I said “you look good” while leaving out the “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you since you’re too young” they have sent it to many in my high school and I lost all my friends since everyone thinks I am a pred. I feel horribly about this, and I truly didn’t think and thought it was a bot, I am not attracted to people that age.

Reply 1

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by yemigrant31
I have been getting added by a lot of bots on Snapchat that try to promote their onlyfans and always pretend they’re a real person. Last year when I was 16 I was added by a girl who has 20 snap score which is very low, in seeing this I thought it was another bot and I like to just waste their time. She said that she was 13 and I said okay and then she asked for a picture of my face. I sent a picture of my face and they sent a picture of some random girl off tiktok who I searched up and saw had a lot of followers so I knew was not this bot with 20 snap score. I then said “you look good” which I just said so the bot would keep speaking to me. They then asked to meet up and I was confused by this, to see what would happen I gave them a location and they said they could go there on a specific day, I was very confused as bots don’t normally do this. Just in case this was a real 13 year old and not a bot (which I knew was highly unlikely) I said “Why do you want to meet?” I then said “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you if we meet since you’re too young” they then said “I don’t think we should meet then” I wanted to see why this bot wanted to meet so said “no no we should still meet” I then went there the next day and it was 2 boys from my high school who are now sending screenshots of the chat and the part where I said “you look good” while leaving out the “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you since you’re too young” they have sent it to many in my high school and I lost all my friends since everyone thinks I am a pred. I feel horribly about this, and I truly didn’t think and thought it was a bot, I am not attracted to people that age.

Yeah icl you're done for. You don't have anything to back yourself up. After they said to not meet you should have just left it as that. If you wanted to know why the bot wanted to meet you could have just asked it no? Instead of meeting it.
But yeah you need some sort of proof that you were not tryna do that type of stuff bcuz if you don't then you're done for mate

Reply 2

Yeah you've really done yourself no favours here, I don't think many people would buy the 'I was just curious about the bot' excuse

As soon as you knew she was 13 you shouldn't have sent any photos imo, you shouldn't have commented on any they sent you and you absolutely 100% should not have arranged to meet and then actually went.

I'd be looking to move schools after this tbh

Reply 3

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by yemigrant31
I have been getting added by a lot of bots on Snapchat that try to promote their onlyfans and always pretend they’re a real person. Last year when I was 16 I was added by a girl who has 20 snap score which is very low, in seeing this I thought it was another bot and I like to just waste their time. She said that she was 13 and I said okay and then she asked for a picture of my face. I sent a picture of my face and they sent a picture of some random girl off tiktok who I searched up and saw had a lot of followers so I knew was not this bot with 20 snap score. I then said “you look good” which I just said so the bot would keep speaking to me. They then asked to meet up and I was confused by this, to see what would happen I gave them a location and they said they could go there on a specific day, I was very confused as bots don’t normally do this. Just in case this was a real 13 year old and not a bot (which I knew was highly unlikely) I said “Why do you want to meet?” I then said “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you if we meet since you’re too young” they then said “I don’t think we should meet then” I wanted to see why this bot wanted to meet so said “no no we should still meet” I then went there the next day and it was 2 boys from my high school who are now sending screenshots of the chat and the part where I said “you look good” while leaving out the “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you since you’re too young” they have sent it to many in my high school and I lost all my friends since everyone thinks I am a pred. I feel horribly about this, and I truly didn’t think and thought it was a bot, I am not attracted to people that age.

I don't buy the 'I thought it was a bot' stuff as you'd surely still be weary of the chance of them being real. Not really sure what your goal was here mate. Baffled by the fact you would want to meet up with 13 year old girls anyway, even if you said it 'wasn't romantically'

Reply 4

I wanted to see why this bot wanted to meet so said “no no we should still meet”
Bro what???!😭🥀:hmmmm:

Reply 5

It will all blow over. Harsh now but time great healer. We all make mistakes and you will be all the more stronger coming out of this.

Reply 6

You should be thanking them for not getting you arrested or putting you on youtube at this point.

Extremely weird behaviour icl

Reply 7

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by Anonymous
I don't buy the 'I thought it was a bot' stuff as you'd surely still be weary of the chance of them being real. Not really sure what your goal was here mate. Baffled by the fact you would want to meet up with 13 year old girls anyway, even if you said it 'wasn't romantically'

Idk what I was thinking, I was very curious to see what would happen when I went there and I never thought it could actually be a 13 year old or people trying to set me up. I realise now how stupid I was and I have no attraction to people like that

Reply 8

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by StriderHort
Yeah you've really done yourself no favours here, I don't think many people would buy the 'I was just curious about the bot' excuse
As soon as you knew she was 13 you shouldn't have sent any photos imo, you shouldn't have commented on any they sent you and you absolutely 100% should not have arranged to meet and then actually went.
I'd be looking to move schools after this tbh

Moving schools isn’t an option, I told my parents and they believe me and so does my friend from another school. I was diagnosed with autism a few months ago so I think that’s why I was so stupid and still decided to message them. I’ve grown up now and seen how bad it was and I’m not going to be that stupid again

Reply 9

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by surf_lozz
It will all blow over. Harsh now but time great healer. We all make mistakes and you will be all the more stronger coming out of this.

I honesty feel this may be wishful thinking, there's lot's of school dramas this advice would apply to, but this....eeeeee, that might not go away anytime soon or even mid term.

Reply 10

What you do is you go out there and find the people who represent the best parts of who you are as a person. Don't waste time counting on online friendships, just find people who enjoy what you enjoy doing and build relationships from that. I've had some online friendships which were really nice, but one day they deleted their Discord accounts, and then I figured that I can't trust online-only relationships to endure anymore. You gotta find what you love and be the best version of you that you can possibly be.

Reply 11

icl u kinda did this to urslelf... idk how old u are but obvs talking to a 13 year old isn't good. i guess it's a learning experience not to talk to minors (even if you think they are bots!!)

Reply 12

Unfortunately, I feel compelled to add to this thread, if only to give an example

TW : Indirectly mentions sex offences

On Friday night I got word that a guy I've known 20 years has been apparently caught in one of these child protection stings, where an adult perv thinks they're talking to a child and asking for nudes or to meet etc, and it's actually a group of adults gathering evidence waiting for them before handing them over to the police. His face has been shared all over FB etc 100s of times and I think the police smashed his door down about 2am Friday, I don't know if he is in custody or on the run. 100s of of people on local social media openly saying they'll harm him if they find him.

OP, just remember this could have easily happened to you.

Reply 13

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by StriderHort
Unfortunately, I feel compelled to add to this thread, if only to give an example
TW : Indirectly mentions sex offences
On Friday night I got word that a guy I've known 20 years has been apparently caught in one of these child protection stings, where an adult perv thinks they're talking to a child and asking for nudes or to meet etc, and it's actually a group of adults gathering evidence waiting for them before handing them over to the police. His face has been shared all over FB etc 100s of times and I think the police smashed his door down about 2am Friday, I don't know if he is in custody or on the run. 100s of of people on local social media openly saying they'll harm him if they find him.
OP, just remember this could have easily happened to you.
If he actively engaged in talk with a suspected minor, he deserved that. He was not "caught" in a sting, he committed a crime willingly, even if luckily no child was harmed or traumatised in discovering he was a *****.

Reply 14

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by yemigrant31
I have been getting added by a lot of bots on Snapchat that try to promote their onlyfans and always pretend they’re a real person. Last year when I was 16 I was added by a girl who has 20 snap score which is very low, in seeing this I thought it was another bot and I like to just waste their time. She said that she was 13 and I said okay and then she asked for a picture of my face. I sent a picture of my face and they sent a picture of some random girl off tiktok who I searched up and saw had a lot of followers so I knew was not this bot with 20 snap score. I then said “you look good” which I just said so the bot would keep speaking to me. They then asked to meet up and I was confused by this, to see what would happen I gave them a location and they said they could go there on a specific day, I was very confused as bots don’t normally do this. Just in case this was a real 13 year old and not a bot (which I knew was highly unlikely) I said “Why do you want to meet?” I then said “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you if we meet since you’re too young” they then said “I don’t think we should meet then” I wanted to see why this bot wanted to meet so said “no no we should still meet” I then went there the next day and it was 2 boys from my high school who are now sending screenshots of the chat and the part where I said “you look good” while leaving out the “I don’t want to do anything romantical with you since you’re too young” they have sent it to many in my high school and I lost all my friends since everyone thinks I am a pred. I feel horribly about this, and I truly didn’t think and thought it was a bot, I am not attracted to people that age.

if it is getting really bad I would say move schools and go under a new name, maybe the new name is too far but depending on if ur situation eases or not its up to u. As someone who had to move schools like 7 times because of my parents job I find it gives you a fresh start. I kind understand that you were probably bored and didnt mean it but meeting the 'girl' was a bit too far icl. Regardless of that, this will not last there are defo things that are way worse that could've happened so try not to stress.

Reply 15

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by Anonymous
If he actively engaged in talk with a suspected minor, he deserved that. He was not "caught" in a sting, he committed a crime willingly, even if luckily no child was harmed or traumatised in discovering he was a *****.

To be honest the details are v murky for now, normally these 'stings' have the target being directly confronted and then the evidence read for all to hear before the police arrive. In this instance they claim he evaded them and but they film outside his//someones' block of flats apparently being raided.

I can't lie I'm torn, I owe the guy at least the benefit of the doubt until I see something incriminating, but it doesn't sound good. I've been scouting fb, court rolls etc.. I can't bring myself to contact him just now :/

I'm really just trying to make clear to the OP and others that this is how quickly you can ruin your life with such choices, let alone a child's *shudder* but there are absolutely people who hunt down this stuff with a passion.

Reply 16

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by StriderHort
To be honest the details are v murky for now, normally these 'stings' have the target being directly confronted and then the evidence read for all to hear before the police arrive. In this instance they claim he evaded them and but they film outside his//someones' block of flats apparently being raided.
I can't lie I'm torn, I owe the guy at least the benefit of the doubt until I see something incriminating, but it doesn't sound good. I've been scouting fb, court rolls etc.. I can't bring myself to contact him just now :/
I'm really just trying to make clear to the OP and others that this is how quickly you can ruin your life with such choices, let alone a child's *shudder* but there are absolutely people who hunt down this stuff with a passion.

because those people they hunt down deserve punishment and often the actual police or justice system doesnt do anything. People into cartoon child ... (lolly pop word) come to mind, they deserve therapy or jail but they will never be arrested for it because its "cartoon" even though it displays clear p--- intentions.

Reply 17

i would strongly suggest not doing these online experiments to satisfy what you describe as wanting to know why a 'bot wanted to meet'. With or without Autism i would seek a real challenge in the real world where your intellectual curiosity may be satiated. In terms of your friends, if they arent giving you the benefit of the doubt nor allowing you to explain they werent really your friends as they would know you to some degree. most people however owing to the character of this incident would err on the side of caution. go get some goals and start smashing them

Reply 18

Original post
by StriderHort
Unfortunately, I feel compelled to add to this thread, if only to give an example
TW : Indirectly mentions sex offences
On Friday night I got word that a guy I've known 20 years has been apparently caught in one of these child protection stings, where an adult perv thinks they're talking to a child and asking for nudes or to meet etc, and it's actually a group of adults gathering evidence waiting for them before handing them over to the police. His face has been shared all over FB etc 100s of times and I think the police smashed his door down about 2am Friday, I don't know if he is in custody or on the run. 100s of of people on local social media openly saying they'll harm him if they find him.
OP, just remember this could have easily happened to you.
I never sent anything bad to them or even talked in a sexual way to them at all, I did the complete opposite. The only thing I should not have done was still try to meet them

Reply 19

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by yemigrant31
I never sent anything bad to them or even talked in a sexual way to them at all, I did the complete opposite. The only thing I should not have done was still try to meet them

Already told you the 3 things you did wrong.

Exchanged pics with a 13 year old.

Didn't end the convo as soon as any reference or question of sex was made.

Actually went to meet them. You haven't got any credible reason for taking things this far and the way you did the first 2 things means almost no one will believe your intentions on the 3rd thing.

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