Still no friends at college
I’ve been in Year 12 since September now. I’m 17M, and until a few weeks ago, I went all my classes, actively participate, and tried going to 2 different enrichments (LGBTQ+, and a photoshop class). I really have tried to speak to people and make friends but it’s just not working. My previous group of friends from Secondary School abandoned me at the end of Y11 due to me coming out, so I came to college completely on my own. At this point I feel like I've got no hope as I just haven't gotten close to anyone
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by BritishAirsoftI’ve been in Year 12 since September now. I’m 17M, and until a few weeks ago, I went all my classes, actively participate, and tried going to 2 different enrichments (LGBTQ+, and a photoshop class). I really have tried to speak to people and make friends but it’s just not working. My previous group of friends from Secondary School abandoned me at the end of Y11 due to me coming out, so I came to college completely on my own. At this point I feel like I've got no hope as I just haven't gotten close to anyone
First of all, I just want to say you’ve done so much already—more than most would in your position. Coming to college alone, being open about who you are, getting involved in enrichments, and still showing up for your classes—that takes a lot of strength. It really sucks that your old friends didn’t stick by you, and I’m sorry you went through that. You deserved better.
It might not feel like it right now, but the fact that you’ve tried and are still trying really matters. Some friendships take time to build, especially when everyone’s adjusting to a new environment. It’s okay if things haven’t clicked yet—it doesn’t mean they won’t. You’re not doing anything wrong.
Try not to give up on the things you enjoy. Sometimes connections grow slowly through shared spaces, like a club or even a casual chat before class. And honestly, it’s okay to feel low about it—just don’t let it convince you that you’re not worthy of friendship, because you absolutely are.
You're still early in Year 12—things can and often do change. If you ever want to talk more or need someone to vent to, feel free to reach out.
Sorry for long paragraph lol
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