Messaging on dating apps
I've been using Hinge for dating, however it seems 95% of the time I will match with someone, exchange a few messages, then they stop responding. Usually I will ask about their week, compliment them, ask about their work, or mention something on their profile. The end goal is to ask if they want to meet up such as for a coffee or walk, but they've usually already stopped answering before it gets to that. Am I doing something wrong - what exactly should I be messaging about?
Reply 1
Learn from your setbacks.
Don't ask about their week. Don't compliment them. Don't ask about their work. Change the style of what you say about their profile. Having a bit of jokey banter about something they said or something in one of their photos is OK.
Don't send the sort of message that your grandmother would send.
As soon as you get a positive response, move on to your "closing" sequence, starting off with a soft close along the lines of "How do you feel about coffee and witty banter with cute boys?"
In parallel with that, take every opportunity you get to interact with women in the real world. So that you're not reliant on online. This will help you have to have the right sort of "take it or leave it" attitude to online dating.
It's great that you're exchanging a few messages. A lot of guys struggle to get even that far.
Don't ask about their week. Don't compliment them. Don't ask about their work. Change the style of what you say about their profile. Having a bit of jokey banter about something they said or something in one of their photos is OK.
Don't send the sort of message that your grandmother would send.
As soon as you get a positive response, move on to your "closing" sequence, starting off with a soft close along the lines of "How do you feel about coffee and witty banter with cute boys?"
In parallel with that, take every opportunity you get to interact with women in the real world. So that you're not reliant on online. This will help you have to have the right sort of "take it or leave it" attitude to online dating.
It's great that you're exchanging a few messages. A lot of guys struggle to get even that far.
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