Boyfriend issue

So I have a boyfriend who I’ve dated for 6 months now, we are really close and see each other almost everyday. Or each others birthdays and Christmas we bought each other loads, he buys me flowers all the time and pays for my food, but I think I’m just not that into it all anymore. I’m young (18) and want to be free. I feel really guilty because I have feelings for other guys and have acted on them before but I feel like I can’t break up with him because he’s so in love and obsessed with me (he’s wanting to get my name tattooed)

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

So I have a boyfriend who I’ve dated for 6 months now, we are really close and see each other almost everyday. Or each others birthdays and Christmas we bought each other loads, he buys me flowers all the time and pays for my food, but I think I’m just not that into it all anymore. I’m young (18) and want to be free. I feel really guilty because I have feelings for other guys and have acted on them before but I feel like I can’t break up with him because he’s so in love and obsessed with me (he’s wanting to get my name tattooed)

u have totell him eventually for both ur sakes, so u wont be unhappy with ur partner and be lilmited to what u want, and so he can find someone who feels the same for him. i say sit him down and talk about it, make sure ur kind and understanding if he gets upset or even angry.which he might. be completely honest, yes he will be heartbroken, but do it now before u guys get more locked in if u get what i mean?

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Crazy Jamie

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Original post by Anonymous

So I have a boyfriend who I’ve dated for 6 months now, we are really close and see each other almost everyday. Or each others birthdays and Christmas we bought each other loads, he buys me flowers all the time and pays for my food, but I think I’m just not that into it all anymore. I’m young (18) and want to be free. I feel really guilty because I have feelings for other guys and have acted on them before but I feel like I can’t break up with him because he’s so in love and obsessed with me (he’s wanting to get my name tattooed)

The feelings of the other person are not a good reason not to break up with someone. Ultimately a person who loves you or is really into you wants those feelings to be reciprocated anyway, but irrespective, if you are not happy in a relationship then you should end that relationship. It's pretty much as simple as that, because a relationship has no sort of future when one person doesn't want to be in it. Yes, he will be hurt, but that's the nature of relationships. Most of them end, and heart break is one of the emotions that nearly everyone has to go through at some point. He'll be fine eventually. But more to the point, you deserve to be in a relationship that you are happy in. If this one isn't doing it for you and you either want to be in a relationship with someone else or want to play the field and be single for a bit, that's entirely up to you. Your own happiness should absolutely be your priority.

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Original post by Anonymous

u have totell him eventually for both ur sakes, so u wont be unhappy with ur partner and be lilmited to what u want, and so he can find someone who feels the same for him. i say sit him down and talk about it, make sure ur kind and understanding if he gets upset or even angry.which he might. be completely honest, yes he will be heartbroken, but do it now before u guys get more locked in if u get what i mean?

I don’t want to sit him down and I’d it all the bad things I’ve done (unfaithfulness) because he will spread this and I don’t want everyone to have such a bad image of me, I’d rather end things on good terms but I’m unsure how

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

I don’t want to sit him down and I’d it all the bad things I’ve done (unfaithfulness) because he will spread this and I don’t want everyone to have such a bad image of me, I’d rather end things on good terms but I’m unsure how

No offence but weren't you thinking of that before being unfaithful?
I think you should tell him before he gets your name on his hands or wherever cause it will be worse if he does it and finds out what you have been doing behind his back

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ageshallnot

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Original post by Anonymous

I don’t want to sit him down and I’d it all the bad things I’ve done (unfaithfulness) because he will spread this and I don’t want everyone to have such a bad image of me, I’d rather end things on good terms but I’m unsure how

Are you going off to university?

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Anonymous #4

Original post by Anonymous

So I have a boyfriend who I’ve dated for 6 months now, we are really close and see each other almost everyday. Or each others birthdays and Christmas we bought each other loads, he buys me flowers all the time and pays for my food, but I think I’m just not that into it all anymore. I’m young (18) and want to be free. I feel really guilty because I have feelings for other guys and have acted on them before but I feel like I can’t break up with him because he’s so in love and obsessed with me (he’s wanting to get my name tattooed)

You’ll be doing more harm than good dragging a relationship that is one sided on. As much as it will hurt him, do what’s right and let him go so he has time to work through his feelings and eventually move on. To be honest, as much as you don’t want to tell him the truth because you’re worried of the repercussions, be mature and take accountability, he deserves that at least. Sadly unfaithfulness is very common nowadays so I doubt the people closest to you will think of you differently or stop being friends. And if it’s other random peoples opinions that you care about, then i think you need to reevaluate your priorities to be fair.

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AwesomeSillyBoy

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Original post by Anonymous

I don’t want to sit him down and I’d it all the bad things I’ve done (unfaithfulness) because he will spread this and I don’t want everyone to have such a bad image of me, I’d rather end things on good terms but I’m unsure how

just dont tell him u cheated/were unfaithful (whatever u did idk) but break up with him and just say u lost interest

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