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I was taking to this one guy I’m 14 he’s 16 and I think he likes me because he always stays close to me and if I move somewhere he follows me. He also stays up really late to talk to me I kinda like him but I’m not sure what to do because I’m not good at making the first move 😭

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TheMaruanaTrench

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Original post by Ilikehellokitty

I was taking to this one guy I’m 14 he’s 16 and I think he likes me because he always stays close to me and if I move somewhere he follows me. He also stays up really late to talk to me I kinda like him but I’m not sure what to do because I’m not good at making the first move 😭

Follow him home

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Kanushi09

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Original post by TheMaruanaTrench

Follow him home

I'm guessing you like the stalker trope. yeah, don't do that Ilikehellokitty.

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Ilikehellokitty

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Original post by Kanushi09

I'm guessing you like the stalker trope. yeah, don't do that Ilikehellokitty.

Alr😭

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anosmianAcrimony

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If he did anything with you it would be weird and potentially illegal. Better to focus on your studies for the moment.

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Kanushi09

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Original post by anosmianAcrimony

If he did anything with you it would be weird and potentially illegal. Better to focus on your studies for the moment.

Yes, i agree

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Ilikehellokitty

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Original post by Kanushi09

Yes, i agree

In my state you can date as long as it isn’t 4 year age gap or older you just can’t do anything sexual till the age of consent which is 16

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Ilikehellokitty

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Original post by Kanushi09

Yes, i agree

Also I’m 14 I’m not even thinking about sex😭😭😭😭

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Anonymous #1

Original post by Ilikehellokitty

Also I’m 14 I’m not even thinking about sex😭😭😭😭

babes she meant sexual
it’s a little bit different and you caught me off guard ☠️❌

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Ilikehellokitty

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Original post by Anonymous

babes she meant sexual
it’s a little bit different and you caught me off guard ☠️❌

Mb😭🙏

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morteamie

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Original post by Kanushi09

I'm guessing you like the stalker trope. yeah, don't do that Ilikehellokitty.

istg i see you everywhere, LMAO

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Anonymous #1

Original post by morteamie

istg i see you everywhere, LMAO

just take a look at the subjects they take

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Kanushi09

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Original post by Ilikehellokitty

Also I’m 14 I’m not even thinking about sex😭😭😭😭

I didnt say anything about sex. I just agreed to anosmianAcrimony as even though 14 and 16 isnt too bad of an age gap, u guys are at like different stages of life so it would be kinda weird

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Kanushi09

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Original post by Anonymous

just take a look at the subjects they take

Whats wrong with the subjects i take?

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Ilikehellokitty

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Yea yesterday I found out one of my friends (shes 13) is dating a 24 year old and i tell her that’s illegal and she refuses to break up with him saying it’s true love and she keeps saying “ well you like a 16 year old and you’re 14” as if that’s as bad and I told him yesterday i just wanted to be friends and he said he was fine with that.

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Ilikehellokitty

Yea yesterday I found out one of my friends (shes 13) is dating a 24 year old and i tell her that’s illegal and she refuses to break up with him saying it’s true love and she keeps saying “ well you like a 16 year old and you’re 14” as if that’s as bad and I told him yesterday i just wanted to be friends and he said he was fine with that.

Jesus Christ, if it's true about your friend, she's being groomed and you need to tell someone ASAP e.g. a parent, trusted adult at school etc. because that man is a paedophile and she needs help. She may not be happy be happy with you at first if you report it, but in the long run she'll be grateful for it.

Regarding the age gap between 14 and 16? I personally cannot understand why a 16 year old boy is potentially looking to date a 14 year old. I assume you're in year 9/10? and this boy is in year 11? I understand you're not thinking about sex or anything like that now, but if you guys did start dating and either one of you were interested in pursuing a sexual relationship then it wouldn't be legal to do so for 2 years. I think there is a large difference between the maturity level, and life experiences of a 14 year old vs a 16 year old. To some, they may not see the 'problem' with the age gap, but if I were to ask people I know (and there have been cases I've seen within my secondary school were someone who was 16 was dating a 14 year old) the general consensus would be and was that the older person was strange.

I'm 19 now, and couldn't fathom dating a 17 year old because those are two different maturity levels and we'd both be at drastically different stages in our lives. Even looking back at when I was 17, I was less mature and a completely different person than I am today - the same comparison could be drawn from when I was 16 compared to 14.

Perhaps this boy just wants to be friends, I don't know. Ultimately, the decision is up to you whether you would be willing to enter a romantic relationship with him, but don't let him take advantage of you and prepared to receive judgement from other people. Genuinely, I can hardly remember being 14 or 16, but I certainly wouldn't have been pursuing a relationship with a 14 year old at 16, or with a 16 year old at 14.

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Anonymous #2

Sorry, I just read now that you've both accepted to being friends. But please alert someone about your friend's relationship. At the moment, she will feel like the relationship is healthy and she may be happy but at some point in the future, she is going to realise that she was groomed and may struggle to come to terms with that. I couldn't imagine how much trauma she's going to end up dealing with after all of this. No 24 year old man should be dating a 13 year old.

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Ilikehellokitty

Yea yesterday I found out one of my friends (shes 13) is dating a 24 year old and i tell her that’s illegal and she refuses to break up with him saying it’s true love and she keeps saying “ well you like a 16 year old and you’re 14” as if that’s as bad and I told him yesterday i just wanted to be friends and he said he was fine with that.

A 24 YR OLD
help sorry wtfff

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Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

Sorry, I just read now that you've both accepted to being friends. But please alert someone about your friend's relationship. At the moment, she will feel like the relationship is healthy and she may be happy but at some point in the future, she is going to realise that she was groomed and may struggle to come to terms with that. I couldn't imagine how much trauma she's going to end up dealing with after all of this. No 24 year old man should be dating a 13 year old.

i agree w this sm - the levels of maturity difference between a 13 yo and a 24 yo is crazy, and im guessing the 24 yr old doesnt have the best intentions thats so emssed up

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Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

i agree w this sm - the levels of maturity difference between a 13 yo and a 24 yo is crazy, and im guessing the 24 yr old doesnt have the best intentions thats so emssed up

Yeah, it's actually really sad omg - my jaw dropped when I read it. 14 and 16 is one thing, but 24 and 13 is absolutely morally, ethically, and legally wrong.

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