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Very sulky friend

Hey so I moved school at the start of year 12 and I had trouble making friends. The school is very small less than 100 in my year and I just find I don’t really click with the people. I met this girl that I get along with well enough but I found that she’s very sulky. (I’ll call her girl A). I’ve noticed that when she has a conflict with friends little or big she just sulks completely blocks them out and doesn’t tell them what they did wrong.

I remember one of the first time she did this was when another girl refused to share her pens in a joking manner. Girl A then blew up the situation and threatened to bash her head in called her greedy and so on. I was taken aback but lots of the girls said that this was “normal behaviour” form her. IDK why I still stayed her friends but I think it was that I was afraid to be alone.

Anyways flash forward to this last week, another girl I made friends with (Girl B) found girl As secret account. We went through it because we were curious. We didn’t leave any bad or nasty comments but Girl B did view Girl As story. When I went home I took a deeper dive into the secret account because I just wanted to know more about Girl A. Now this week, Girl A has stopped talking with me and interacting with me. Idk what I did but I have a sneaking suspicion it’s to do with the account. I found the account days before and was still in good terms after but now she just is completely blanking me.

Idk what to do I don’t really think talking to her will help as she’s just grunted and shrugged me off. Should I even bother with the friendship because I have less than a year left with her at school.

Reply 1

hii i hope ur good!
sounds like a slightly tough situation - honestly if this person is someone who can't really take a joke, and is quite sensitive it might be best to slightly distance yourself
first of all - did person A have a big input towards ur school year? r they someone u would say u r quite close to?
secondly - maybe girl A has something else on her mind, as you mentioned she seems to be a bit sensitive - if you do think this friendship is worth saving, then i'd do recommend trying to talk to person A once again - now im not aware what was on the secret account but i do think if it was smtn quite sensitive then person A may have had a reason to feel slightly off? - but again as i said if you think the friendship is important to you , i would defo encourage you to ask her again

however, ultimately if you are quite close with person B i would say stay close with person B, and still keep person A as a friend - person A may value you though it might not seem so and they may js be hurt atm, but if you don't really enjoy their presence just distance urself

sorry for the waffle i hope it helped!

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
Hey so I moved school at the start of year 12 and I had trouble making friends. The school is very small less than 100 in my year and I just find I don’t really click with the people. I met this girl that I get along with well enough but I found that she’s very sulky. (I’ll call her girl A). I’ve noticed that when she has a conflict with friends little or big she just sulks completely blocks them out and doesn’t tell them what they did wrong.
I remember one of the first time she did this was when another girl refused to share her pens in a joking manner. Girl A then blew up the situation and threatened to bash her head in called her greedy and so on. I was taken aback but lots of the girls said that this was “normal behaviour” form her. IDK why I still stayed her friends but I think it was that I was afraid to be alone.
Anyways flash forward to this last week, another girl I made friends with (Girl B) found girl As secret account. We went through it because we were curious. We didn’t leave any bad or nasty comments but Girl B did view Girl As story. When I went home I took a deeper dive into the secret account because I just wanted to know more about Girl A. Now this week, Girl A has stopped talking with me and interacting with me. Idk what I did but I have a sneaking suspicion it’s to do with the account. I found the account days before and was still in good terms after but now she just is completely blanking me.
Idk what to do I don’t really think talking to her will help as she’s just grunted and shrugged me off. Should I even bother with the friendship because I have less than a year left with her at school.
okay i might cry but I won’t.
I wrote down the most beautiful, divine piece of fiction that related to girl A and girl B which was severely captivating. It was a story of a criminal syndicate (mafia boss). It also presented striking visuals and a gripping narrative. I will plan the funeral tomorrow, whoever wants to attend can read my second draft for free…(no I won’t let you out of my basement)

Reply 3

Original post by Anonymous
hii i hope ur good!
sounds like a slightly tough situation - honestly if this person is someone who can't really take a joke, and is quite sensitive it might be best to slightly distance yourself
first of all - did person A have a big input towards ur school year? r they someone u would say u r quite close to?
secondly - maybe girl A has something else on her mind, as you mentioned she seems to be a bit sensitive - if you do think this friendship is worth saving, then i'd do recommend trying to talk to person A once again - now im not aware what was on the secret account but i do think if it was smtn quite sensitive then person A may have had a reason to feel slightly off? - but again as i said if you think the friendship is important to you , i would defo encourage you to ask her again
however, ultimately if you are quite close with person B i would say stay close with person B, and still keep person A as a friend - person A may value you though it might not seem so and they may js be hurt atm, but if you don't really enjoy their presence just distance urself
sorry for the waffle i hope it helped!


I don’t really talk to anyone outside of school but girl A was the one who I talked to the most. I am. It wasn’t super close to her. I haven’t told her anything too personal.

Her secret account did have some personal information BUT she did post her face and has shared it with one other new boy at our school. In the past she shared it with more people but they’ve all left so not nobody really knows about it. If I really wanted to find the account I could have with thorough research so it wasn’t really private. It has over 6000 followers.

Thanks for your help tho :smile:

Reply 4

Original post by Anonymous
I don’t really talk to anyone outside of school but girl A was the one who I talked to the most. I am. It wasn’t super close to her. I haven’t told her anything too personal.
Her secret account did have some personal information BUT she did post her face and has shared it with one other new boy at our school. In the past she shared it with more people but they’ve all left so not nobody really knows about it. If I really wanted to find the account I could have with thorough research so it wasn’t really private. It has over 6000 followers.
Thanks for your help tho :smile:

right right in that case i think its best to dastance urself- 6k fllwers isnt rlly private i agree

Reply 5

Original post by Anonymous
Hey so I moved school at the start of year 12 and I had trouble making friends. The school is very small less than 100 in my year and I just find I don’t really click with the people. I met this girl that I get along with well enough but I found that she’s very sulky. (I’ll call her girl A). I’ve noticed that when she has a conflict with friends little or big she just sulks completely blocks them out and doesn’t tell them what they did wrong.
I remember one of the first time she did this was when another girl refused to share her pens in a joking manner. Girl A then blew up the situation and threatened to bash her head in called her greedy and so on. I was taken aback but lots of the girls said that this was “normal behaviour” form her. IDK why I still stayed her friends but I think it was that I was afraid to be alone.
Anyways flash forward to this last week, another girl I made friends with (Girl B) found girl As secret account. We went through it because we were curious. We didn’t leave any bad or nasty comments but Girl B did view Girl As story. When I went home I took a deeper dive into the secret account because I just wanted to know more about Girl A. Now this week, Girl A has stopped talking with me and interacting with me. Idk what I did but I have a sneaking suspicion it’s to do with the account. I found the account days before and was still in good terms after but now she just is completely blanking me.
Idk what to do I don’t really think talking to her will help as she’s just grunted and shrugged me off. Should I even bother with the friendship because I have less than a year left with her at school.

Shes toxic. Distance yourself from these kind of friends. They drain the life out of you. The moment you realize it, you are no longer the usual you. And the worst? You dont even know if you can become the past bubbly you.

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