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Boyfriend (M 22) is following girls why doing a study abroad

My boyfriend (22) and I (23) have been long distance for almost 5 years, so we’re not strangers to this. After the troubles of navigating a LDR, we’ve been at a point for a couple years now where we’ve worked out most issues and are chilling. However, he comes from an extremely wealthy family and travels almost monthly. He recently went to go on a study abroad in Japan for 9 days. This has been difficult for me, as I’m recently graduated and have a job lined up that starts after summer. So I’m bored, while he’s having all of these experiences. He made a comment, “all the girls said I have a good face card” and was essentially bragging about all the other students they met up with in the country thought he was hot. Then, as I’m on edge and had a feeling, I checked his instagram and see he’s mutuals with over ten girls he met there.

I barely get to talk to him due to the time difference and between that and the comments he’s making I’m feeling very lonley and anxiety ridden. I know he wouldn’t cheat but I don’t understand why he needs to get girls instagrams and being so much farther away and barely communicating is making this whole experience hard for me. He’s also planning on doing a months long one in the future. I don’t know, am I being extra for being upset/ stressed over this? I want him to have a nice experience, but I don’t appreciate the vibes I’m getting.

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by Anonymous
My boyfriend (22) and I (23) have been long distance for almost 5 years, so we’re not strangers to this. After the troubles of navigating a LDR, we’ve been at a point for a couple years now where we’ve worked out most issues and are chilling. However, he comes from an extremely wealthy family and travels almost monthly. He recently went to go on a study abroad in Japan for 9 days. This has been difficult for me, as I’m recently graduated and have a job lined up that starts after summer. So I’m bored, while he’s having all of these experiences. He made a comment, “all the girls said I have a good face card” and was essentially bragging about all the other students they met up with in the country thought he was hot. Then, as I’m on edge and had a feeling, I checked his instagram and see he’s mutuals with over ten girls he met there.
I barely get to talk to him due to the time difference and between that and the comments he’s making I’m feeling very lonley and anxiety ridden. I know he wouldn’t cheat but I don’t understand why he needs to get girls instagrams and being so much farther away and barely communicating is making this whole experience hard for me. He’s also planning on doing a months long one in the future. I don’t know, am I being extra for being upset/ stressed over this? I want him to have a nice experience, but I don’t appreciate the vibes I’m getting.

Hi, i don't have much experience but i would be sooo upset, what matters is that he still has time for you. Unless this is constant and he's with other girls but yeah try to spend as much time as possible. Hope it helps!!

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