am i in the wrong? PLEASE HELP!
okay so me and this one girl, lets call her , pineapple have been best friends since year 7 - like solid. we had a bit of a break up in yr 8 due to fgs but that is slightly irrelevant to this situation ( js a bit of waffle lol sorry )
this is a bit long -
so im in yr 11, and we have prom coming up after GCSEs - and me and pineapple have been talking of going together since the beginning of yr 10, as obviously we've heard the hype abt it and stuff
so id aways told her like omg well go prom tg and well have a sleepover tg the night before so i can do our nails, and then the next day we can get ready together, wtvr yap yap - ultimately the point was we had planned we would get ready together
bear in mind this conversation has been happening since year 10 - at this time my boyfriend at the time ( we r no longer tg ) and me had had a major argument because he was insisting to go prom w me, but i told him i wanted to go prom with pineapple bc my bfs and i's relationship was rlly private so ppl in my year did not know - and anyways i wanted to go with my best friend bc who else would i want to go w more. as well as this ( being brown ), my parents did not know abt this rs so it just wasnt rlly feasable going to prom w him
anyways flashforward to about the beginning of may, end of april - i decided to text pineapple js checking if we were still down with what we had decided as then id plan stuff accordingly for the days leading up to prom
so she begins with OMG I ACC PROMISED APPLE THAT ID GET READY W HER SORRY
okay so ik shes said sorry here but let me give some context about apple - first of all theyve known each other since primary - which is fair, but regardless pineapple had agreed to go with me since beginning of yr 10
so i wa slike oh okay lol , obvio a bit upset coz this was v diff to what i had imagined her to say - she says " oh dont try to make me feel guilty i already do "
and then had the audacity to go BUT u can come round and do my nails the night before!!
...maybe js me overreacting but that was not the right moment to say this at all
i js felt so so deceived like genuinley bc imo getting ready tg w ur friends for prom is so fun and like so exciting and now ive been left alone and she never gave me a proper apology
as well as this she told me she didnt want to tell me she was getting ready w apple coz she KNEW that id be upset and how she didnt have the guts to tell apple.
but somehow, being my bsf, she has the guts to say no to me?
i honestly dk if i couldve made it any clearer that wed planned getting ready tg for so long; as i mentioned above i told her wed do our nails together
SOMEHOW she remembered that but not the whole promise abt getting ready w me and wtvr
also note! we had this convo abt prom like us getting ready together SEVERAL times - mostly in yr 11..
as well as this shes been lowk jarring at skl but ultimately i need help!
this is a bit long -
so im in yr 11, and we have prom coming up after GCSEs - and me and pineapple have been talking of going together since the beginning of yr 10, as obviously we've heard the hype abt it and stuff
so id aways told her like omg well go prom tg and well have a sleepover tg the night before so i can do our nails, and then the next day we can get ready together, wtvr yap yap - ultimately the point was we had planned we would get ready together
bear in mind this conversation has been happening since year 10 - at this time my boyfriend at the time ( we r no longer tg ) and me had had a major argument because he was insisting to go prom w me, but i told him i wanted to go prom with pineapple bc my bfs and i's relationship was rlly private so ppl in my year did not know - and anyways i wanted to go with my best friend bc who else would i want to go w more. as well as this ( being brown ), my parents did not know abt this rs so it just wasnt rlly feasable going to prom w him
anyways flashforward to about the beginning of may, end of april - i decided to text pineapple js checking if we were still down with what we had decided as then id plan stuff accordingly for the days leading up to prom
so she begins with OMG I ACC PROMISED APPLE THAT ID GET READY W HER SORRY
okay so ik shes said sorry here but let me give some context about apple - first of all theyve known each other since primary - which is fair, but regardless pineapple had agreed to go with me since beginning of yr 10
so i wa slike oh okay lol , obvio a bit upset coz this was v diff to what i had imagined her to say - she says " oh dont try to make me feel guilty i already do "
and then had the audacity to go BUT u can come round and do my nails the night before!!
...maybe js me overreacting but that was not the right moment to say this at all
i js felt so so deceived like genuinley bc imo getting ready tg w ur friends for prom is so fun and like so exciting and now ive been left alone and she never gave me a proper apology
as well as this she told me she didnt want to tell me she was getting ready w apple coz she KNEW that id be upset and how she didnt have the guts to tell apple.
but somehow, being my bsf, she has the guts to say no to me?
i honestly dk if i couldve made it any clearer that wed planned getting ready tg for so long; as i mentioned above i told her wed do our nails together
SOMEHOW she remembered that but not the whole promise abt getting ready w me and wtvr
also note! we had this convo abt prom like us getting ready together SEVERAL times - mostly in yr 11..
as well as this shes been lowk jarring at skl but ultimately i need help!
Reply 1
sorry quick fllw up!, again, i js feel so lonely and like dk what to do - because i feel like discussing this situation with her again is slightly pointless
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also i forgot to mention she offered max twice very half heartedly to decline her plans with apple, but i told her she couldnt back out of a promise she had made
although i should have confronted her abt the promise she had made i was so upset i genuinley forgot until i had this whole convo replaying in my head
Reply 2
I dont think you're in the wrong!! If she can uphold her promise to apple she could've done the same for you when apple asked her. Could you go as a trio?? is that an option?? but either way, pineapple is in the wrong imo
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
I dont think you're in the wrong!! If she can uphold her promise to apple she could've done the same for you when apple asked her. Could you go as a trio?? is that an option?? but either way, pineapple is in the wrong imo
the thing is apple isnt the best fan of me!
and i dont want to itnerfere in their plans - it doesnt seem as if she wanted me to be there anyways.. as she never offered for me to join the two of them!
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
the thing is apple isnt the best fan of me!
and i dont want to itnerfere in their plans - it doesnt seem as if she wanted me to be there anyways.. as she never offered for me to join the two of them!
and i dont want to itnerfere in their plans - it doesnt seem as if she wanted me to be there anyways.. as she never offered for me to join the two of them!
but ty this makes me feel a tiny bit better that im not overreacting <3
Reply 5
I don’t like those kind of people. They just want to use you for benefits and for their own personal gains. We call them an “opporturnist”, or the phrase “fair-weather friends”. That friend could be considered opportunistic or self-serving. Being an exploiter is selfish and unethical. Drop that friend, or even better, show them that they crossed boundaries. Best way to SILENCE these peeps are to eliminate them from your life and by not giving them access to you or any sort. Tell them to their face that they’re fake. Period.
Reply 6
Turn to God
Reply 7
wait looking back that was harsh. I apologise, i just think I know everything about everybody because I’m so observant and ive been stuck with a fake friend for 5+ years and it ruined me… still in that friendship (if it even exists)
Reply 8
Original post by Anonymous
wait looking back that was harsh. I apologise, i just think I know everything about everybody because I’m so observant and ive been stuck with a fake friend for 5+ years and it ruined me… still in that friendship (if it even exists)
no igu completely and dw u werent harsh - its js the reality
iths situation lowk showed me i was the second option to her and she didnt really keep her word- coz its exam season im lucky to be on study leave so idr see her much and i dont text her anymore
im not rlly talkative w her at skl but also shes being jarring for no reason
Reply 9
Original post by Anonymous
Turn to God
REAL, had to ask god why this happened to me and ponder thru life
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
no igu completely and dw u werent harsh - its js the reality
iths situation lowk showed me i was the second option to her and she didnt really keep her word- coz its exam season im lucky to be on study leave so idr see her much and i dont text her anymore
im not rlly talkative w her at skl but also shes being jarring for no reason
iths situation lowk showed me i was the second option to her and she didnt really keep her word- coz its exam season im lucky to be on study leave so idr see her much and i dont text her anymore
im not rlly talkative w her at skl but also shes being jarring for no reason
Your vocabulary is very interesting. Whenever I read your abbreviations, it automatically clicks in my brain. I used to be like this, but when I transitioned for a more formal tone and language, my English literature grade went from a U to an 8 (based on a true story).
Reply 11
Original post by Anonymous
Your vocabulary is very interesting. Whenever I read your abbreviations, it automatically clicks in my brain. I used to be like this, but when I transitioned for a more formal tone and language, my English literature grade went from a U to an 8 (based on a true story).
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